Our Daily Thread 2-7-15

Good Morning!

Welcome to the Weekend.

And someone has a birthday today or tomorrow. I’m not sure which because she’s on our side of the International Date Line now. It’s all very confusing….

But either way, whether it’s today or tomorrow, Happy Birthday Jo! 🙂

And your son too.

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On this day in 1882 the last bareknuckle fight for the heavyweight boxing championship took place in Mississippi City.  

In 1893 Elisha Gray patented a machine called the telautograph. It automatically signed autographs to documents.

In 1936 the U.S. Vice President’s flag was established by executive order. 

And in 1985 “New York, New York” became the official anthem of New York City. 

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Quotes of the Day

So they all went away from the little log house. The shutters were over the windows, so the little house could not see them go. It stayed there inside the log fence, behind the two big oak trees that in the summertime had made green roofs for Mary and Laura to play under.”

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Remember me with smiles and laughter, for that is how I will remember you all. If you can only remember me with tears, then don’t remember me at all.”

Laura Ingalls Wilder

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 Today is Eubie Blake’s birthday.

That’s how you do it kids. 🙂

And it’s Garth Brooks’ too. So it’s Garth doing 2 Georges and a Buck’s songs.

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Anyone have a QoD?

67 thoughts on “Our Daily Thread 2-7-15

  1. Our program at the Lions yesterday was a guy from the Boys and Girls Home that is run by the NC Lions. It is small, only 27 residents now, but they provide a place for children with no other place. One interesting situation he mentioned was an eight year old girl who was there because they didn’t want anyone to know where she was. That is, she was hiding from everyone. They got her placed. But I still don’t understand it.
    I can understand rescuing a child from abuse, but to have her hiding from someone is a mystery.
    I suspect Mumsee understands, but I can’t figure it. There must be legal implications there somewhere.

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  2. Chas, there are sick, sick, sick people out there and some of them are biological fathers. I know of a very nice young lady whose mother has had to keep there location somewhat hidden because her father sees her as a sexual object rather than his daughter.
    I can somewhat understand the following link because I think every little girl learns to love by loving her father first, but this link is sick and these GROWN MEN ought to know better.

    http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2015/01/what-its-like-to-date-your-dad.html

    Mumsee, probably does know better than I do but this is just one reason why a precious little 8 year old girl has to be hidden from family

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  3. And the flip side of it is…
    My cousin posted a photo of D on Facebook this morning. D is my stepmother’s biological granddaughter and was adopted by my cousin. She had just dropped D off to meet her grandpa (my Uncle M—confused yet?) to go hunting with him. Last weekend he took his grandson and this week he is taking his granddaughter. It made me smile because I have such fond memories of tromping through the woods “hunting” with my dad. I like to think if he were still alive he would have taken BG and D hunting just for the memories.

    I have mixed emotions about D because Daddy and my stepmother raised her until she was about 3. He had a closer relationship with D than he had with BG and I can remember her standing at the back door watching him with tears streaming down her little face and crying “Papa take D”. She was his shadow just as I had been. I really do wish it had been BG who had that relationship with him, but it wasn’t. The relationship my dad had with D proved to everyone that I had not imagined my childhood. I do have a set of china set aside that I will give D one day and tell her it belonged to her Papa and I saved it for her so that she would always know how much he loved her. I never will forget watching him change her diaper. When I asked why he had never changed BG his reply was priceless—“Never had to”.

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  4. Good morning. Whose cat is staring at me when I open this blog today?

    Feliz cumpleaños, Jo! You share a birthday with Laura Ingals Wilder, I see.

    Chas- We’re going to the annual Lion’s Club pancake and whole-hog sausage breakfast this morning. That is common around here this time of year. Does your Lion’s Club have one?

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  5. Kim, if there were a 😦 option rather than like, I would have given it to your 9:59. I guess that, even at my age, I’m a bit naïve. I couldn’t imagine that. I really couldn’t.

    Peter, we have a Country Breakfast at the Big Apple Festival every first Saturday in September.
    It’s good to support those things. Every nickel you spend on breakfast goes to help someone.
    Lions, as I’ve said a dozen times before, manage their own overhead.

