Prayer Requests 2-6-21

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Psalm 4

For the director of music. With stringed instruments. A psalm of David.

Answer me when I call to you,
    my righteous God.
   Give me relief from my distress;
    have mercy on me and hear my prayer.

How long will you people turn my glory into shame?
    How long will you love delusions and seek false gods?
Know that the Lord has set apart his faithful servant for himself;
    the Lord hears when I call to him.

Tremble and do not sin;
    when you are on your beds,
    search your hearts and be silent.
Offer the sacrifices of the righteous
    and trust in the Lord.

Many, Lord, are asking, “Who will bring us prosperity?”
    Let the light of your face shine on us.
Fill my heart with joy
    when their grain and new wine abound.

In peace I will lie down and sleep,
    for you alone, Lord,
    make me dwell in safety.

8 thoughts on “Prayer Requests 2-6-21

  1. Please pray that everything will go well with my phone call appointment with Social Security on Monday, particularly that I will be able to easily understand the person I speak with. (I’m hoping that the pleasant man I spoke with on Friday will be the one to call.)

    In Hubby’s files, he had a paper from SS showing how much he would have received when he retired. I looked up the percentage of that that I would be eligible for at age 60, and figured out how much that would be. That’s how much I “paid” myself each month from the life insurance money. I’ve looked at that, and figured it all out again, three times over the past three-plus years, because I would begin to doubt myself, but each time, it was the same figure.

    So another of my prayers is that what I am eligible for will really be at the very least what I already figured out and have been counting on. It would be wonderful if, due to Hubby having worked some more time after receiving that paper, and perhaps a cost-of-living increase that may have happened between then and now, that what I can get will be even a little more than what I have figured. (But I don’t want to be greedy, so I would be content with my original figure.)

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  2. I tried to call my nephew E, my sister’s firstborn, tonight. After a couple of chatty calls late last year, I figured I need to talk to him directly (but carefully) about the situation with my sister. I don’t want to speak to him in a way that would disrespect her or lead him to do so; however, I have been “investing” in that family for more than 20 years, and the emotionally mature siblings have been shut out (plus one more is simply too busy and too far away to have much connection with any of us). There really isn’t anyone in a good position to make sure she’s OK and that the young people are OK. I don’t want to simply cease contact with the children as though I don’t care about them anymore, and I believe this mature young man is probably the best person to “hear” that I still care and perhaps to help me find ways to translate that.

    And that’s how I’ve decided to appeal to him–that I need his help. Anyway, tonight he answered the phone but said it wasn’t a good time to talk since he has a friend over, so could I call him tomorrow afternoon? (Incidentally, in that he showed a maturity his mother has never shown. When I’d call their house, one of the children would answer, and I’d ask if their mom was available, and nearly always the answer was no. Not “try back in half an hour” or “she’ll call you back,” just no, she isn’t available. The first year or so after her husband’s death, I tried calling her every week and usually ended up being more like every two weeks–but she’d only come to the phone about every third attempt, so after 18 months or so I cut back to calling about once a month, and then she told me that I didn’t call her very often. I understood, she was in grief, but it has been nearly eight years now, and before our contact stopped completely in the fall, she still never called me and when I called she often told her children to tell me “no,” she wasn’t available, but without passing on a better time to try to reach her.)

    Anyway, if you could pray that I will reach E, that we can talk, and that I will say the right things and not say the wrong things, that would be good. Telephone is not my preferred or best medium; it just happens to be the best option for this, since we can’t see them in person. I don’t know if he knows his mom and I have had conflict; I know he knows she cut off our brother a few years ago (and he is still refused any contact), but at one point she told me he didn’t know about us, and I don’t know if that is still true. I would like at least to have contact with the adult children who are still at home, one of whom turns 20 midweek, but frankly I don’t want to attempt any contact with that home without a better sense of what is going on.

