69 thoughts on “Our Daily Thread 7-11-20

  1. At a certain age, it’s no longer what one wants to do, but what one can do. I want to run a 4 minute mile, but I can’t. Of course, I don’t think I could’ve back when I ran a 5:10 mile.

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  2. I woke up in the middle of the night realizing I’d mixed my thoughts last night and ended up typing the wrong thing. If Kizzie sells the house to Nightingale now, whenever Nightingale sells it, her capital gains will be based on the amount she buys it for, however, if Kizzie keeps it and Nightingale inherits it, her capital gains will be based on its value at the time of inheritance.
    BTW, I know that from listening to a lot of Dave Ramsey shows, where he is asked for advice similar to Kizzie’s situation. The other two I mentioned were from personal experience, one in selling our Baltimore house to one son (no first-time buyer perks allowed) and the other in giving the other son the money to pay cash for this house (proper tax form filed).

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  3. Peter is correct. It is what you can do.
    Chuck says I should walk a mile every day.
    Walking to the mailbox is my max.

    And that Cheryl is ageing me before my time. I will be 89 until August 17. Not next week.

    And as you get older, your purpose in life changes.
    I want to live long enough, and be healthy enough, to take care of Elvera. Then I am ready to go.
    Seriously, not morbid here. I am looking forward for what the Lord has for me. None on you have reached the point in which that is just another milestone in your life.
    But sitting around doing NOTHING is terribly difficult.

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  4. Oh, I don’t know, Chas, I have done that all my life. And I am definitely ready to see what God has in store. I could head home before the camping trip and you know I like to camp.

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  5. I saw this on FB this morning and thought it was funny.
    Noun: the ups and downs of a pandemic. One day you’re loving our bubble, doing work outs, bakig banana bread, and going for long walks’ the next you’re crying, drinking gin for breakfast and missing people you don’t even like.

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  6. I really don’t think any of us has the knowlege nor experience (with the exception of Linda who has done it) to adivise Kizzie what to do in her situation. There are pros and cons to any situation. Sitting down with a local attorney and telling them all the facts will give both Kizzie and Nightingale a better idea of what they are looking to do.

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  7. True, Kim, and a third party who has no benefit in the outcome is needed. A good attorney will also consider the other adult child and grandson involved. There are so many possibilities and scenarios to consider.

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  8. Husband is going for another COVID test. We don’t think he has it, but he is sicker than usual (he usually has a chronic sinus infection). So, he’s self-isolating and waiting on testing and results. What an annoyance, but better to test and receive a negative and know than take chances on infecting someone more compromised.

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  9. Chas, sorry, I am aging you. My oldest brother has a birthday next week and my youngest shares yours, and in my not-quite-awake state I got them mixed up.

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  10. That’s ok Cheryl, just thanx for thinking about it.

    My only comment about Karen’s situation.

    When I was young and driving about the roads in SC, I learned a lesson the hard way. It applies to many situations. to wit”
    Never leave the road you are on unless you know where the other one goes.

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  11. I am so not used to California heat. I just went out and walked 3 miles before breakfast. We have a week ahead of mostly 100 degree days. Too hot for me.

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  12. I think Kizzie is looking for thoughts and other ideas, not for us to tell her what to do. She doesn’t have many others to ask.

    She’s an intelligent woman, she’s heard what we have to say, now it’s between her and God.

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  13. I might ask Art, since he deals with many people’s financial affairs, how most of these deals tend to work out. When we married, his parents had put him on the deed as owner of their small house since he was the only child. The parents lived there as long as they were alive and able. His dad lived until age 87, still at home and in and out of the hospital. At some point a good bit later his mom went into a nursing home and the home was sold. When we got married, I had purchased our home previously by myself as a 30 y/o single lady. It needed to be refinanced at which time I decided since Art was paying on the mortgage that his name should be on the deed as co-owner. The lady lawyer handling the transaction advised me that she would not do that if it was her. It has all in the long run worked out okay for us, but had we been different people it could have worked out badly for any of the involved along the way.

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  14. I had my Word Weavers critique meeting this morning. I am so blessed to be with this particular group of ladies. I had a very short piece I had written that I may eventually put on a web page blog, Kitchen Hacks For Vegans. Some of the ladies were not familiar with how I had used the word Hack. I am wondering what it means to the group here? Actually the title I originally had was Learning New Kitchen Hacks For Vegans, but one lady suggested the shorter title.