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  6. Chas, you may recall five years ago when we got our group of five, we were told they were being placed here to keep them away from one of the foster families. My bio daughter posted a pic of herself with youngest daughter. The foster family tracked us down through that picture. The social workers were very concerned but it turned out to be a non issue. (I would question why the social workers were then willing to place a set of twins with that couple if they were such a threat.)

    A couple of children asked what I would do if their bio dads arrived at the door. I explained that I would tell them to leave and shoot them if they chose not to. The children were much relieved. I don’t understand that but I can deal with it.

    For years, one of our first adopted children had nightmares of being kidnapped by her bio parents. I asked the sheriff dept to give the school a picture of the bio parents so they would know who to watch for. The sheriff dept refused because they can’t give out mug shots. Again, a non issue.

    Other children we have had, it may have been an issue.

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  7. I think I have shared before that I was molested by a relative. Even having had that experience I cannot wrap my brain around a father doing such a thing. As a child I was terrified to sleep by myself. My paternal grandparents were divorced in 1957 and remarried 20 some odd years later. If my parents had something to do and I spent the night with my grandfather he always rolled a blanket up and put it in the middle of the bed. I was not allowed to cross it to his side of the bed. I later read of this being done long ago when people had to share a bed out of necessity.
    Eventually I learned to sleep alone. People who molest children are the lowest form of life on earth and nothing and I mean nothing is too good for them. They need to be put on an island where they can molest each other.
    Yep, I have strong feelings on this subject.

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  8. Such early birds around here for a Saturday. I slept until 8 and am beginning to feel more and more like myself again after that weeklong bout with the flu.

    Hope Jo’s cold went away for her birthday.

    6 arrows, hows that cut? Sounded nasty and like there would have been a lot of blood. I’ve sliced through fingers like that, it really can throb and take a while to heal.

    I’m off with Annie the cat and Cowboy to the vet’s this morning, both are due for their rabies boosters. Tess will get the house to herself.

    Annie doesn’t like traveling in her little box carrier (although she often tries to jump into the Jeep when I’m unloading things after work in the driveway). But having Cowboy, the nice dog that she loves, along for the ride seems to calm her some.

    I’d still be asleep if we didn’t have that 9:45 a.m. appointment. 🙂

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  9. Given the latest news of Anthem’s security breech, we’ve been talking about what, if anything, we can do to protect our information. I can do everything possible, but one shoddy employee, one big company that doesn’t have up to date cyber-security and it’s all for naught.

    Thinking about putting double layers onto the money accounts and freezing our score accessibility. Anyone done that? The double layer makes perfect sense, some of my friends are leery of freezing score reporting.

    Seems like a no-brainer to me.

    Sun is shining now and we have a dog visiting for the weekend. I’m going to take him for a walk before the wild winds start blowing again and the rain returns. So very thankful for the rain. Hallelujah! 🙂

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  10. Dogs!

    Our company (many of us are with Anthem which is one of the 2 plans our employer offers now) said they’d let us know if any of us were part of the breach. I figure it’s the age we live in, I try not to worry too much about it.

    No rain here, but maybe a shower tonight (at least that’s what I read earlier in the week)

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  11. Belated Happy Birthday wishes to Annms!!!

    Happy Birthday to Jo!!!

    In the tradition of Mumsee, here is some birthday cake to share. 🙂

    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    @@@@@@
    CHOCOLATE
    @@@@@@
    __VANILLA__
    @@@@@@
    ___SPICE____
    @@@@@@
    ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
    ~~~~~~~~~~
    ●●●●●●●●●
    BEST WISHES FOR TWO SUPER SWEET YOUNG LADIES

    (I am doing this on the Smartphone and have no idea how it will show up in other places. I hope the cake is upright and not fallen into unrecognizable form!)

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  12. Wow…what a big Bosley we have on our screen this morning…I think I may need another cup of coffee!!
    It is a beautiful day here and we are just about to head out for a walk.
    Michelle we are going to freeze our credit scores….and what is double layering money accounts…having two usernames and passwords? That one would be hard for me…I can barely remember the first ones! Anthem messed up big time and they need to do everything they can to clean up their mess…one report I watched stated they were warned by the FBI in 2013 that they were lax in their cyber protection….I’m more than irritated!

