33 thoughts on “Our Daily Thread 11-12-20

  1. Good morning AJ, et al.
    Question for Phos, or anyone who has an opinion.

    How is it that someone who has spent an entire life not saying a curse word, or not even a “Heck” “darn”, “Golly gee” etc, can come out with a GD all of a sudden. without cause?
    Like, “now i’ll get into the GD bed”.
    Last night was not the first time, but only three that I know of. LindaS says she has said that before. LindaS says my mother said that once that she knows of.

    The thing that puzzles me is the appearance of that particular expletive. It is a unique curseword, not used often even by profane people. She has used that phrase three times. Each time without particular cause..

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  2. Good Morning Everyone. Yesterday was a long one.
    Technical difficulties at work. I am using Google Meet for the agents who can’t get into the office for class, I couldn’t screen share with them so they could see my power point nor when I was showing them how to price a home for sell. I felt stupid. Then to pick up a prescription at the doctor’s office, then home to get it Little Miss’ fort and “play with me MiMi”. Then, because vertigo hit, I had to take her home to Mommy (really just meet her where she works). I got to listen to a beatiful rendition of Jingle Bells all the way there.
    Last night I got a message from Mommy that she was trying to wash Little Miss’ hair, Little Miss said, “No, no, no, you’re bad. I’m going to tell Santa Claus” and then she yelled “SANTA CLAUS”. PaPa and I laughed and laughed and laughed over that one.
    I am at work already so that I can catch up and do the things I should have gotten done yesterday afternoon and didn’t.
    Ya’ll behave, ya hear.

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  3. Chas, dementia slowly destroys the brain. The frontal lobes of the brain act as control centres, helping you filter out inappropriate impulses.When dementia starts to damage that area, both speech and actions can become inappropriate. I have seen this in dementia patients many times and read of it more – in some cases, dementia patients who were veterans have reverted to war zones and murdered other patients, in other cases, nurses and residents have experienced sexual assaults from dementia patients. As nurses, we know not to judge dementia patients by their current actions, because they are not responsible.

    Chas, I know this is painful. I do have personal experience with this. I have sometimes mentioned a beloved great uncle who passed away two years ago. He was a wonderful man, a godly lay pastor who met all the requirements on I Timothy 3 for an elder, but in the past couple of years before his death, he developed dementia, Alzheimer’s to be specific. His son used to message me on FB, just because he needed to tell someone who understood what he was facing. My great uncle, who lovingly cared for his wife who had slowly died of cancer some years before, had become unpredictably violent. They once found him choking one of his great grandsons, another time he violently attacked his son, so violently that his son told me that if he hadn’t been quicker than his father, he didn’t think he would be still alive. His family had taken care of him at home, but he had to be placed in a dementia unit for the safety of those who lived him dearly. He died within weeks of being placed in the unit. At his funeral, we celebrated the hope of the ressurection more gratefully, because we had already all been mourning our loss during the living death of the man we all knew and dearly loved.

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  4. Thanx Roscuro. I am taking care of the person who was once my loving wife. It is not always like that. She still has her sweet personality. And she often says, “I’m glad I have you.” I can count the times she has said, “I love you” on my fingers. I can’t count the times she says, “I’m glad I have your”. She also says, though not often, “I don’t know what I’d dowithout you.’

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  5. Chas, treasure those times. My great uncle, before his own illness, sometimes talked to me about his wife – he and my uncle whom I cared for in the month before he died had lost their wives in the same year, so they spent time together and I would listen to them both sharing their grief. As the cancer affected my great aunt’s brain, there were days when her whole personality changed and she didn’t recognize my great uncle. But then, there were days when she was entirely lucid and knew him. He said that on one of her days when she recognized him, she said, “I’m back.” When Elvera tells you that she is glad she has you, that is her speaking. When she swears, that is the disease taking over.