  15. I must have been really tired, I slept until 11 this morning. I haven’t done that in ages. (I was up just briefly at 5:30 to open the pet door, feed the whiny cat, and then at 7:30 for some Excedrin for a mild morning headache.)

    But the knee and I feel better this morning for having done that, I think.

    Now I have to find a post office that’s open so I can get the IRS check mailed via certified mail (just for peace of mind).

    I have an appointment Thursday with the PT’s recommended ortho doctor re the inflammation and for another pair of eyes on the situation and the status of everything. I need to pick up a disc copy of my Xray from my GP on Monday to take in with me.

    Temps are going up to 85 today, unhappily. And only going down to 69 tonight. Boo. It’ll start getting cooler again by Monday-Tuesday, today should be the hottest day but tomorrow will be close to it.

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  16. Janice I am assuming you have seen O Brother Where Art Thou. The others? I have seen a few of them and either thought they were not funny, they were crass, or didn’t like them for some reason. Mr. P is napping now so we can watch the new Tom Hanks war movie tonight. He watches lots of movies and sometimes I sit through them.

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  17. We now have a converging diamond interchange. It is almost exactly like the one I posted only I use the one at Malbis and I-10. I love it in the morning when I head east. I never have to slow down to get on the interstate once I clear the other traffic light behind me.
    Twice now I have tried and today used it to go west. The problem with it going west is that I have to get in the far left lane and once again, I don’t have to slow down EXCEPT when you head west you are making a HUGE commitment without knowing what the traffic that way looks like. Both times the traffic has been backed up to that interchange from the Mobile Bayway, which is the bridge that crosses the Bay. I had to creep and crawl until I got to Spanish Fort and was able to get off and take the Causeway. It was crowded but the traffic moved.


  18. I agree with Kim. I’ve seen three of these movies and the only one worth your time is O Brother, Where Art Thou, which I wouldn’t mind watching again tonight. Music is terrific.


  19. (1 of 3) Okay, now I can reply to some of the comments from yesterday, regarding the house. I will chop this up into smaller comments so it is not one long one. First off, for those who may have missed it, here is what I wrote about why I want to sell or quit claim the house to Nightingale:

    “We would have some kind of written, official agreement of me having the right to live here. (I forget what that is called – right of residency, maybe?)

    As it is right now, neither of us can get any loans to do the much-much-much-needed repairs. Nightingale has been paying the property tax and the electric bill, among other things (like groceries), and has taken the initiative in certain things that need to be done, such as the repairing of the upstairs bathroom. (That is currently on hold until we can have a plumber come and put in shut-off valves in our pipes in the basement that should already have them.)

    Since we will be talking to an attorney, we will make sure that something is in place to protect my interests.

    The benefit to me in all of this will be to have the responsibility of the house, and of repairing and renovating it, off my shoulders. Even so, I will still be paying some bills, as I have been, and helping pay whatever loan or mortgage she manages to get, so I’m not just dumping it all on Nightingale.

    Another benefit to me will be the satisfaction and peace of knowing that my daughter, who has been planning on “taking care of me” since before her dad died (or we even knew how close his death was), will not lose the home she has put (and will be putting) so much effort and money into if I should happen to have to go into a nursing home.”


  20. On a late dinner break (very busy day): On Kizzie’s situation, here, if a child becomes joint owner, they avoid paying capital gains as they would if they inherited, but it means any other children have no rights at all to the house. So, if one made a will that the house was to be sold and the profits divided among one’s children, but during one’s life, one makes one child co-owner, than the will is null and void, because the child who coowns the house is now the sole owner. My maternal grandparents made one of their sons, who had lived his married life with them, co-owner just before my grandfather’s death. When my grandmother died, the uncle retained possession of the house. That was a sore point among the children and grandchildren. While only a couple of them lamented the lack of financial inheritance, the real sore point was the fact that this uncle has a tendency to hoard, and thus was reluctant to part with family photos, records, and heirlooms in the house (there being nothing in the will to divide those among the children).

    We are dealing with a similar question with my parents, as the Seconds would like to one day own the property, but my parents recognize that I would be left with nothing if they made Second co-owner. Pray for wisdom, as the issue has come up recently, again.

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  21. (2 of 3) Kevin – No, I will not be selling it for more than we bought it or what we put into it, only for a little more than what is left on the home loan. It’s not even worth anywhere close to $250,000. 😀

    Linda – Regarding the benefit to me of Nightingale owning the house instead of me, please see what I wrote above (quoted from yesterday). 🙂

    As for her eventually selling it, that would probably not be for a long time, if ever. I don’t know if I have mentioned this before, but her/our plan is to take several years to repair and renovate the whole house (possibly even a decade, with all there is to do), and then she would buy her own home (with room for me) and rent these units out.