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  13. Cat did not want to go in the box. It was a real wrestling match this time

    Then I finally got her out on the front porch in the box when Cowboy, who already had been told by me he was going, decides to dash out around us, sans leash, to take a spin, I grabbed his collar just in time

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  14. We’d discussed the other day why be on Twitter and other social media. This morning my FB friends saw me asking if I should confess sin for laughing at the Brian Williams mess. I did so at their urgings and am flying free from that particular sin–at the moment.

    But among the people commenting was an old friend who used to work for NBC with Williams. She couldn’t believe I was asking the question–a sin? No the only thing I was guilty of was a sense of humor, in her world! (Actually, I like that answer, but I’d already confessed . . . )

    We get along well, we always have, but sometimes I think the only reason I’m on FB is for her to see that not all Christians are idiots. She tweaks me on things. I smile and am polite back. It’s the only way to answer her, but it opens her to recognizing her point of view may be just a little slanted.

    🙂

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  15. Everyone’s home, free (from locked boxes & leashes) and fed.

    I kind of feel bad for Williams, I’ll admit, but keep also wondering “what was he thinking” to even go down that road when there would be potentially so many who would call him on it (and surprising it didn’t happen sooner).

    But it’s also good to remember “there but for the grace of God” go any of us, giving the right circumstances and motivations … 😦

    Saw a license plate frame in front of me near the vet’s office that said “Jesus died for the opportunity”

    Bad theology, of course, but I hadn’t seen that before (though I think I’ve heard mention of it existing).

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  16. And it’s probably generally quite hard to fit “good” theology onto a license plate frame anyway — but this was pretty much way off.

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  17. I don’t recall hearing about the kind of abuse you are describing.
    I have heard of parents beating their children and making them do terrible things as punishment. I have heard of a mother getting a daughter into prostitution with her. And the David Copperfield type of upbringing.
    But I don’t recall hearing that kind of abuse from a parent.
    Some time ago, I read Escape from Camp 14. It’s about a North Korean who was born in captivity and had escaped. In growing up in prison, he had only two goals in life, finding something to eat and keep from being beaten. He knew of nothing else. He betrayed his mother, who was killed, to please a guard. He thought nothing of it.

    It is hard to civilize such people. I wonder how those children handle the precious concept of God the Father.

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  18. Donna, I read your story about wrestling with the cat to get her into the carrier, and I started getting sympathetic pains in my cut finger imagining the possibility of you getting scratched by the cat. 😉

    Thanks for asking about the cut. It doesn’t sting anymore, but it hurts a little if I bump it. It’s on my dominant hand, and I’m kind of clumsy, so bumps happen.

    Last night, a few hours after it got cut, I unwisely sat down to play the piano. Not good. Blood started oozing out from under and through the double layer of bandaid I had on it, and it took several minutes to stop the bleeding again.

    The piano is like a magnet to me, and I just don’t think sometimes.

    Then this morning the bandaids came off while I was getting ready to take a shower, but fortunately that didn’t cause the wound to open back up.

    I decided to wait to rebandage the finger until after my shower, and was careful with that finger while I was shampooing my hair and such.

    I finished my shower, and everything was fine. I noticed a little swelling, but not bad, and I could see the wound well. The cut is kind of boomerang-shaped around the first joint, but not deep.

    So then I’m drying off, and what do I do but rub the towel across the finger, or the finger across the towel, and the whole thing opens back up and it’s bleeding again.

    Sigh.

    So it’ll take a while, and more attention to carefulness than I have done so far…

    Let’s just say I won’t be washing any dishes for a while, and certainly not the week of the piano show I’m playing in come April!

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  19. Way to get out of doing the dishes, 6 arrows. 😉

    The cat was clawing at the air, and threw a back foot up toward my face at one point, but I managed to come away with just 1 small claw-puncture wound in a finger. 🙂

    But she’s good. It took me 3 tries during which time the cat seemed to sprout half a dozen new legs and feet that flew windmill-like, slicing through the air as I dodged the claws. Yikes.