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  6. Chas, to add to what Roscuro said, it is not her speaking. It is her brain using words she has heard at some point or another (in the store, on a tv show, in a book, whatever). She, in attempting to communicate, has her brain throwing out words that may or may not apply. Kind of like when we dream and odd things happen. I actually know nothing, this is my theory from watching people in nursing homes and in homes as they go down this path.

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  7. Of course, my other theory is that many of us have those words bubbling up periodically and we are able to push them back down. That happens to me anyway. I will blurt out some word though never around somebody else, immediately shocked at myself, only to realize I have thought them before. Then taking it to the Lord and asking Him to clean me up. Again.

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  8. Praying for you and Elvera, Chas, that’s all so hard.

    I have an 8:30 a.m. zoom interview with some developers so I’m up early (7 a.m., early for me somewhat these days).

    It’s a strange season with two friends facing health challenges, both my dogs just recently experiencing some intermittent leg and walking issues (which seem to resolve quickly, but still, very disconcerting right now).

    I’m also getting some random spam texts and calls, I’m deleting and blocking the senders but it’s a problem that’s increasing. I just recently put my cell on the do-not-call list and that’s helped eliminate some of them.

    One of our colleagues also had his work email account hacked so we’re being told to institute two-step verifications for all of our work and personal accounts, including amazon, FB, Twitter. And best not use text messaging as the verification method.

    At least tomorrow is Friday.

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  9. I also see what Mumsee said. I do not swear, but that doesn’t mean I don’t know how to – I just choose not to use that knowledge. I have spent too much time among those who do swear – fellow students, coworkers, people on buses – not to have learned what those words mean and where to place them in a sentence. But, if at some point, my brain can no longer properly filter my speech, I would probably shock my family with what I knew.

    There is actually a condition that affects people of all ages that can in some cases, cause them to involuntarily swear. It is called Tourette syndrome. People with Tourette’s have involuntary tics, sometimes physical*, sometimes verbal, or both. Sometimes those verbal tics can be uttering a swear word at inappropriate times. The person already has Tourette’s and already has the verbal tic, but then a swear word they have heard becomes embedded in their verbal tics. They know it is inappropriate, they do not want to do it, but they do not have voluntary control over the tic.

    *Involuntary tics that are physical can be things like blinking, clicking the tongue, head movements, etc.

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  10. Good morning, although it’s late morning. I’ve been running errands today. I was at Sam’s early, then went by the church, and then picked up Art’s meds at Kroger. The weather continues to be warm and muggy, short sleeve t-shirt weather.

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  11. Now the researchers are seeing some good news out of COVID, per Breakpoint.com:

    As Aaron Renn, a researcher with the Institute for Family Studies, pointed out back in March, pre-industrial families organized shared lives around shared labor, shared meals, shared recreation, and shared education. During the pandemic, however, families were forced to stop treating their homes as nothing more than shared bunk space and food repository. As Renn predicted, many families have now rediscovered what he calls “the productive household.” And as Wilcox believes, a backyard garden, renovations, cleaning the garage, family projects, and even board games can re-center families.

    And, maybe, instead of just leaving when conflict started, couples were forced to stay together. Maybe, they experienced the long-term relational and personal improvements that comes when conflict is faced and resolved, as opposed to running away from each other.

    https://breakpoint.org/divorce-is-down-during-covid/?

    Maybe THIS is why God shut down the world? 🙂

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  12. It so happens that I have been having this discussion with Eldest Niece, who is currently taking classes online from a Christian college. She approached me with some questions about the psychology course. To my dismay, the supposedly Biblical approach to psychology was dangerously unbiblical. It made claims approaching Gnosticism, in attempting to deny that our physical existence in a sin sick world had any effect on our mind, will or emotions. This claim is made in order to deny that mental illness has a physical cause and to claim it is entirely a spiritual matter that those with mental illness could control with enough obedience. The approach is called a dichotomy, and claims that our mind, will, and emotions are part of the spiritual side, and therefore, physical problems do not impact us enough to create spiritual challenges. She read a quote from one of the books she had to read that essentially said that even dementia patients still had the ability to know right and wrong, provided one took the right approach. It was dismaying to find the heresies of Gnosticism and legalism had become such a part of supposed Christian thought. I ended the discussion with a final thought, that Roman 8 makes it clear we struggle with the flesh so long as we live in this world, and, according to I Corinthians 15, we long for the resurrection which will change our physical bodies from mortal to immortal, from earthly to spiritual. If the physical does not affect the spiritual, then why do we wait for the ressurection?