    Kim – Thank you for your comment earlier today.


  22. (3 of 3) Michelle – Thank you for your comment earlier today, too. Regarding your question from yesterday about what are the advantages to me, please see what I quoted from yesterday. 🙂

    It’s not that anything has changed, but about what could change. If I have to go into a nursing home in the next few years or if I die, Nightingale and Boy will lose their home, which she has (and/or will have) put so much effort and money into.

    As for what I get from God when I pray about this, so far I get the sense that it is the right course to follow, the wise thing to do for our particular situation.

    This is something that had also been discussed while Hubby was still alive. The people Nightingale has taken advice from are some friends older than herself, who are financially knowledgeable and well-off. But as I have also said, we will be consulting an attorney. And as I have said in the past, she is a very smart cookie, and is cautious, not foolhardy, in her decisions and plans.

    You asked, “[W]hat was the trigger for the question?” What question are you referring to?

    It is funny that you should bring up the matter of being unequally yoked. For better or worse ( 🙂
    ), Nightingale and I are very much yoked in more than one way. I have puzzled over why God let that happen, but even so, I am convinced that this is all in His plan for me (and for her). (So I pray that He will soon make us equally yoked spiritually.) Then last night, shortly after reading your question, I came across this article. (I don’t remember where or how I stumbled across it.)

    “I would agree with Calvin that Paul’s primary means of application for 2 Corinthians 6:14 is not pertaining strictly to marriages. Nor should we interpret it as banning other singular concepts like business ventures, friendships, and the like. Rather, we should understand Paul’s instruction—as Calvin did—as a prohibition to partake in idolatrous and ungodly living and worship that is contrary to the gospel of Jesus Christ and forsaking any partnerships that would encourage such evil.

    Why This Interpretation Fits the Context

    Calvin’s understanding of the passage seems to do justice to the context of Paul’s discourse better than a strict singular application. In 2 Corinthians, Paul is largely dealing with a disobedient church—the Corinthians—who are tempted to follow the “super-apostles” instead of Paul. This church is prone to look towards worldly means of success as validation for an authentic ministry and Paul defends his apostleship and ministry while demonstrating that, in the Christian life, weakness is the way. Moreover, Chapter six is sandwiched between Paul’s call to the Corinthians to be ambassadors on behalf of Christ and another defense of his ministry. A section dealing exclusively with marriage to non-believers would be an aside having little to do with the surrounding context.”



  23. Amusing picture in the paper today. One of those warning, gravel on road signs. Motorcycles be careful. Right behind it on the road is a twenty five foot high boulder that came down on the road with its buddies on Thursday night after they closed the road again. They feel like they made the right call. I agree.

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  24. Kizzie, it is not really about them owning the house, it is about ensuring that their children have their future provided for. My parents currently have a will laid down in much the same terms as the hypothetical will I mentioned. But the Eldest have repeatedly stated they need and want nothing, as they already own their own home and have lack of nothing. The Youngests are being provided for, as they will soon be moving in permanently with Youngest in law’s parents, who also lack for nothing. That leaves the Seconds and myself. The house is the only inheritance my parents have to leave. They want the Seconds to have it, as do I, but if my health breaks down and I can no longer work, my portion of the value of the house might become extremely important. As you know, my health is somewhat precarious. I have tried, in all the discussions on this topic, not to stand in the Seconds’ way, and refrain from pointing that out, but both my parents see it now for themselves.

    Right now, the Seconds are also in a precarious financial position, and if they were sole owners of the house tomorrow, they could not afford to pay the bills, so it is purely theoretical at this point. The reason I think this has come up now, really is that Second is feeling pinched for space. She was not expecting me to permanently stay in my little bedroom on the second floor. The Seconds have the other three bedrooms on that floor, all of which are larger than mine, but they had been wanting to use one of them as a family room. I could possibly make a room in the basement, but my dear father has filled it with stuff, and he cannot see a way to pare down that stuff. He and my mother moved from the largest bedroom on the second floor, to the small guest bedroom on the first floor, and their big room did not fit at all well into their little room. Both of them grew up poor, and thus have always saved everything “in case”. My mother recognizes most of it will never be needed now and has been doing her best to get rid the excess (it takes a lot more time to get rid of it than get it), my father is not there yet. Besides, there is not room for him to have a desk in the smaller room and he needs a desk. My parents and I between us have the two smallest bedrooms in the house, and part of us feels just a little like it is a bit unreasonable to expect us to move over again. On the other hand, I can see it must feel like an intrusion on their family space, to have me on the same floor. The children use the hallway as an extension of their play area, and it is like the second floor is their apartment, except for me.