    I made the mistake of putting the crate too close to the sofa, as well — which meant she could grab and attach one leg to that, making it harder to try stuffing her into the little opening. She’s not used to being manhandled like that, but time was short and we had to get on the road …

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  20. Of course, you could have just put an open laundry bag on the floor with some cat nip in it, slammed it shut when she entered and stuffed her into the crate….

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  21. Chas, several of my children over the past thirty years have experienced that. Much more common than you would think. And it causes lots of emotional damage and messed up people.

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  22. My friends got their kitties!!! The kitties are exploring their new home now.

    I spent yesterday afternoon with K again getting their home ready. Maybe I will get to meet Romeo and Jingles next week. ♡

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  23. When I last took Miss Bosley for boarding, she would not easily go into her carrier. I turned it up so I could drop her in. Not the best way. I think Mumsee knows best…despite the name of that old tv program.

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  24. Yeah, Donna, I’m devious like that. 🙂

    Kare, I’ve been enjoying hearing your kitchen reno stories. I’m glad, though, that when your husband broke through the ceiling, he himself didn’t go through. 😉

    My husband tells a story from the time he and his siblings were growing up. Cousins were visiting, and apparently there was a weak area in the upstairs floor that not everyone knew about.

    Some children were upstairs, some downstairs. Those who were downstairs in the living room heard a ruckus upstairs, followed by a tearing sound, and some plaster from the ceiling falling to the living room floor below. They looked up to see a leg emerge through the hole in the ceiling!

    No one was hurt, fortunately, and that story still to this day gets told and retold with much glee. 😉

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  25. Chas, I think every generation becomes more evil, even though I also think there is nothing new under the sun. The same sin we have today was around eons ago..it just wasn’t as much out in the open.

    Mr. P and I went shopping today. I got two dresses to choose from next Saturday when I have to go to the Queen’s Luncheon

    http://keyholephoto.com/2010/02/17/queens-luncheon/

    I bought a sleeveless cream and gold brocade dress and a crimson silk taffeta dress…very proud that I bought both of them for under 100 dollars. The problem with both being sleeveless is that I am currently pasty white. Fat looks better with a little burn on it. Black shoes will go with one and the homecoming shoes I bought BG back in October will go with the other dress. Now we just have to hope that Next Monday is warm. Today was gloriously warm and I was so happy.

    We also bought Little Baby Boy his Easter Bunny swim suit, a pair of shorts and two shirts. Tiny Baby Girl didn’t get anything this trip.

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  26. Chas, it is not a recent kind of abuse. One of my mother’s friends was hurt like that by her father, and all the while, he was a church deacon. Years later, when his grown children exposed him after he tried to victimize other children, he committed suicide rather than face the consequences. Even as a grandmother, she carried the scars and struggled with the concept of God as Father.

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  27. A business (not a franchise) in the food court in the mall in Spartanburg had, on a sign hanging there, “II Samuel 7:18” I wrote it down so I wouldn’t forget. II Samuel 7:18 says, “Then went king David in, and sat before the Lord, and he said, Who am I, O Lord God? And what is thy house, that thou hast brought me hitherto?”

    That means something important to someone. It has a serious context unknown to us.
    That reminds me of a time while I was at Caroling and going through a difficult time. I was reading Psalm 94 and came upon verse 4 “A thousand years in thy sight are as but yesterday….” Adds perspective? I told the Lord that I had just read 89:47. Seems they were put together for a reason.
    89:47: “Remember how short my time is.”
    I don’t have a thousand years. But it took only a couple of months to sort out.
    I had that much time.

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  28. Tipping the carriers up so they’re vertical usually is the best way.

    But let’s face it, exercising our dominion over cats is never easy. 🙂

    I’m not sure every generation is worse than the one before it — I tend to think that sin is always with us in all its varieties), although cultures and societies have peaks and valleys through history.

    We’re living in a time in the west when good is being increasingly called evil and evil is increasingly being seen as “good.” That’s hard for many of us to wrap our heads around since most of us were raised in a culture that still recognized good and evil for what they were and (generally) acknowledged at least civil religion as a positive influence.

    Evil was still practiced, but it now is becoming more sanctioned by society and by our neighbors, who increasingly also see Christianity as odd, a negative influence and something to be suppressed in a sophisticated, “diverse” society. It’s led to a feeling that we’re living in a parallel universe all of a sudden.

