Prayer Requests 4-13-17

It’s Thursday, so don’t forget to pray for Jo, her students, and the people of PNG.

Anyone else?

Psalm 42

As the deer pants for streams of water,
    so my soul pants for you, my God.
My soul thirsts for God, for the living God.
    When can I go and meet with God?
My tears have been my food
    day and night,
while people say to me all day long,
    “Where is your God?”
These things I remember
    as I pour out my soul:
how I used to go to the house of God
    under the protection of the Mighty One
with shouts of joy and praise
    among the festive throng.

Why, my soul, are you downcast?
    Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God,
    for I will yet praise him,
    my Savior and my God.

My soul is downcast within me;
    therefore I will remember you
from the land of the Jordan,
    the heights of Hermon—from Mount Mizar.
Deep calls to deep
    in the roar of your waterfalls;
all your waves and breakers
    have swept over me.

By day the Lord directs his love,
    at night his song is with me—
    a prayer to the God of my life.

I say to God my Rock,
    “Why have you forgotten me?
Why must I go about mourning,
    oppressed by the enemy?”
10 My bones suffer mortal agony
    as my foes taunt me,
saying to me all day long,
    “Where is your God?”

11 Why, my soul, are you downcast?
    Why so disturbed within me?
Put your hope in God,
    for I will yet praise him,
    my Savior and my God.

27 thoughts on “Prayer Requests 4-13-17

  1. Anonymous | April 12, 2017 at 5:02 pm
    First, and foremost, please pray for my wife, and her sisters and their mom. Her dad passed away last month.

    Secondly, please pray for my marriage. I did an incredibly stupid thing, and the upshot is that we are currently separated, informally. In counseling, I found out that it wasn’t just that and the couple of other dumb things I have done in the past 20 years, but issues of communication and anger that I have apparently been blind to.

    Just praying that she will take me back.

    I read this post late last night on my phone and didn’t comment. As the only divorced person on this blog I would like to make a couple of comments. It brought up so many emotions in me. What follows are my past feelings and I share them, only hoping they help you see things from your wife’s side.
    I was that wife that had had enough. Every slight, every hurt, every thing my husband had ever done or most especially NOT done bubbled up inside of me and I meant I was done. There was not reasoning with me. Looking back what I really wanted was for my husband to notice me. I begged him for attention. If he had just made the effort to take me somewhere for the weekend just the two of us. If he made the effort to do something with BG and me. We had ONE family vacation in BG’s life and I had to beg and plead for him to go on a weekend trip to the beach with friends who had a FREE condo. If, if, if, …..
    One of the last straws was when his boss came to town and wanted to take him and a client to one of our best restaurants. I was invited as well, but EX told me he understood how tired I was being a mother all day and he understood if I didn’t want to go, he would make my excuses!!!!! What planet was he living on. The very thing I would enjoy after a long day of being a mother would be to dress up and have a nice dinner with adults!!!!!! What he said and what I heard were two different things. What I heard was that I was an embarrassment to him and he didn’t want me around people he worked with.
    I even gave him the book His Needs, Her Needs, How to Affair Proof Your Marriage. He tossed it back at me and told me he didn’t need it. Guess that gave me my answer. By the time I filed for divorce there was no reasoning with me. I was DONE.
    Three things he did after we divorced that hurt me deeper than anything he did when we were married was:
    He quit playing golf EVERY Saturday–His daughter was more important than golf (obviously his wife and marriage wasn’t)
    Take BG to Disney World—I had begged him to plan that when we were married.
    He started traveling again. He even went to St. Thomas to get remarried. He wouldn’t even go to the local beach with me.

    NOW MY ADVICE
    DON’T GIVE UP!!! Do you hear me? Don’t give up. Pray like you’ve never prayed before. Beg, plead, pray. Fight for your marriage as if your life depended on it.
    Go to counceling with an open mind and do whatever “stupid” sounding thing the therapist tells you to do.
    Find some way, some how to take your wife away for a day or two–remember why you married in the first place. “Court” her. Make her feel special. Let her know she is the most important person in your life. DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE!!!!!
    Be honest.

    Looking back, the biggest regret in my life is my divorce. I carry guilt about it every day. Every comment about marriage on this blog sticks a dagger in my conscious. Every time I ask you to pray for BG I think I wouldn’t be having this problem or that problem with her if I had just stayed married to her father. If I could go back, I would put my marriage and my child before my selfish hurts.
    This sounds like it was all about me, but it was the only way I knew to tell you just how important it really is for you to fight for your marriage like you would fight for the very next breath you take.
    Please, please, please, do whatever it is you need to do so that you don’t end up divorced.

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  2. After that long winded post above…
    BG and I have therapy together today. She keeps telling me she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. I just want her to get better.
    …BUT….the mother who divorced her father is terrified that she is going to tell me what a failure I was and am and that she is angry with me and wants nothing to do with me. The girl who had the alcoholic for a mother is afraid she is about to be hurt and abandoned again.