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  25. It was a good day today. I had to send off the IRS check by certified mail so decided to take it to the post office in one of the local beach cities where I could enjoy a drive along the coast. Beautiful day out, way too hot for my tastes but the Jeep’s A/C works well, thankfully.

    Lots of surfers out (I was behind a car with a NJ license plate and a surfboard on the roof. Wonder if they drove all that way to surf? 🙂

    Anyway, nice to get out and see that there’s still a lovely world out there. I also picked up some fruit at the market and enjoyed a bowl of cold, red grapes when I got home.

    The knee is doing well, surprisingly. Not normal, but much better than it has on many other days, so far. I’m using a new topical cream for inflammation and swelling — Penetrix — which was recommended on one of the meniscus healing sites and also included an ingredient, MSM, that was recommended by my veterinarian lol. Maybe it’s helping.

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  26. Speaking of basements filled with stuff, as Roscuro mentioned, we will be renting a dumpster to clean out our basement. It is filled with a bunch of odds-and-ends and just plain junk that has gotten ruined from the dampness down there. It’s ridiculous how much stuff is down there that should have been dealt with rather than stored.

    When Hubby had to clean out his mother’s house and basement when she was going to be moving in with us, he complained that her family never threw anything away. For example, her basement had several old vacuum cleaners that didn’t work. Well, guess what Hubby did with our vacuum cleaners when they stopped working? Yup, he put them in the basement.

    Should I laugh or should I cry? I think I’ll choose laughter. 🙂

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  27. Janice,

    We like Thor:Ragnarok, but it’s not a comedy. It has funny parts, but not a comedy.

    Loved Knives Out. What’s not to love about a British man with a southern drawl? 🙂

    Oh Brother Where Art Thou is good, and I don’t even like George Clooney. 🙂

    The rest are mostly curse filled and crude.

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  28. Roscuro, I’m inclined to think a young healthy man can and should do what he can to take care of his own family. (Maybe he does have health issues or other issues that limit his ability to get work–I don’t remember if you have said.) Parents’ responsibility for their single daughter with health issues seems a much greater concern. But yes, if there is a way for both you and them to continue to live there, that would probably be good.

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  29. Never heard of ‘Greyhound.’

    It’s another hot day ahead for everyone in the US where most temps are hotter than ours. We’ll hit 80-84 according to the forecast. My poor former co-worker/friend who’s stuck in Arizona, she really hates the heat and looks like it’s above 100 in some of those areas, though she’s in the corner part of the state where maybe it’s not so horrible.

    And, of course, out here it’s dry, dry, dry. I drenched the front porch flowers last night.

    Virtual church is still an hour away.

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  30. Greyhound came out this weekend–Tom Hanks in the Navy during WWII. What could go wrong? I don’t think we have the correct video streaming service, so we’ll have to wait. Too bad, I could use a good movie . . .


  31. I always know Chas’s birthday. I was married on his birthday. (And I was born the year he got married.)


  32. The only one of those 35 comedies I’ve seen is Thor: Ragnarok (my daughter makes sure we see all the Marvel movies). It has funny moments but I wouldn’t classify it as a comedy either.

    I saw a lot of comedies in the 80s, and I like to go back to some of those and older ones, but none of the “modern” ones appeal to me from the little I hear about them.


  33. I didn’t know they made “The Mouse that Roared” into a movie. I must look for that! I loved the book and two sequels.


  34. Greyhound is a new film. It was produced before Covid and would have been released in theaters this month, but came out on Apple+ TV instead. We have Amazon Prime (our choice) and Hulu (our son got a student deal and pays for that). I’m not buying into any more. No Disney, Peacock, All Access, Netflix, …..


  35. “Hack” for decades has referred to a nifty trick to accomplish something in computer program, not a standard or sanctioned way to do it. By extension “hacking” came to mean breaking into a computer system.

    More recently it’s coming in wider usage as “life hacks”, nifty tricks to accomplish something not necessarily in a computer program. But that’s recent enough usage that a lot of people aren’t familiar with it yet.

    The journal of the ARRL, the US national amateur radio organization, used to have a column every month called “Hints and Kinks”. They recently changed it to “Hints and Hacks”.