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  29. And that may be one of the ways in which God is using this period in history in ways that can refine his church. It’s been easy to “fit in” as Christians in the past 100 years. Now, not so much. We stand out, if we’re true to our beliefs, and that’s newly uncomfortable.

    But God is always doing something, and even sin is used by Him in ways we may not immediately recognize.

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  30. Agree! And God is known for turning the bad into something good in the long run for those who believe in Him and are called according to His purpose. Maybe the worse the sin appears to humans, the greater His glory in our eyes?

    The beheadings these days are horrendous, but because it is much smaller scale, we tend to not think of abortion as being just as gruesome.
    57,000,000 and counting since it became legalized, and our Pres pushed for no limits and requires through his healthcare plan that citizens give tax dollars for abortions. He is big on apologizing, but I have not heard a peep of an apology where it is most needed.

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  31. Chas, my husband is 6 1/2 years older than me. I’ve often told him that when he was seven, if anyone had shown me to him and said, “Someday that baby will be your wife,” he would have said some version of “ew” or “ick.” 🙂

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  32. Yeah. Last night we watched a St. Elmo’s Fire (why did any of us think it was a great movie?) that Mr. P saw with his first WIFE! I think I saw it with a groups of girls because surely I didn’t even have a date.

    First Husband was 8 years older than me. My birthday is January 6 and his is the 20th. I teased him about going on his first date when I was in second grade…Ewww.

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  33. When Becky, oldest GD, was seven, she went around saying, “I don’t like boys and never will>”
    She’s the one with the blog and three children.
    Seems it’s men she likes. 😆
    OK maybe just one.

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  34. Of course, some of the mallow and henbit and dandelions were up that far as well. And since they are all edible, they could have stayed, but there are plenty of other places with them growing.

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  35. What Donna wrote reminded me of what I wrote a few weeks ago or so. One thing I mentioned was that now pro-abortion-rights people not only don’t feel that they need to defend their position anymore, but now are casting aspersions on the motives of pro-lifers. One quote I saw on Facebook questioned the morality of being pro-life, implying that being pro-life is immoral.

    I’ve also seen things saying that people with a potty mouth are supposedly more honest than people who don’t swear. Another recent topic I have seen essays on is the concept of virginity, saying that there is really no such thing as losing or keeping one’s virginity, for various reasons. One reason, which has a point, is that lesbians may still be “virgins” even though they are involved in a sexual relationship. But their main point is that being a virgin is meaningless, & it’s emotionally healthier to experiment before one gets married.

    For quite a while now, I have seen the concept the Bible talks about of bad being called good, but until the last couple years or so, I don’t think I had seen so blatantly the concept of the good being called bad. It really is quite disturbing, as these kinds of attitudes can & will destroy many lives.

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  36. R has been telling Emily that she owes him close to $5000 because she didn’t let him claim Forrest on his taxes last year. (Remember, he has paid absolutely no child support – ever.) He decided to be “nice”, & told her that if she will pay him the close to $5000, he will give her back $4000 in child support payments. I laughed when she told me that.

    Emily’s response was something along the lines of “And I suppose you want me to pay you $100 a week so you can give me $75 in child support. No thanks.”

    R also was telling her that now that he’s considered mentally ill, he is going to apply for disability payments, & any other kind of government aid he can get. Then he is going to try to gain custody of Forrest, & he thinks a judge would rule for him since he could then be a stay-at-home dad for Forrest.

    Because a man who can’t keep a job supposedly because of his mental illness would make a great dad, right?

    Emily’s not worried, though, because his record of spending little time with Forrest will speak for itself. And having a lawyer to present her case sure helps.

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  37. Karen, a couple of years ago I saw some advice column where a man wrote in to ask how he should deal with the fact that though he is a virgin, his fiancee has slept with five or six different men. (I’m reporting this from memory, and the exact details may be off.)

    Well, she told him something along the line of not only is it not good to think himself superior to the woman he wants to marry (very good advice), but his future wife is actually probably better prepared for marriage than he. I think he had broken down and had sex with his fiancee and regretted it, but the advice columnist told him he actually needs to get more sexual experience before he knows what he wants in terms of getting married.

