While I do realize that my child has brought most all of what she is going through. Her prom is April 30th and her boyfriend finally asked to take her yesterday. She went to the office to get tickets and an application for an outsihde date. The deadline for an outside date was this past Friday. It’s her Senior Prom. It is the first thing in forever she has wanted to do associated with school in a long time. I tried to get her to go last year and she wouldn’t because she didn’t have a date. I have been asking her if she was going. It breaks my heart that she won’t have any of these memories or connection to high school. I think I went to about 8 or 10 proms and I wasn’t even popular. I was also, except for once, an “outside” date. It is ridiculous to expect people to only date people they go to school with.
Please pray ….I don’t even know what I am asking you to pray for. My heart just hurts for her.
Kim – I usually wouldn’t suggest asking special permission, but since her boyfriend didn’t even ask her until it was too late, would you consider calling the school & asking them to waive the deadline for her under the circumstances?
I did not go to any proms, & I really don’t regret that. Maybe at the time I did, but as an adult, it doesn’t really matter to me. I’m sorry BG doesn’t have any fond memories of high school, though, & I’m sorry it is hurting your heart so.
If it weren’t for the fact that she’d probably think it was pretty lame, you could hold a prom-for-two in your home, maybe on the patio, if it’s nice out.
I cannot imagine going to a Prom so I have no problem with a missed deadline. However, I am aware there are others who find it fun or amusing or important. So, I will pray for Kim. And I will pray for Kim’s daughter.
There is nothing about High School that I remember fondly. Except tennis. But I played that anyway. I would not go back ever, if possible. My Dad does not understand that, he thinks it was the most wonderful time to him. I can’t understand that, I love my life now. It has all been good, but it has only gotten better the longer I live and the closer to God.
By the way, of my fifteen children, number eleven is the first to express any real interest in going. He asked me last Fall if he could go. I have not heard anything since, so, based on Kim’s comment, I asked him if he had asked her yet. He said he plans to ask her tomorrow. I asked him if there is a deadline. Not that he knows of. I asked him if he has ever spoken to the girl. Not really but a couple of times. I asked if he was confident she is available. He said they don’t set themselves up for failure, he knows she will accept through his sources. And I missed out on that? No thank you. But he is a good steady boy and I suspect he will treat the girl with respect and dignity. Her parents should be pleased rather than waiting for him with a shotgun. I told him that is what I expect of him.
I did call and ask the school. I explained everything and they will not bend.
I understand it was her responsibility to make the deadline, but I also think there are times you bend the rules.
I have not been pleased with the education she (didn’t get) even though I tried. I haven’t been pleased with the school at all. I explained to the woman I spoke with that her father, mother, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents graduated from Fairhope and she is the last to come through. I explained that this has been a rough year for her. “The deadline was Friday” end of story.
How are the plans for the trip coming? Everything purchased? Game plan in place? Excitement generating? I know it won’t replace the Prom, that is not the point, but it is something to look forward to.
Yes. Plans are coming along. We are flying into Oakland and have a private tour guide of San Francisco for one day then the next we will drive up to the ranch. I am looking forward to it as much for myself as I am for her.
Everyone I have spoken with about it says it will change your life. I am about ready for my life to be changed. 😉
You couldn’t pay me enough to revisit the hell that was high school. Actually I think it started in 8th grade. Until then I was in a bubble of happiness with friends.
I have promised BG that this will be over soon and she never has to look back.
My boyfriend–whom I married four years later–point blank refused to take me to the prom and it was a sore point for a long time. A friend who also didn’t go went with her parents to “Prom Springs” for the weekend to get away. I stayed home and read. I’m sorry this happened to BG.
I’d like prayer for imagination today. Tomorrow’s Bible study is really thin and fairly lame–if you can say that–so, prayers I’ll hear the Lord’s whisper and follow His directions.
In my limited experience, I have noticed that the issue of “memories from high school” are overblown. I don’t have many fond high school memories and don’t miss them.
Kim – It stinks that the school won’t budge. Did you speak to the principal? (I’m guessing you probably did.)
Could it be that this is so important to you because you don’t have any fond memories of high school yourself, so you want that for BG? Prayers for both of you to be at peace with this, & find something else enjoyable.
I don’t know what Chuck’s HS experience was.
But long afterward, someone called to invite him to a tenth AHS reunion.
I told chuck abut it. He said:
“There’s nobody there I want to see again.”