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  36. Cheryl, Second in law has an excellent work ethic, and is willing to take what is available. His skill set is for skilled manual labour, and employers in that field do not like workers who are smart and know the rules, as the employers always are trying to cut corners and he refuses to do that. But his coworkers like him, because he pulls his own weight and plays by the rules. When his last employer fired him for no good reason, one of his coworkers offered to provide a reference. Job security for our generation is much less secure than for previous generations.


  37. Comedy films: I have seen a part of O Brother, and know the soundtrack well, and Thor Ragnarok, which is entertaining, just to see Jeff Goldblum being weird, and Tom Hiddleston and Cate Blanchett being villainous, all clearly enjoying themselves. I am not sure why Parasite is on the list, as it is billed as a horror film. World had some commendation of Juno for its unexpectedly pro-life position, but were cautionary about language.

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  38. Phos said: “Job security for our generation is much less secure than for previous generations.”
    IN 1958, NYLIC (New York Life Ins. Co) in Fort Worth fired Elvera for getting pregnant. Actually, she broke the rules by appearing at work in maternity clothes.
    That is likely illegal today.

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  39. Had another lovely visit with Chickadee today. We left to pick her up a little while after Boy was picked up for his four-hour weekend visit with his dad and other grandparents. It was nice for “just us girls” to sit around the table sipping coffee and chatting. When Boy was back home, we had dinner (pulled pork sandwiches, potato salad, and coleslaw), and chatted some more, then after a bit Nightingale drove Chickadee back.

    After the visit was over, I was once again thinking about how very different my daughters are. Not only are they very different in their personalities and temperaments, but also in their physicalities (if that’s the right word).

    Nightingale is tall, with thin arms and loooong, thin legs, as well as lovely long hair which is straight, but with a nice wave to it. Chickadee is taller than me, but not as tall as her sister, and is on the heavier, rounder side, with very short hair, which gets very curly when it starts to grow out a bit (like Roscuro’s). Nightingale wears some make-up, uses skin care products, and gives herself pedicures (or semi-pedicures) fairly often to keep her feet soft and looking nice. Chickadee doesn’t wear any make-up, and doesn’t care about those other things, either.

    They are both pretty, but in different ways, so if you didn’t know they are sisters, you would not guess it by looking at them. And yet, when they were little, they definitely looked like sisters.

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  40. On the way to pick up Chickadee, Nightingale said something that was sad. I was talking about how sisters’ voices can be so similar, and I said that I did not have a sister (which, of course, she knows – it was an odd statement on my part). Nightingale then said that she feels like she doesn’t have a sister, either, because of her and Chickadee not being close. She would like to be closer to her sister.

    In all the chatting we do, Chickadee doesn’t say much of anything about her own life. It’s a rather odd thing that has us feeling even more separated from her.

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  41. And I posted that before reading the latest comments. I hope you all know that my ill-timed big sister references have nothing to do with Kizzie’s girls! 😦

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  42. Oh, Brother, Where Art Thou is the only movie from that list that I’d seen. Good and funny.

    One of my midwives told me that one of her patients and the lady’s husband brought that movie with them to the hospital, to watch during early labor. 🙂

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  43. I had a lazy day, reading and sleeping. At last, there’s a cool breeze blowing in the windows so the house is much more comfortable.

    It’s back to work tomorrow, I’ll need to connect with the veterinarian about a refill for Cowboy’s pain med, I ordered it via their vm line last Wednesday and they usually call to say it’s in but I haven’t heard from hem yet.

    And I need to get to the GP’s office to pick up the disc of my knee Xray for Thursday’s dr. appt. Meanwhile, I’m having to go through thousands of listings for businesses and nonprofits that received the small business covid loans. All of the “Los Angeles” listings are in one huge list so I need to find and isolate the 7 ZIP codes for LA that apply to our local communities. Worked most of Friday on that and I have no idea how much longer it will take.

    I’m giving Perry Mason another shot, I saw part of a subsequent segment a while back and it didn’t look nearly as sleazy as the debut episode. Let’s hope they got it out of their system early on. The series is intriguing, and I so love seeing all the early 1920s architecture and home styles, including a number of scenes shot in our local community.

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  44. I found The Mouse That Roared on Amazon Prime and it was my turn to pick the Sunday Night Movie, so we watched it. Some of the characterizations (Duchess Gloriana and especially Tully Bascomb) and many plot details diverged far from the book, but it was still pretty funny.

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