    At first I thought she was kind of playing devil’s advocate, “defending” the woman by showing him what it feels like to be thought inferior. But then I realized she was actually serious. The counsel was mind boggling to me.

    Let’s say the man takes her advice, and decides he needs to sleep with a minimum of five women before he chooses one to marry. Let’s say for the sake of argument that he follows modern-day “wisdom” and uses a condom each and every time.

    He still . . . has a fairly good chance of getting a woman pregnant (likely resulting in an abortion or a child born out of wedlock and raised by a single mom), he may well spread disease, he is quite likely to break a heart or two (even if he can have sex without getting emotionally involved, women usually cannot) . . . and for what?

    I don’t think anyone would be foolish enough to suggest that anyone (male or female) choose a spouse based only–or even largely–on who is the best sex partner. (And honestly, a virgin probably isn’t an “expert,” anyway–so what? Better to learn together!) So what exactly is the point of the experiment? You decide that Suzy has overall the best traits you want in a wife, and she’s decent in bed too. But you know that Carmen is actually much better in bed, and Lisa is about the same as Suzy in terms of overall bedroom skill, but she has a couple things she does much better than Suzy, so you may never be fully content with Suzy unless she can learn to do as well as these other girls (and as well as the porn you like to watch).

    What’s more, it turns out that women who have premarital sex against their own preferences (which is a lot of women) often resent their husbands for pushing them in such a way, and after marriage takes place they have a hard time being interested in sex. (Oops!) And things they did while single and they felt they “had to do” to keep a man, but that they didn’t actually want to do, they may stop doing now that they are married and they have him. (Oops again!)

    From a secular standpoint, I fully understand why unbelievers might say that it shouldn’t be only married people who have the fun of sex. But I don’t understand at all why anyone would say that sexual experience makes a person better prepared for marriage or better able to choose the right spouse. That would be the case only if (1) sexual prowess could be accurately determined by sampling the population and (2) sexual prowess / “compatibility” was the most important trait in a spouse, or at least one of the top two or three most important.

    The reality is, of course, that sex is more a relational issue than a “skill set.” Good sex is better “learned” by practicing with one person to whom you are committed than by sampling many different people with little or no relationship and no commitment. Any advice columnist, even an atheist, should know that much. But fornication is no such a powerful “good” that even common sense is turned on its head to defend it. And we do the same with pride, greed, and just about any other sin imaginable.

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  38. cheryl, I saw that global warming article linked earlier today on powerline — Global warming is huge cause out here in California. If we have a popular religion these days, that would be it. So any suggestion that we’re not on the brink of catastrophic, global warming collapse pegs one as quite “anti” science.

    Climate change is a given since the earth began, but how much of that is caused by man — and how dire the situation is — is all driven now by politics. The issue was hijacked so early on by the liberal political class that science no longer has anything to do with it. 😦

    As the author of that piece says, someday people will look back on the hysteria and shake their heads.

    At the very least we need to concede that the science of climate change remains in its infancy, we (obviously) know very little, especially when it comes to thinking we can someone predict the change using our own computer models. These numbers have been disproven over and over again, but no one seems to be able to even “hear” that.

    For the time being, man-made global warming remains the common wisdom in our culture and it pains me to see even prominent GOP candidates on board (probably out of political necessity).

    We live in what actually is a very un-scientific age.

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  39. Here’s the link I saw:

    http://www.powerlineblog.com/archives/2015/02/inside-the-global-warming-scandal.php

    Interesting comments also that point how global warming has taken such deep root in our schools now — and among those harping on it is the pope, no less.

    I’m hoping there are enough real scientists who are worth their salt who will begin to speak out on how we (cough cough) just may have been wrong about some or all of this …

    Those few who have dared, of course, are pretty much blackballed.

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  40. yes, it is an issue that is hard to argue. Meaning I totally disagree, but how to argue with the brainwashed or thoroughly convinced.
    Then I have to think is this an issue that is worth arguing about – nope.
    We know the truth.

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  41. I trust that I didn’t sound prideful. Part of my opinion is that I know my opinion, but not well enough to be able to argue. and certainly not well enough to convince anyone who is already convinced.

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