Prayer Requests 3-23-18

It’s Friday, so please remember to pray for Mumsee, Mike, and the Nestlings.

Anyone else?

Psalm 43

Vindicate me, my God,
    and plead my cause
    against an unfaithful nation.
   Rescue me from those who are
    deceitful and wicked.
You are God my stronghold.
    Why have you rejected me?
   Why must I go about mourning,
    oppressed by the enemy?
Send me your light and your faithful care,
    let them lead me;
   let them bring me to your holy mountain,
    to the place where you dwell.
Then I will go to the altar of God,
    to God, my joy and my delight.
   I will praise you with the lyre,
    O God, my God.

Why, my soul, are you downcast?
    Why so disturbed within me?
   Put your hope in God,
    for I will yet praise him,
    my Savior and my God.

12 thoughts on “Prayer Requests 3-23-18

  1. Please remember to pray for BG. She is having tummy issues, most probably related to her diet. She has some of the most unhealthy eating habits of anyone I know.

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  2. Kim, when youngest GD would eat nothing but macaroni and cheese, they made her drink Ensure. I don’t know if you can do that.
    But Jenn survived. That was long ago.
    .

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  3. I remember my own terrible eating habits when I was younger. Some of those have probably come back to bite me, but I cannot complain. Our children (no matter how grown) can sure keep us on our knees.

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  4. Continuing from yesterday, on the situation with Chickadee.

    Cheryl, I agree that this could turn out to be a very positive thing. My concern is that Chickadee may not be up to following through with what she says she wants to do due to her severe anxieties.

    I mentioned her problem with the talking on the phone yesterday. She also would get overwhelmed and overly frustrated with The Boy after a short time of being with him, which is why she spent much or most of the time in her room when she was here. Being asked simple questions may cause her to become uptight and angry. (Again, I don’t know if she actually has “Asperger’s Syndrome”, or is anywhere else on the autism spectrum, but becoming anxious over simple questions is a trait of what used to be called Asperger’s.) She also becomes very anxious about the idea of running into a store alone for a couple items. She is always with somebody when she is out of the house, which gives her enough “courage” to seem not to be anxious.

    I don’t mention these things to put her down, but to give a somewhat fuller picture of how her anxieties greatly hinder her, and why I am so concerned for her. As I wrote yesterday, “Knowing her as I do, knowing how very anxious and overwhelmed she can become, I cannot imagine her going to college or even getting through a job interview, let alone doing a job for several hours a day.” It took me a long time to admit to myself that I felt that way.

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  5. Besides praying for the situation with Chickadee, please also pray for Nightingale and The Boy. She was in tears talking to me this morning, and she is not one to cry easily at all.

    As they were getting ready to leave for the school bus this morning, The Boy told her he doesn’t like her anymore. She knows that’s not really true, but it stung nonetheless.

    Mr X has been playing the Fun Dad role, and letting him eat the stuff he shouldn’t be eating much of (one day all he fed him was French toast sticks, pancakes, and two donuts), and probably do stuff he shouldn’t be doing (such as playing video games meant for teens).

    Nightingale has to be in the Mean Mommy role, the one who does the hard work with him, making him go to bed on time and get up on time for school, and set boundaries with him, and all that boring stuff. (Although, she is also the one who takes him to his sports and to Cub Scouts, and she does do other fun stuff with him when she has time, but those things are so easily forgotten when you don’t want to get ready for school.)

    Her tears weren’t only for herself, but also for her son, knowing that X isn’t really a good father, but is trying to play the role of one, while doing everything as conveniently as he can. As I previously mentioned, he doesn’t have The Boy brush his teeth or change his clothes when he has him overnight. He feeds him fast food, and sometimes drops him off well after dinnertime without having fed him any dinner. And The Boy is usually harder to handle after being with his dad.

    This leads into again asking prayer for Nightingale to get a good new job with mostly daytime hours, so she can be with him more, preferably with a day off during the week on which to schedule the various appointments that come up.

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  6. One thing children are a natural at is pitting one parent against another. This sounds way too normal, Kizzie. Sad for the children’s sake, of course. Almost every mom I know has to be the mean mommy. Eventually, they grow up and see the truth. It helps to remember the goal, which is not to be liked. Of course, it helps if you are doing it because God would have you do it. Nightingale misses out on that. 😦

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  7. Kizzie, I have one child who gets super anxious and I myself don’t really like talking on the phone unless to people I already know and love. (I can handle business calls but avoid them if possible–by e-mailing, for example–and in college I would take 10 or 15 minutes to get up enough nerve to call a friend, sweating the whole time, and would be relieved if I got her answering machine instead and it was now her job to call me back.) But the child who gets super anxious, who couldn’t go on dates at all (their first few dates were sitting in our kitchen and not eating anything, because she couldn’t go out and couldn’t leave the house), who threw up on her way to college and on her way to meet a friend at a coffee shop, who took several years to get her driver’s license after she first started learning, who got to a place where she wanted to apply for a job and couldn’t go in, etc. has had to move forward in life in spite of her anxieties, and generally does OK. Read the “Little House” books and you will see frequent instances of Laura’s sister Mary paralyzed by fear (even in life-endangering situations). Some people struggle with anxieties more than other people do.

    So, Chickadee has given up the job she had. That now puts her into a position of thinking through what she wants to do next. Whether she makes that choice well or poorly, it is hers to make–and that’s part of growing up. Again, I have a kid like that, so I know what it is like–I also know that I cannot allow her anxieties to make me anxious, too. I pray for her, I don’t knowingly add to her stress, and I let it be her issue to conquer. Her husband has also been great for her–he knows when and how to push her a bit out of her comfort zone, but also how to comfort and encourage her. Those are things parents cannot do as well–our own inclination with the anxious one might be to comfort and protect, but by the time a child is an adult, she needs to be moving on into the adult world. Don’t let her anxiety make you anxious, and don’t dwell on it. Pray for her and move on with your life. Adult children can and do have part of our hearts, but we don’t have responsibility for them any more.

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  8. When Chickadee was still at home, it was our plan to slowly help her learn how to deal with various adult life situations. (I overcame agoraphobia years ago, so I am familiar with the idea of gradually exposing the fearful or anxious one to various anxiety-provoking situations.) We would attack one issue at a time, not pushing her too hard, but encouraging her through each one. At least, that was the plan.

    Then she moved with the McKs and seemed to stop in her growth.

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  9. Oh, yes, we fully realize that part of what Nightingale and The Boy are going through is par for the course for single parents and their children. The main issue for Nightingale isn’t even only the matter of Mr X being Fun Dad and her being Mean Mommy, but knowing how X is.

    He is manipulative and controlling, and has often tried to turn The Boy against Nightingale. On two occasions, when The Boy was smaller, X tore off a scab to make a wound look worse than it was, to put the blame on Nightingale. One time that resulted in an infection that needed medical treatment.

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  10. And remember, this is the same man who, in front of his then-five-year-old son ripped Nightingale’s glasses off her face, started to strangle her, and threatened to shoot her in the head.

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