Prayer Requests 7-27-18

It’s Friday, so please remember to pray for Mumsee, Mike, and the Nestlings.

Anyone else?

Psalm 141

I call to you, Lord, come quickly to me;
    hear me when I call to you.
May my prayer be set before you like incense;
    may the lifting up of my hands be like the evening sacrifice.

Set a guard over my mouth, Lord;
    keep watch over the door of my lips.
Do not let my heart be drawn to what is evil
    so that I take part in wicked deeds
   along with those who are evildoers;
    do not let me eat their delicacies.

Let a righteous man strike me—that is a kindness;
    let him rebuke me—that is oil on my head.
   My head will not refuse it,
    for my prayer will still be against the deeds of evildoers.

Their rulers will be thrown down from the cliffs,
    and the wicked will learn that my words were well spoken.
They will say, “As one plows and breaks up the earth,
    so our bones have been scattered at the mouth of the grave.”

But my eyes are fixed on you, Sovereign Lord;
    in you I take refuge—do not give me over to death.
Keep me safe from the traps set by evildoers,
    from the snares they have laid for me.
10 Let the wicked fall into their own nets,
    while I pass by in safety.

12 thoughts on “Prayer Requests 7-27-18

  1. Redding, the major city in northern California that straddles I-5 is now on fire. Western part of town has been evacuated, and that includes friends. Rain would help us all. Thanks.

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  2. Lots of fires this year, already. And in strange places.

    And on the home front, things continue to go very well. Both sixteen year olds are doing exceptionally well. I was talking to son yesterday, he has started coming home on time. Talking about his day, I asked if he thought he averaged at least seven hours per day on devices (remember, he is not allowed to have one, though he does). He said yes, and we both know it is probably at least a couple of hours more than that. I asked him if he realized that meant he spent at least a third of his life on screen time. He chuckled. I told him that was a lot but just about average for children his age. So he is average, he grinned.

    The two youngers continue to do very well and I am thoroughly grateful for God’s continuing guidance and allowing of a time of rest.

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  3. Oh Dear. I have a bathing suit I bought at the Target in Redding. That must mean that JH Ranch is in danger of fire. They are a few miles south of Etna. There are lots of people there now for the summer program.

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  4. Chickadee texted me a little while ago to inform me that the bedbug scare was a false alarm, so there will not be a fumigation. She asked if we could reschedule our dinner for next week, and I said okay. (But I was looking forward to having her here for an extended visit.)

    I have to admit that I felt somewhere between silly and stupid for how I felt before I knew the real reason for her planning to spend the night. I had let myself think that she wanted to, to spend more time with me, and that maybe. . .just maybe. . .(although I warned myself not to think this way). . .she was getting tired of being with the McKs. And I must admit that I cried when I realized how wrong I was.

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  5. Kizzie, I know it is hard that she chooses to live elsewhere. Our younger daughter moved out for nobler reasons–partly because her grandmother had been widowed and had never lived alone. But partly, she had already been talking about getting an apartment, and I think that living with her grandmother appealed to her. It was “noble” combined with free rent and (she thought) more freedom because she wouldn’t be living with her folks. (In reality, we gave her more freedom to do her own thing. Her grandma frets if she is working ten minutes away and she isn’t home twelve minutes after her shift ends.) If she had lived there a few months and then come “home,” we’d have welcomed her. When we were getting ready to move out of town, we asked if she wanted to move with us; we’d have kept a bedroom for her if she had said yes, but she said no.

    Kizzie, the reality is that the vast majority of young people who leave home either stay gone or they come home because they get in trouble and need to come home. Your Nightingale would likely not have moved home if it hadn’t been for the Boy. Perhaps she would have moved home now for your sake, but perhaps not. But it is exceedingly rare for young adults to move back home just because they miss their parents. (I do know a few working single adults who moved back with a widowed mother, or invited her to live with them, because it made sense to share household expenses and/or they were concerned about an aging parent living alone. But here we are talking about mature, responsible adults in their thirties or older. Chickadee wouldn’t move home for your sake–you have Nightingale. She’d probably only move home if she had a crisis in her own life, bad news for her.)

