20 thoughts on “Rants! and Raves! 11-24-18

  1. 🙂 A quiet, lovely Thanksgiving

    🙂 Yesterday started with frost (pretty) but went up above 50 for a very lovely day overall. Tomorrow is supposed to be 61.

    🙂 My husband ordered our dining room table and I ordered the sheets for our first guest area, so we’re back to moving forward in getting this place in order.

    😦 My husband still doesn’t feel well.

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  2. A couple of months ago, I gathered up some old stuff I had and some c movie camera film my dad made and sent them to Legacy Box.
    They put it on a thumb drive. I made a disk and kept it and one for my sister and gave the thumb drive to Chuck.
    My rant?
    Every time I open my e-mail, I get something from Legacy Box offering me specials.
    The thing is, I have already done everything I want to do with them.


  3. 😦 The grieving continues, and seems just as bad, or at least almost as bad, as it was last year at this time. It was expected that the first holiday season without Hubby would be very difficult, but there is something about the second holiday season coming around that makes it even plainer, more real, that Hubby will never be a part of our holidays again.

    Cheryl – How long has it been since your sister lost her husband? Is she still in active grieving, or has it settled down, at least somewhat?


  4. Kizzie, it has been five and a half years for my sister. She told me once that lots of people had told her the first year was hardest, but in her own experience they second year was the hardest. (I’ve usually heard first, too, and hesitated to tell you she found the second year the hardest, lest you dread that, and it might not be your experience.) By about three years in, she told me she was beyond active grief, that she still thought about him, but with less pain and with (I think) a bigger proportion of simply fond memories. She also started to think in that third year about whether or not she’d want to remarry someday, and about year four she asked a couple people about setting her up (since her own situation, with five children, is too complicated for most potential mates), but seems to have decided against that. It sounds to me like the first two years were hard, and then the third had hard “moments” but she was mostly not in active grief, and since then she may occasionally have a hard moment but mostly it’s just that her life is trickier now than it was. She did admit to some level of loneliness, and I have had widows tell me that life is never ever completely the same again–but that too varies by the person. A couple of weeks ago an older woman at church told me that that was the first anniversary of her husband’s death, and I asked her if that was difficult and she shrugged and said not really. She said there are times when it’s hard, but she said it in a way that suggested it isn’t her everyday experience, and I haven’t seen any sign it is. (She has been to quite a few events I’ve attended other than church services.) Maybe her second year will be harder, I don’t know.

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  5. Cheryl – You had previously mentioned what your sister said about the second year, so I feel I was forewarned, but not predisposed to feel the same way. (Although I do, so far.)

    That’s interesting about that older widow, and I wonder if maybe she didn’t have such a great marriage. Or maybe her husband was dying for a long period of time, so she had already done much grieving. Or maybe she’s not a particularly emotional person?

    I’m glad to hear that your sister is doing better.


  6. Cheryl, well, when you’ve gutted the whole thing and the ceiling is really ugly, you might as well fix that too. Appliances are the only thing we’re not replacing (we purchased those new when we moved here 7 years ago). But the time we’re done, it will be all new from the floor to the ceiling including lighting.

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  7. Kare, hate to be discouraging, but if you bought appliances seven years ago, they aren’t new either, but near the end of the life expectancy of today’s appliances. You have to go back a few decades to find appliances with more than a decade of life expectancy, and seven or eight years seems pretty typical today.


  8. Cheryl, I realized that when I wrote it 🙂 But they’re still going strong so… They still seem new to me as they are newer than any other appliances I’ve ever had.


  9. Only the stove is 7 years old. Fridge is about 4 or 5 and the dishwasher maybe 2? Not that it matters much in this era of replace everything every 5 years.

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  10. My dishwasher must be 10 years old now — but it gets fairly light use in this one-person household, I run it probably twice a week? Some large families use theirs a couple times every day.

    The refrigerator is probably 5 years old, washer/dryer (which I LOVE) are only 1 year old. 🙂 My old appliances managed to go for nearly 30 years but the last few years operated far from efficiently, to be honest. It took several times through the dryer at maximum times to get my clothes even close to being dry. This one dries a load of clothes in about 30 minutes.

    The refrigerator struggled during heat waves.


  11. My stove is the same one that was here when I moved in so that’s pretty old. Still working but I suspect it will need replacing at some point by me.


  12. DJ, my house in Nashville had a really old stove, original to the house (c. 1955); I replaced the elements and let my electrician put new wires on it, but no way would I ever get rid of the thing. The one we have here is probably also original to the house (1980) and the door got replaced after we moved in (the floor guy wasn’t thinking, and tried to moved the stove by pulling on the door and that broke the glass–but he replaced it) and so did the drip pans, but we figure it’s likely to last us the rest of our lives–or at least it’s much more likely to do so than the newer fridge is. And the washer and dryer is a pair that my husband bought in his single days, more than 30 years ago–we’re confident those will last us the rest of our lives, and then one of the children will claim them. We replaced the floor and the kitchen faucet, and we would very happily replace the sink (everything put in either sink slides down toward the middle) and possibly the cabinets, but it isn’t in the budget and may not be worth the money anyway.

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  13. I have my mom’s old stove in the garage, probably dating from the ’40s or ’50s? Not sure, but it was probably in our house when we moved in circa 1960 and were renting at the time before we bought it later.

    I’ve always wanted to see if it could be restored but my problem now is that I am in a house in which there’s an island and the stove is built into the spot right in the middle. Still, if this one bites the dust, it might be worth looking into in terms of fit, etc. I loved my mom’s stove because it had the pan storage drawers in the bottom. I don’t think I’ve ever measured it — I doubt it would fit precisely, but maybe there would be a way it could work, though it might be too costly.

    🙂 Our local high school (and Michelle’s alma mater) won the Los Angeles City Football championship Friday night. Kind of a pretty big deal.

    🙂 I found and ordered my address tiles on Etsy. I’d been shopping online for a Spanish-looking address tile plaque that would go with the new house colors and discovered one that’s terra-cotta w/turquoise numbers on the Etsy site a couple weeks ago that I really kept going back to. I’ve been conversing with the artist for the past couple days to get details and finally put the order in this weekend, I think it’ll be perfect. It hangs and the end pieces are a red and yellow Talvera Mexican tile design, it’s really very pretty and very southwest looking. The terra-cotta background color is dark and looks like it’ll nearly match the main color of my house. It’ll hang from the front beam of the porch overhang, I think. The turquoise blue numbers really sold it, it’s the color I hope to incorporate as an accessory accent around the house here and there.

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  14. The house I grew up in was built in 1947 so i’m thinking the stove may have been original to that house. It was still working fine in 1990, the year my mom died and I decided it was one of things I wanted to take from the house before it sold (a new buyer probably would have pitched it for a brand new one anyway).


  15. Seventeen year old is very excited. She had five dollars left from grocery shopping last week and spent it on clothing that did not fit, though it was pretty. So I gave her a lower limit this time. She wanted to buy tortillas but could not find them in the store. I told her she could make them at home for a lot less money by just buying flour and baking powder and using her salt and margarine (not the best choice but she is a vegetarian again. Anyway, she is having great success with her tortillas and refried beans she made from dried beans.

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