    Essentially, to deny that our current physical bodies have any part to play in our spiritual struggles is to deny that the resurrection will release us from the fleshly lusts that war against us. Our mind, will and emotions are strongly influenced by our physical state. To deny that is more than what the Bible says, when it notes that people in a drunken or mad state did not know what they were doing or when it notes that young children do not know the difference between right and wrong. Modern so-called Biblical psychology falls into the trap that the wise Preacher warned about: “Don’t be excessively righteous, and don’t be overly wise. Why should you destroy yourself?” Ecclesiastes 7:12. As Jesus noted, the rigid righteousness of the Pharisees was not enough to save. Christ can save the broken, the blind, and the sick. He cannot save those who do not see they are broken, blind, and sick because they are trusting in their own ability to cure themselves.

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  13. Zoom meeting w/developer of homeless housing done; on to staff call in about 20 minutes.

    Poor Cowboy has an itchy ear, I put some prescription drops in it that were prescribed for Tess last time she had that problem not so long ago. But he’s trying to scratch it but the back leg just can’t make it up that high, poor guy. So I rub and scratch it while his foot responds by scratching the floor at a rapid pace to keep up. lol

    We’re all less flexible than we once were, that’s for sure.

    Although the cat was knocking utensils (from a box I keep them in, can opener, measuring spoons, etc.) off the kitchen island all the while my zoom call was going on — so there were “feed-me-NOW” crashes punctuating the entire conversation. The joys and strangeness of working from home.

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  14. Biddy Chambers lost her mind the last five years of her life. It was a particular horror to me because the weekend before I did my research, I spent with dear spiritual “parents” in CT.

    Liz has Parkinson’s and has lost most of her mind. She didn’t want anything to do with me because she was afraid her family had brought me to CT to join them in convincing her to go into a nursing home.

    My heart was broken seeing this dynamic woman so afraid, but her mind cleared when I went in to say goodbye on Sunday afternoon. She smiled with her usual sweet smile and prayed a blessing over me. I cried all the way to the airport.

    That was two weeks after Elisabeth Elliot died. EE, another “spiritual mother” to me through her books, spent the last ten years in dementia in a home.

    That was a year after Madeleine L’Engle, and maybe Edith Schaeffer, too, died. Both women, well advanced in ages, may have had dementia, as well.

    I’m aghast that a college would teach these women, spiritual giants in the formation of so many believer’s lives, were simply not capable of being obedient enough to not get sick.

    In fact, it’s an insult to God.

    I spent a year thinking and praying about Biddy–how was I going to present this severe affliction as the culmination of her life?

    Did having a mental breakdown render meaningless the 80 prior years of obedience?

    How dare anyone imply such a thing? What are you going to say to God when he asks you what you were thinking? That God couldn’t handle that? That God let her suffer because of . . . . what? Her lack of . . . what?

    After reading a few books, consulting with the OC expert, talking it out innumerable times with my husband, this was my conclusion:

    “Throughout her life Biddy believed nothing transpired without God’s knowledge. Certainly her salvation was neer at risk, even if her difficulties challenged her faith and that of her loved ones. A person’s mental capacity or sickness has no bearing on God’s love and acceptance of them.”

    When I’ve spoken about Biddy’s life, this is a key–and may be one of the most important lessons her life teaches us.

    The terror for Baby Boomers is that we will lose our minds–that’s what, like Job’s friends, we go to such contortions to explain why people have Alzeheimer’s, etc.

    That’s why we work crossword puzzles, jigsaw puzzles, learn foreign languages, etc.–at least in my socioeconomic group–to combat the possibility we, too, may fall victim to one of these mind altering diseases, in spite of our best efforts.

