My friend L is still in the hospital. Tomorrow is her birthday. It is doubtful that she will be out of the hospital and home. (She had surgery last Tuesday). She did report that if you cry hard enough the nurses will let you out of bed and into the shower. She said she felt a lot better after getting clean. Her creotin (sp) numbers are still high. She was in acute renal failure.
As if L didn’t have enough to deal with, it seems they had to put their Golden-Doodle down. He had hip displasia and they knew this day was coming, but it seems a little harder on her because she didn’t get to say good-bye.
I thought about this ever since last Friday on whether I should post any of these or not. I had wanted to post each day as the book goes so that I wasn’t the one making the decision as to what someone else needed to hear. I have often found that the right words make it to someone at the right time. I have also pondered whether I should just order and mail Mumsee and a couple of others their own copy of this book. Today’s affirmation seems timely in a lot of ways. My intent in life to to live harmoniously and never cause disharmony. I live/lived with major disharmony most of my life.
November 7
CONSISTENCY
WHAT I SAY AND WHAT I DO ARE HARMONIOUS
As I become healthier, I am discovering a clear sense of my own values. For years I was too busy pleasing everyone else. I had no clue as to what my thoughts, feelings, and opinions were about in any situation.
Today I am willing to communicate that which I believe is important to me. Communicating my values mean more than announcing my beliefs to the world. I must make sure that my actions communicate what I value. When I act unconsciously my behavior sometimes leads to choices that contradict what I say I believe.
As a parent, as a friend, or employee, I will be sure that what I say and what I do are harmonious.
After 20+ years of trying to figure myself out, I mostly know what my thoughts, feelings, and opinions are. I choose to keep them to myself most of the time because harmony is extremely important to me. My “word” is PEACE. Above all else I want peace in my life.
Kim – My dad’s parents divorced when he was 10 years old. Before the divorce, there was a lot of yelling & discord in the home. (And when his dad remarried, his step-mother was horrible to him.) So Dad decided to keep the peace in his adult home by not arguing with Mom. He didn’t think people could argue without getting heated about it, & he didn’t want that anger in his home, so he kept his mouth shut.
As a result, Mom was often resentful that he wouldn’t discuss his feelings with her, as she could tell when he was angry, but he wouldn’t talk about it. My theory is that Dad not dealing with Mom allowed her to grow in her sharp tongue & critical attitude, as there was no one in authority to counter her. And during one isolated conversation with Dad, a kind of conversation that never happened again, I learned that he was bitter & resentful himself. His trying to keep the peace by keeping his thoughts to himself may have resulted in a veneer of peace, but neither one had real peace inside.
I don’t know if I was subconsciously following Dad’s example, or if I was trying too hard to be “submissive” to my husband, but I went years without telling Hubby that some of his attitudes & behavior towards me were hurtful & wrong. Then one day the Holy Spirit showed me that in not confronting him, I was allowing that sin to grow & fester in him, & that I would fall into the sin & torment of bitterness if I didn’t say something.
It was hard, but I learned to tell Hubby when he was hurting me by his behavior. It is an area we are still working out, & it may never be fully resolved, but it is much better than it was.
Kizzie the hardest thing for me to do is “lance the wound”. At least with Mr. P in some areas I have learned to hold my hand up for him to stop talking and ask him to let me finish what I was saying before he continues to talk over me. It is hard, but it is easier with him than with anyone else in my life. We only have one major are of discord and it isn’t going to get fixed any time soon.
Wandering Views 
Please keep my husband in prayer this morning, as he interviews for the new job. Thank you.
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My friend L is still in the hospital. Tomorrow is her birthday. It is doubtful that she will be out of the hospital and home. (She had surgery last Tuesday). She did report that if you cry hard enough the nurses will let you out of bed and into the shower. She said she felt a lot better after getting clean. Her creotin (sp) numbers are still high. She was in acute renal failure.
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As if L didn’t have enough to deal with, it seems they had to put their Golden-Doodle down. He had hip displasia and they knew this day was coming, but it seems a little harder on her because she didn’t get to say good-bye.
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😦 Things really can hit all at once — I remember Norma had to put her cat down just a month or two before her own impending death. 😦
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I thought about this ever since last Friday on whether I should post any of these or not. I had wanted to post each day as the book goes so that I wasn’t the one making the decision as to what someone else needed to hear. I have often found that the right words make it to someone at the right time. I have also pondered whether I should just order and mail Mumsee and a couple of others their own copy of this book. Today’s affirmation seems timely in a lot of ways. My intent in life to to live harmoniously and never cause disharmony. I live/lived with major disharmony most of my life.
November 7
CONSISTENCY
WHAT I SAY AND WHAT I DO ARE HARMONIOUS
As I become healthier, I am discovering a clear sense of my own values. For years I was too busy pleasing everyone else. I had no clue as to what my thoughts, feelings, and opinions were about in any situation.
Today I am willing to communicate that which I believe is important to me. Communicating my values mean more than announcing my beliefs to the world. I must make sure that my actions communicate what I value. When I act unconsciously my behavior sometimes leads to choices that contradict what I say I believe.
As a parent, as a friend, or employee, I will be sure that what I say and what I do are harmonious.
After 20+ years of trying to figure myself out, I mostly know what my thoughts, feelings, and opinions are. I choose to keep them to myself most of the time because harmony is extremely important to me. My “word” is PEACE. Above all else I want peace in my life.
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Kim – My dad’s parents divorced when he was 10 years old. Before the divorce, there was a lot of yelling & discord in the home. (And when his dad remarried, his step-mother was horrible to him.) So Dad decided to keep the peace in his adult home by not arguing with Mom. He didn’t think people could argue without getting heated about it, & he didn’t want that anger in his home, so he kept his mouth shut.
As a result, Mom was often resentful that he wouldn’t discuss his feelings with her, as she could tell when he was angry, but he wouldn’t talk about it. My theory is that Dad not dealing with Mom allowed her to grow in her sharp tongue & critical attitude, as there was no one in authority to counter her. And during one isolated conversation with Dad, a kind of conversation that never happened again, I learned that he was bitter & resentful himself. His trying to keep the peace by keeping his thoughts to himself may have resulted in a veneer of peace, but neither one had real peace inside.
I don’t know if I was subconsciously following Dad’s example, or if I was trying too hard to be “submissive” to my husband, but I went years without telling Hubby that some of his attitudes & behavior towards me were hurtful & wrong. Then one day the Holy Spirit showed me that in not confronting him, I was allowing that sin to grow & fester in him, & that I would fall into the sin & torment of bitterness if I didn’t say something.
It was hard, but I learned to tell Hubby when he was hurting me by his behavior. It is an area we are still working out, & it may never be fully resolved, but it is much better than it was.
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Kizzie the hardest thing for me to do is “lance the wound”. At least with Mr. P in some areas I have learned to hold my hand up for him to stop talking and ask him to let me finish what I was saying before he continues to talk over me. It is hard, but it is easier with him than with anyone else in my life. We only have one major are of discord and it isn’t going to get fixed any time soon.
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The school took son out of class and sent him to counseling, theirs not ours, without our permission. Wisdom.
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