Upon the graduation of our eldest, we had a little informal gathering of homeschool families to help us celebrate. These were almost all professors at West Point with minimum Master’s Degrees (except me, of course, with my high school diploma). We asked a general question of why did you decide to homeschool? This was back in the early days. Every one of the parents said they chose to homeschool first, because of their experiences in high school. They went on with religious and academic reasons. But every one had bad memories of the high school years.
Interesting to me, now that homeschool is so common, many of the homeschoolers not only wish they had been able to have the public school experience, but some of them are even thinking public school for their children. Often, those who do are dissatisfied with the experience. Perhaps that age is difficult and it does not really matter what you do, people will not be happy. So, it comes down to what type of education does the parent want for the child.
She is OK now. They have decided to get really dressed up and Boyfriend told her that he would take her to a really nice restaurant and make it special.
I am not inclined to like this boy but he is making it harder for me to dislike him.
I didn’t even attend high school, so I have no memories of it at all. But I’ve never thought I missed anything much, considering junior high was bad enough!
Senior prom just because of the tradition…I took an “outside” date…had to register him…it was truly a drag….he thought so as well… 🙂
I went to one reunion, my 25th…and swore I would never attend another….why did I go to a HS reunion when I truly disliked HS? And the mean girls were still mean and the immature boys were still immature boys….sad….BG will have sweet memories of a nice dinner and dancing with her beau…. ❤
My girlfriend (and next door neighbor growing up) took Tiny Tim to our senior prom. Really. School officials almost didn’t let it happen, but he was given the OK and played a couple songs. I had a couple crazy friends back in the day. 🙂 And this was in 1969 when he was pretty popular. I remember my parents and I peering out our dining room window (we’d turned out all the lights) as he brought her home.
Yes, cheryl, junior high was all-out misery!!
Ann, hope all is well in Texas, those were crazy floods you had.
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While I do realize that my child has brought most all of what she is going through. Her prom is April 30th and her boyfriend finally asked to take her yesterday. She went to the office to get tickets and an application for an outsihde date. The deadline for an outside date was this past Friday. It’s her Senior Prom. It is the first thing in forever she has wanted to do associated with school in a long time. I tried to get her to go last year and she wouldn’t because she didn’t have a date. I have been asking her if she was going. It breaks my heart that she won’t have any of these memories or connection to high school. I think I went to about 8 or 10 proms and I wasn’t even popular. I was also, except for once, an “outside” date. It is ridiculous to expect people to only date people they go to school with.
Please pray ….I don’t even know what I am asking you to pray for. My heart just hurts for her.
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Any suggestions for an alternative to Prom? I really wish she had some sort of fond memory of high school but she doesn’t and she won’t.
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Kim – I usually wouldn’t suggest asking special permission, but since her boyfriend didn’t even ask her until it was too late, would you consider calling the school & asking them to waive the deadline for her under the circumstances?
I did not go to any proms, & I really don’t regret that. Maybe at the time I did, but as an adult, it doesn’t really matter to me. I’m sorry BG doesn’t have any fond memories of high school, though, & I’m sorry it is hurting your heart so.
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As for alternatives to prom. is there a dinner theater in the area, or a restaurant that also has dancing (do they even have those anymore)?
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If it weren’t for the fact that she’d probably think it was pretty lame, you could hold a prom-for-two in your home, maybe on the patio, if it’s nice out.
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I cannot imagine going to a Prom so I have no problem with a missed deadline. However, I am aware there are others who find it fun or amusing or important. So, I will pray for Kim. And I will pray for Kim’s daughter.
There is nothing about High School that I remember fondly. Except tennis. But I played that anyway. I would not go back ever, if possible. My Dad does not understand that, he thinks it was the most wonderful time to him. I can’t understand that, I love my life now. It has all been good, but it has only gotten better the longer I live and the closer to God.
By the way, of my fifteen children, number eleven is the first to express any real interest in going. He asked me last Fall if he could go. I have not heard anything since, so, based on Kim’s comment, I asked him if he had asked her yet. He said he plans to ask her tomorrow. I asked him if there is a deadline. Not that he knows of. I asked him if he has ever spoken to the girl. Not really but a couple of times. I asked if he was confident she is available. He said they don’t set themselves up for failure, he knows she will accept through his sources. And I missed out on that? No thank you. But he is a good steady boy and I suspect he will treat the girl with respect and dignity. Her parents should be pleased rather than waiting for him with a shotgun. I told him that is what I expect of him.
