Prayer Requests 3-16-21

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Psalm 36

I have a message from God in my heart
    concerning the sinfulness of the wicked:
   There is no fear of God
    before their eyes.

In their own eyes they flatter themselves
    too much to detect or hate their sin.
The words of their mouths are wicked and deceitful;
    they fail to act wisely or do good.
Even on their beds they plot evil;
    they commit themselves to a sinful course
    and do not reject what is wrong.

Your love, Lord, reaches to the heavens,
    your faithfulness to the skies.
Your righteousness is like the highest mountains,
    your justice like the great deep.
    You, Lord, preserve both people and animals.
How priceless is your unfailing love, O God!
    People take refuge in the shadow of your wings.
They feast on the abundance of your house;
    you give them drink from your river of delights.
For with you is the fountain of life;
    in your light we see light.

10 Continue your love to those who know you,
    your righteousness to the upright in heart.
11 May the foot of the proud not come against me,
    nor the hand of the wicked drive me away.
12 See how the evildoers lie fallen—
    thrown down, not able to rise!

12 thoughts on “Prayer Requests 3-16-21

  1. Speaking of enjoying time with your grandson, Kizzie (from yesterday) I wonder if he would like to see his aunt and you could mention that? I assume he has no way to communicate that to her. We are praying for both your daughters and grandson, of course. Also for the peace you need.

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  2. Thank you, ladies.

    Yes, Boy misses his “Auntie”. (She’s not Aunt or Auntie Chrissy to him, she’s just Auntie, which he has called her ever since he could say the word. Initially, as a toddler, it sounded like Onnie. 🙂 )

    In trying not to be pushy, I am only texting her briefly with several days to a week in between, similar to how our communication was before this. (Yes, I wish we could exchange texts on a more regular basis. Maybe when/if this situation is resolved, I will try to encourage us to keep in more frequent contact. I am good at making up chit-chatty types of texts to get the ball rolling.)

    So next time I send her a text, I will mention Boy. Come to think of it, he has his own phone (so his dad can contact him, although I don’t think he does that much). so I will ask him if he has Auntie’s phone number in his contacts. Maybe he can text her himself. If so, I will warn him not to overdo it.

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  3. Yesterday I think one or two people said the McK’s should “encourage” Chickadee to keep in touch with her family. Remember that she is in her upper twenties, not a pre-teen boarding with someone. In my years of having housemates (for me that was age 20 to 43, though not every year in there), I had a good number of housemates, and all of them were in their very late teens to mid-twenties, all of them younger than Chickadee. They all had their own bedroom (or in some cases two shared a bedroom) and generally were responsible for their own food and such, though we sometimes ate together. The last few had their own cell phones.

    I would occasionally know when a housemate’s mother called the house, and I would know if the mother visited. But except for the years when we had only one phone (no extensions) and it was in the living room, I really had no way of knowing who my housemates were calling or texting, nor would I have tried to keep track of such things. I might happen to ask, “Hey, have you talked to your mother lately?” if I knew her mother, but I would never have considered it my responsibility to make sure housemates kept up with their mothers. It wasn’t my responsibility, but hers. Chickadee may act younger than her actual age, but no one has responsibility to tell her who to call or text, and it isn’t irresponsible if they don’t.

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  4. Along with what Cheryl said: in my experience, young people often take a break, sometimes significant, while they are figuring out who they are. I was very close to my first four children. But they all went through seasons of not needing constant contact. Once every few months was quite enough for them. Since then, they all four have come through to the other side. The youngest of the four, with the grandson we have never met, was probably the closest to me but we let him go to college at sixteen. He is now approaching thirty and we are in contact several times a week, though he has gone for months with no contact other than a couple instigated by me. It gave him time to figure out who he is. I am excited to see that he is very interested in following God.

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  5. NancyJill – I have wondered about that, too, but I think that she would have found some way to let us know. Tomorrow will mark a full month since I have heard from her, so I would think that she would have let us know by now. (Btw, as I pray for my Chickadee, I also pray for your relationship with the daughter you haven’t heard from, and Linda’s other son, as well as Kim and BG. I think there’s someone else in a similar situation, but I can’t remember right now who that might be.)

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    Cheryl – The difference is that Chickadee is living with them as another of their daughters, not an independent roommate, and calls the parents Mom and Dad, as well as the fact that she is largely dependent on them, and although she is chronologically 28-going-on-29, she does not and cannot live independently. Remember, Mrs. McK sometimes treats her daughters as if they are little girls, so I’m sure she is the same way with mine.

    They may not keep track of her texting, but it is obvious that she has not visited in two months. Even if she was living there as only a roommate rather than like a member of the family, I would think that Mrs. McK, as a caring friend, would encourage her to see her family, especially since family is so important to her.

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    Mumsee – If Chickadee were off on her own, starting a life of her own, I would understand that more. But she has drawn more inside herself, and the McKs are letting her “hide behind their skirts” so to speak.

    I am used to her not (or very rarely) initiating a text or email, but she would always reply at least with an emoji to indicate she received my text. She especially loved the photos of the pets that I send every now and then.

    Something is wrong. I hope it could turn out to be something as simple as her phone doesn’t work. (But as I said above, I think I would have heard something somehow to let me know.)

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  6. Kizzie, I understand that on some level she is living with them as though she were one of their kids. However, the same issue applies. Adults don’t keep track of whether their adult children do or don’t call other relatives. My husband will sometimes casually ask one of the girls, “Have you talked to Grandma lately?” in the same way he asks his mom, “Have you talked to the girls lately?” It’s a conversational question, not pushing them into action. We also don’t know if they ever do ask her that, or what she says if/when she does.

    We too have one daughter who rarely initiates contact and doesn’t always answer when we initiate contact. We had very little contact with her in her last semester of college; she not only didn’t call, but she didn’t answer our contacts to her. Now she is married with a child, and we talk to her less than once a month. We have a good relationship with her, but she’s close to 30 now and she just doesn’t keep all that close touch. Her younger sister usually doesn’t let more than a week go by without a call, though sometimes it’s two weeks (we tend to call her if it’s two weeks and we haven’t heard from her).

    Yes, it’s possible that something is wrong, and if you know of a way to check up on her that she wouldn’t find invasive, you might want to do so. But it is also quite possible that she is growing up a bit and doesn’t currently need that regular contact. If it were me in that boat, I’d probably be calling the McK mother to chat, or taking a box of cookies (for everyone) to the house, or mailing a card with a handwritten note. I might be worrying, too–but worrying is probably the least productive of your options right now. Also, keep in mind that parental desperation can push a young adult farther away; whether or not you see her as mature enough to make her own choices, it’s probably better for your relationship if you try to see her as an adult. The more you have a social life outside your daughters and reach out to them out of your own maturity and strength, the easier it will be to have a relationship with them as adults.

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