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  3. Kim, they do grow up and they do separate but they usually come back more mature and more understanding and more loving. Love your husband. Your daughter will make her decisions.

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  4. Kim, FYI, you aren’t the only divorced person on this blog. AJ is, and one or two of the women (but I’m not confident I’d get it right if I said who). Others may be as well. But you have used your pain and regret to counsel others, and that is humility and wisdom.

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  5. My oncologist wants to do a scan just to make sure the sciatica is not connected to the cancer. Prayers that it’s not and the sciatica will clear up soon. Meds no longer working and upsetting my stomach. I have seemed to found the right exercises, though.

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  6. That is a good thing. Will continue to pray for wisdom for your doctors, wisdom for you on how to use their input, and the peace of God throughout.

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  7. Oh, Kim, my heart hurts reading your pain. My daughter and I have struggled (not nearly to the same degree as you) with each other. I have felt like the worst mother in the world and I think she used to believe I was the worst mother in the world. The other day she phoned me and we just chatted about random things – she was happy and, wow, it was wonderful to have that conversation. No stress, no need, no news of anything dramatic – good or bad. She’s 28. It’s taken a while.

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  8. Ask a couple of my kids and they will tell you I did not get the mothering thing right with them….and yes, guilt will creep in on me so unexpectedly at times….Maybe I could have done some things differently at times. What counts now for me is that I am gentle with them..admitting I probably could have done some things differently but regret will not change it…move on, extend grace and forgiveness and take one more step forward….(and we all know THEY are the PERFECT parent with THEIR kiddos….until THEIR kiddos grow into adulthood and tell THEM just how lousy THEY were at parenting!)

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  9. When I’ve reviewed memories with my kids in which I felt like a failure–and thus wanted to apologize–they’ve always extended a lot of grace in my direction and, frankly, never thought I needed to apologize.

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  10. My sis in law sent me a plague through my eldest son, we laughed. It is prominently displayed:
    So I am not a perfect mom, adjust.

    Most of my grown children are fine with how I parented, but not all. I see it as temporary and if not, it is not my burden. I did what I did in the way I thought would help them grow up the best.

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  11. Kare. 🙂

    A couple of prayer requests:

    First, for hubby, that he would get to feeling better. He thought it was about time he go in for a checkup, as he hasn’t been feeling well for a while. Appointment was this morning, then he went to work, and I haven’t heard from him yet, so I don’t know what, if anything, he found out. Also, he was having a bad morning around here before he left, trying to do a favor for a friend when he was too busy to take it on. (But he can’t ever say no to things others ask of him, even when he doesn’t want to do it.) Long story short, fulfilling the favor got very involved, and now our Suburban has $500 in damages, he estimates.

    And a request for safe travels for 1st Arrow. He has tomorrow off of work, so is coming home tonight for the weekend — a drive of a few hours. Weather is good. Thanks.

    Praying for all above, as always.

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  12. Nightingale & Little Guy have gone away for today & tomorrow, as he is on April vacation from school, & she had a couple days off. Praying for safe travels, among other things.

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  13. It was difficult. BG was combative and pouting alternately. I have an appointment with the therapist next Friday. NO one is happy with the results of this session. She wants to go back to live with Nana which isn’t an option. Mr. P wants her to contribute around the house which we had to stop talking about because her hour was over. He says she can start paying rent if she won’t contribute. She doesn’t make enough to pay rent and I need to keep her here to get her healthy. She also thinks perhaps she can go live with the boyfriend and his dad! And I ain’t happy because they ain’t happy.
    The therapist asked me if it was like walking on eggshells around my house. Ya think? YES, yes it is.

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  14. I am also divorced. I met with a counselor who had met with him. Nothing they could do for the marriage unless he was willing to give up the other woman. He married her three days after the divorce was final.
    However, I went to my pastor and elders and they still strongly support me. They met with him a number of times.

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  15. Kim – I’m so sorry. Wish I could give you a big hug.

    An idea: Although BG can’t afford rent, her “rent” could be merely a token amount of money each week or month. The responsibility of having to pay a little something each month would be good for her.

    Is she doing her own laundry & cleaning up after herself? I hope so.

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  16. Yeah, it seems like a token amount of money is better than nothing (if she is not in school anymore, then it’s time to start paying rent), and maybe you can have an arrangement that she pays a given amount in rent, and anything that she can’t pay in finances she can pay in work done around the house. An actual contract might be useful (your responsibilities and hers, and the consequences for breaking responsibilities).

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  17. Kim, I am sorry this is so hard. I imagine that she does feel your love, though, especially when she knows herself to be unlovely and at those moments you are still there.

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  18. Kim, do not shoulder her burden of guilt. She is a big girl, responsible for her actions. You raised her well, there are many different styles of parenting. She can live with you and you can try to help her but do not let her shift the blame to you. Children have been raised in a wide range of ways, none of them perfect. There are no perfect parents. And a child in rebellion will find any weakness you show and try to run with it. If you want to shoulder the blame, she will let you but that won’t help her grow or even maintain.

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