    But Biddy’s life demonstrates, instead, that while no one else can reach her, the God whom she served so faithfully can still speak to her soul. Remember, how often it’s the hymns that stay with people to the very end?

    Dr. Dobson’s own mother, mute for years, could sing hymns all the way to her death.

    Biddy’s salvation, Mrs. Dobson’s salvation, Elisabeth, Madeleine, and Edith’s salvation, was never at risk because of their mental status. Their souls always rested with Jesus.

    Perhaps God enabled them to endure this most severe testing as a test for the rest of us. Will we still love the least of these? Will we still trust the Lord with our souls, bodies, and minds?

    And if not, what does that say about us?

    Stalking away from my soapbox . . .

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  15. Speaking from the other end of the spectrum:
    Little grandson, with severe cerebral palsy does not do much. But his smile and laughter light up a room. He spends most of his time lying on the floor or in somebody’s arms or in his special chair. He may hold a toy for a bit. He might laugh and giggle when tickled, or when something tickles his fancy, like the other children playing and then coming to look at him and check on him. Or he may be staring away and suddenly bursts out in laughter. Some may say he is laughing at the sunlight on the wall, and it may be. I believe he is seeing the face of God and is filled with joy to overflowing and we are granted a tiny glimpse at what is to come.

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  16. The tree guy comes today, the last of 3 treatments. Then we’ll just have to wait until spring to see if there’s a little sign of improvement in some new green sprigs breaking forth.

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  17. DJ, technically the Eldests are the last of the Gen Z, but they have younger siblings who are millennials. They are neither encouraging nor discouraging their children to get higher education. It paid off for Eldest in-law, who uses his Ph.D. to support his family. But then again, he did his Bachelor’s and Master’s in Canada, where tuition is much lower and student loans are regulated, and he did his Ph.D in the US on scholarships as he was basically head hunted by universities – so his student loans were much more manageable. I thought my student debt was burdensome, but the total for three years was only about the equivalent of tuition, fees, and expenses for a single year in a US university.

    Eldest Niece, who is now a legal adult and finished home high school, is working part time to pay for her college courses, but she makes much less an hour than a similar minimum wage job would here and the tuition there is more expensive. She expressed to me that she doesn’t think it is worth her while to seek out further education after this year, as she is already working on the side – as a sort of intern with prospects – in the field in which she is interested in pursuing. I have always encouraged her to wait until she was absolutely certain that the college career she was pursuing was what she absolutely wanted to do. So I told her when she said she didn’t want to pursue further education after this year, that was fine and after all, she could always return to school later on if she changed her mind. The courses she is taking now are simply general courses, that are supposed to be foundational for any education path – I say supposed, because I do not think that psychology course is foundational for anything.

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  18. Chas, I love music and I love history, but history as a career is a long game. The historians whose books are well known and widely read almost all started out as something else before specializing in history – a lot of historians I can think of off the top of my head started as journalists, which makes sense, since the same passion for facts and striving for impartial analysis really should be found in both professions. History is a valuable field, but not one that is really worth pursuing right out of high school. Rather, it is something one might grow into, having already established oneself.

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  19. I can see where a woman who is interested in music and is married to a man who is well established may feel free in majoring in something like Music History.
    There are lots of interesting subjects not related to incoe.

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  20. So happy to get a haircut today. Then I went over to the state park and took a hike. I took the one to the top of the hill.Now I am tired, but I certainly got my exercise.
    Oh, the new computer came. Maybe I should go visit Michelle to get Mr. Fix it IT guy to set it up!!!.First I have to clean up my old one and that will take some time.

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  21. Well, this day seems to have been wasted. We drove to the Saskatoon hospital and husband went to check in and found out his appointment had been moved to December. No one called, emailed, or texted him. So we spent about 7 hours in the car, made a few extra stops at stores we don’t have up here and then came home.

    We did pick up Chinese food on the way home, so that was nice. And there’s enough left for supper tomorrow too.

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