    I know it is easier said than done, but I really think you need to work on “letting go” your hope of Chickadee living with you again. It is normal for young adults to leave home and not return. Yes, she has some special needs and you have some concerns about her living arrangements. But living with someone other than you is not sin, it is not rebellion, and it is not personal. It’s a normal part of growing up. It’s also common normal that parents don’t like their children’s roommates or don’t think they are ready to be on their own. And obviously you do want her to be living with people who make wiser life choices. I’d definitely pray that she can find a better place to live–but recognize that it’s highly unlikely she’d come home to live with you. She is an adult, and it isn’t her home anymore. And if she senses that you are still wanting her to move back, it’s likely to make her avoid you more. She needs you to be the strong parent, not the needy person clinging to her and hoping for any crumb of her attention. Yes, you want to see her, and you would love it if she would move back–but I suspect you might get farther if you see her as an adult and are able to transition into more of a friendly adult relationship, like you have with Nightingale. Accept her choice to move out, and respect her right to make that choice. Pray that she’ll find a better place to live, but don’t look for her to be your little girl living at home again–that part of her life is over.

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  6. BG is 20 and I have faced that she will most likely never live under my roof again. I don’t like her living arrangements right now, but I no longer have control over that.
    Mr. P and I were talking about her earlier today and he was telling me what she should do. I told him he needed to call her and be the “parent” that took her out to dinner next time. I lived at home with my dad for two years of college. Then I was gone.
    Kizzie, I love you, but this isn’t healthy for you nor Chickadee. My Mama Ruth was a very wise woman. She once told me that the one who pressures the other will be the one the other will turn on. Stop putting pressure on Chickadee. I know you think you aren’t, but you are. I know this because I find myself putting pressure on BG.

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  7. No, I really don’t think I am.

    I talk to her as a fellow adult. I show an interest in her life. I don’t ask her to come home, and I don’t pressure her to do anything. The weekly dinner was her idea. I leave everything up to her.

    What I wrote here was merely sharing my own thoughts that I can’t share with anyone else but thought I could share here. As I said, I felt stupid for thinking there was more to it than there was. I should have known better.

    The McKs are bad for her. Not only are the McK daughters “social justice warriors” and self-professed LGBT activists with very ungodly views in many areas, the whole family is dysfunctional, with three grown women sharing a bedroom and living like teenagers. She is every bit as dependent on them as she was on us when she was younger. She may be dependent on living with someone for the rest of her life (unless God does a miracle in her), and I would rather that be us than them.

    But I am determined to wait for God to move in her, and I don’t try to push or rush anything. It would be wonderful if He would also do a miracle in the McK daughters, and all three young women (the two McK daughters and Chickadee) “got right with God”. I would still feel some sadness that she has chosen their family over ours, but I would rejoice, and feel peace, that she would be in the right place spiritually.

    It is so frustrating to me that I cannot talk these things over with Hubby.

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  8. I realize that you are not going to believe that I am not in some way pressuring her, but I know in my heart that I have been very hands off in this situation, and have done my best to keep things light between Chickadee and me. I continue to surrender her to God, but that doesn’t mean that my heart stops being concerned, and wishing and praying for a change.

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  9. Keep in mind that my emotions are more fragile (?) during this time of grieving. So Chickadee’s drawing away at this time has hit me harder than it might have at another time. But still, I do not let on to her how I am feeling, keeping my conversation light with her.

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  10. I M sorry Kizzie. I struggle as well with BG and just want to save you the pain. The things I say to you are the conversations I have with myself. 😥

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  11. Kizzie, I too have no intention on beating up on you, and I know it must be difficult. I wouldn’t want my child living there, either. She’s highly unlikely ever to come back to your home, though, and a false hope of that seems likely to continue to cause pain. Pray that she will leave that situation, and leave it to God where she ends up. (For the record, I would rather have had our 24-year-old come back after a few months, after her grandmother was a bit settled. I think it would have been better for her and for us to have her at home–but it just isn’t a decision a lot of adult children make unless they face divorce, single parenting, unemployment, or serious illness–or a wish to freeload off Mom and Dad. Moving back home “just because” seems rare.)

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