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I did call and ask the school. I explained everything and they will not bend.
I understand it was her responsibility to make the deadline, but I also think there are times you bend the rules.
I have not been pleased with the education she (didn’t get) even though I tried. I haven’t been pleased with the school at all. I explained to the woman I spoke with that her father, mother, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents graduated from Fairhope and she is the last to come through. I explained that this has been a rough year for her. “The deadline was Friday” end of story.
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Sorry, Kim.
How are the plans for the trip coming? Everything purchased? Game plan in place? Excitement generating? I know it won’t replace the Prom, that is not the point, but it is something to look forward to.
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Yes. Plans are coming along. We are flying into Oakland and have a private tour guide of San Francisco for one day then the next we will drive up to the ranch. I am looking forward to it as much for myself as I am for her.
Everyone I have spoken with about it says it will change your life. I am about ready for my life to be changed. 😉
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You couldn’t pay me enough to revisit the hell that was high school. Actually I think it started in 8th grade. Until then I was in a bubble of happiness with friends.
I have promised BG that this will be over soon and she never has to look back.
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My boyfriend–whom I married four years later–point blank refused to take me to the prom and it was a sore point for a long time. A friend who also didn’t go went with her parents to “Prom Springs” for the weekend to get away. I stayed home and read. I’m sorry this happened to BG.
I’d like prayer for imagination today. Tomorrow’s Bible study is really thin and fairly lame–if you can say that–so, prayers I’ll hear the Lord’s whisper and follow His directions.
Family is doing okay. Thanks for your prayers.
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In my limited experience, I have noticed that the issue of “memories from high school” are overblown. I don’t have many fond high school memories and don’t miss them.
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Kim – It stinks that the school won’t budge. Did you speak to the principal? (I’m guessing you probably did.)
Could it be that this is so important to you because you don’t have any fond memories of high school yourself, so you want that for BG? Prayers for both of you to be at peace with this, & find something else enjoyable.
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High school is highly over rated, most definitely.
I went to my senior prom & to two grad nights at Disneyland (one when I was a junior and was asked by a senior boy) and enjoyed doing that.
But … meh.
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No, Karen, it is that it is the only school related thing she has taken any interest in in two years.
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I don’t know what Chuck’s HS experience was.
But long afterward, someone called to invite him to a tenth AHS reunion.
I told chuck abut it. He said:
“There’s nobody there I want to see again.”
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Upon the graduation of our eldest, we had a little informal gathering of homeschool families to help us celebrate. These were almost all professors at West Point with minimum Master’s Degrees (except me, of course, with my high school diploma). We asked a general question of why did you decide to homeschool? This was back in the early days. Every one of the parents said they chose to homeschool first, because of their experiences in high school. They went on with religious and academic reasons. But every one had bad memories of the high school years.
Interesting to me, now that homeschool is so common, many of the homeschoolers not only wish they had been able to have the public school experience, but some of them are even thinking public school for their children. Often, those who do are dissatisfied with the experience. Perhaps that age is difficult and it does not really matter what you do, people will not be happy. So, it comes down to what type of education does the parent want for the child.
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Sorry, Kim. 😦
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She is OK now. They have decided to get really dressed up and Boyfriend told her that he would take her to a really nice restaurant and make it special.
I am not inclined to like this boy but he is making it harder for me to dislike him.
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I didn’t even attend high school, so I have no memories of it at all. But I’ve never thought I missed anything much, considering junior high was bad enough!
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Senior prom just because of the tradition…I took an “outside” date…had to register him…it was truly a drag….he thought so as well… 🙂
I went to one reunion, my 25th…and swore I would never attend another….why did I go to a HS reunion when I truly disliked HS? And the mean girls were still mean and the immature boys were still immature boys….sad….BG will have sweet memories of a nice dinner and dancing with her beau…. ❤
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My girlfriend (and next door neighbor growing up) took Tiny Tim to our senior prom. Really. School officials almost didn’t let it happen, but he was given the OK and played a couple songs. I had a couple crazy friends back in the day. 🙂 And this was in 1969 when he was pretty popular. I remember my parents and I peering out our dining room window (we’d turned out all the lights) as he brought her home.
Yes, cheryl, junior high was all-out misery!!
Ann, hope all is well in Texas, those were crazy floods you had.
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