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  3. Lifting up your requests, Kizzie, and Cheryl. May God/Holy Spirit bring out the Fruit of the Spifit in conversations, understanding in a Godly way rather than fleshly way, and supernatural wisdom that only He can grant you. May His peace and contentment settle in your hearts after your conversations have ended. May anything left unresolved have a future appointment scheduled in God’s timing for His best resolution. Praying in Jesus’ name, Amen

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  4. Thank you to those who prayed. The conversation didn’t go quite as I would have envisioned, but was very, very good. He already did know of the conflict (a few months ago, my sister told me her second son knew and her oldest–who had moved out–did not), but I think I was able to let him see my heart for their family. He told me some things that really showed me his mother’s intensity, and I think I successfully communicated that she and I have discussed “manipulation” more than enough.

    I used an analogy and said, “Imagine that your mother has accused you of a sin . . . let’s say she calls and says, ‘Son, I think you have a problem with honesty.’ And she tells you three instances of her concern. You tell her, ‘Mom, in the first instance, I couldn’t tell you the whole story since it would have been violating someone else’s secret to say anything more, but I wasn’t lying even if I couldn’t communicate the situation as clearly as I would have liked. In the second instance, this is what happened, and here is what happened in the third.’ Two weeks later she calls and says, ‘I still think you have a problem with honesty, and here are some more examples.’ You answer all of her examples. At that point she basically has just one more thing to do–she needs to let it go and not bring it up to you again, but she can pray and tell God,’If he really does have a problem with honesty, could you convict him of it?’ and then move on.”

    I told him that on the manipulation front, she has been giving me examples for two years and more, and I’ve answered them, that most of them weren’t even manipulation (by definition), but I’ve explained the situations. I told him I’d told her I’ve answered her accusation, and rejected it, and she can either accept my answer or figure I’m wrong but now it is between me and God, and let it go. I told him my husband has also told her she can’t bring this up to me again. I’m not unwilling to talk about other things, depending on the circumstances, but she kept telling me her main concern is my manipulation and everything else falls under that. Well, my husband of going on ten years, who has been with me 24/7 for more than nine years, says he hasn’t seen me be manipulative. My best friend from college and my best friend from Nashville have both said, “Um, no, I don’t like manipulative people, and if you were one, we wouldn’t be friends.” That’s not to say I have never ever manipulated anyone, or attempted to, but it surely should mean it’s not habitual enough to need more than two years of conversation, conversation that won’t quit until I confess something I don’t believe to be true.

    It sounds like he thinks that I can’t have any further contact with any of his siblings until she and I “work it out” and that he thinks we should work with a third party. I told him I have already tried that, twice, that the first person I contacted refused, the second person was setting up parameters that wouldn’t work for us in this pandemic and that really didn’t sound all that helpful anyway, and that she refused a third party anyway. He was surprised that she had refused a third party, but she very definitely did.

    I wasn’t asking him to do anything to attempt reconciliation–frankly that “feels” impossible because it seems like her heart is set against me. I did want him to know I love him and his siblings (and he really seemed to understand that, and said his siblings do too) and that my heart is very much FOR his mother–and there too, he seemed to understand, speaking to me as one firstborn to another, that you can’t help but care deeply about the younger ones and want to protect them. He also told me that widowhood has changed her, and that the change is affecting our relationship, which I had guessed but not in quite the way he presented it. (He did say she doesn’t trust anyone’s empathy now, because no one else has ever experienced as big a loss as she has, which rang true and fits some of what I expected.) Anything beyond that is too personal for such a forum, but the main thing is it was a good conversation.

    I told him I love him and I really like the man he has turned into, and I think that moved him. He told me he loves me, and he will be praying for this and looking for a chance to speak to his mother. Honestly, if he can even just counter some of her assessments of me by reminding her that I have loved their family through the years, that he himself has seen that, that would be valuable.

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  5. Cheryl – I’m so glad that your conversation with your nephew went so well.

    It’s sad that your sister has changed in the way she has. As a widow myself, I understand how painful and heartbreaking losing a husband is, but I also fully understand that others suffer losses or go through other serious difficulties that break their hearts, too.

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  6. Thankful to God, Cheryl. God knows the whole situation. He loves families. I have a friend whose sister quit communicating with her family and refused to even see her grandchild after it was born. I think it was a situation where she needed to be on a med but refused to get help. I think she is now in touch with people. It might be something like that which will get better with passing of time.

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