Yesterday was Mom’s 86th birthday….when I called she was in a tizzy and it sounded like bedlam in her house….my sister and her family were there to help out. Apparently Mom hired someone to paint her living room and dining room…and she moved all the furniture away from the walls…the “painter” wouldn’t touch a thing. She didn’t tell any of us that she was doing this and a cousin’s daughter is the one who arranged all of this. We need wisdom in how to help our strong headed Mother…she is adamant that she can do things herself…yet complains that we aren’t “there” for her….I may need to head to OH sooner than I had planned…..
I told my friend whose husband is dying of a fast moving brain cancer that I had posted her posts here a few times, removed their names, and asked you to pray for them. She thanked me and said it was OK to use their names. Here is yesterday’s post if you would like to pray for Lucinda and Mitch.
I wanted to take a few minutes to update everyone as so many of you are on this journey with us and are asking how you can pray. Mitch’s health is deteriorating at a very fast pace. We are now in a hospital bed and don’t try to get him up anymore because it’s reached a point where trying to move him puts to much stress on his very tired body. We’re on hospice care and were keeping Mitch as comfortable as possible. We are spending as much family time with him as we can and appreciate everyone understanding our need for privacy. We can’t thank you enough for the food that has come into our home. My brother and his wife are staying with us from out of town, the kids are stopping by every day and not thinking about food has been a HUGE blessing. I don’t think I could properly boil an egg at this point! How can you pray? I would ask that you pray specifically for God to allow Mitch’s transition from this world to his eternal home to be an easy and comfortable one. Pray that I do the best I can do caring for him and that I make “wise” decisions in all areas of his care. This is my biggest need at this time!!
More prayers for the 31 year old widow. The autopsy showed her husband died from a fluke–hardening of the arteries very common in men, but a piece broke off and lodged in his heart and shut him down completely.
He had finished a bike ride, and keeled over. Nurses were walking by and started CPR immediately. They got him to the hospital, CPR all the way, and worked on him a long time in the ER, but he was gone at 43.
Yesterday, the widow made the memorial arrangements and bought a plot for him, and then for her while she was there. From the cemetery she went to Kaiser where they verified with an ultrasound that she is 12 weeks pregnant.
Her husband knew.
Kaiser, to their credit, did not have her anywhere on their books for an appointment except for a phone call next week. She was understandably distraught, called, explained her circumstances and they swept everyone out of the way to put her through every thing, front of the line, made everyone else wait, got all the paper and bloodwork done.
The baby is perfectly healthy.
Thanks be to God.
The road ahead is tough for a variety of reasons, but please pray for her, her family and now, her two children.
Her mother-in-law is a jewel. The woman has already buried her husband and her youngest son–murdered as a teenager 15 years ago. You ask yourself, how much can a person bear?
Very hard, Michelle. My sister’s husband died shortly after their first anniversary, when their daughter was only about four months old. Difficult road to walk.
NancyJill, praying for you and your situation with your mom. And for Lucinda and Mitch, Kim.
In college I was briefly in a group with a young married couple, also students. She ended up pregnant, and while she was pregnant her husband died. To go from being two college students, married, starting a family to being a pregnant widow who is still in college (with mostly single fellow students, but living on a dorm floor with other married couples) has got to be extremely difficult.
One of my dearest friends (now with the Lord) married at 16 if I recall correctly, and then had four children. When the youngest, her only son, was a few months old, she woke up to find her husband dead beside her. The son died of leukemia at 10, and one of the daughters died as a young woman (30-ish) of breast cancer. She was a dear saint, gentle and sweet, and I told her multiple times that I want to live next door to her in heaven. But I just couldn’t comprehend that level of sorrow in one life, though I do know that people sometimes suffer more than that.
My sister, of course, lost her own husband when she had five children at home, the oldest only 14. One of her sorrows initially was the thought that the youngest will have few or even no memories of their father. She also struggled (later) with really not having anyone else to whom she could really connect. All the other widows she knew had had decades of marriage and were in their seventies and up. My brother is a widower, but a dozen years older than her and with grown children, and anyway he had already remarried by then. So she felt very alone.
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Yesterday was Mom’s 86th birthday….when I called she was in a tizzy and it sounded like bedlam in her house….my sister and her family were there to help out. Apparently Mom hired someone to paint her living room and dining room…and she moved all the furniture away from the walls…the “painter” wouldn’t touch a thing. She didn’t tell any of us that she was doing this and a cousin’s daughter is the one who arranged all of this. We need wisdom in how to help our strong headed Mother…she is adamant that she can do things herself…yet complains that we aren’t “there” for her….I may need to head to OH sooner than I had planned…..
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I told my friend whose husband is dying of a fast moving brain cancer that I had posted her posts here a few times, removed their names, and asked you to pray for them. She thanked me and said it was OK to use their names. Here is yesterday’s post if you would like to pray for Lucinda and Mitch.
I wanted to take a few minutes to update everyone as so many of you are on this journey with us and are asking how you can pray. Mitch’s health is deteriorating at a very fast pace. We are now in a hospital bed and don’t try to get him up anymore because it’s reached a point where trying to move him puts to much stress on his very tired body. We’re on hospice care and were keeping Mitch as comfortable as possible. We are spending as much family time with him as we can and appreciate everyone understanding our need for privacy. We can’t thank you enough for the food that has come into our home. My brother and his wife are staying with us from out of town, the kids are stopping by every day and not thinking about food has been a HUGE blessing. I don’t think I could properly boil an egg at this point! How can you pray? I would ask that you pray specifically for God to allow Mitch’s transition from this world to his eternal home to be an easy and comfortable one. Pray that I do the best I can do caring for him and that I make “wise” decisions in all areas of his care. This is my biggest need at this time!!
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Kim – Crying & praying.
You may have mentioned this, but I forgot – How old are their children?
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All adults, some with children of their own.
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More prayers for the 31 year old widow. The autopsy showed her husband died from a fluke–hardening of the arteries very common in men, but a piece broke off and lodged in his heart and shut him down completely.
He had finished a bike ride, and keeled over. Nurses were walking by and started CPR immediately. They got him to the hospital, CPR all the way, and worked on him a long time in the ER, but he was gone at 43.
Yesterday, the widow made the memorial arrangements and bought a plot for him, and then for her while she was there. From the cemetery she went to Kaiser where they verified with an ultrasound that she is 12 weeks pregnant.
Her husband knew.
Kaiser, to their credit, did not have her anywhere on their books for an appointment except for a phone call next week. She was understandably distraught, called, explained her circumstances and they swept everyone out of the way to put her through every thing, front of the line, made everyone else wait, got all the paper and bloodwork done.
The baby is perfectly healthy.
Thanks be to God.
The road ahead is tough for a variety of reasons, but please pray for her, her family and now, her two children.
Her mother-in-law is a jewel. The woman has already buried her husband and her youngest son–murdered as a teenager 15 years ago. You ask yourself, how much can a person bear?
Particularly without the Lord?
We’ll be finding out. Thank you for your prayers.
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Very hard, Michelle. My sister’s husband died shortly after their first anniversary, when their daughter was only about four months old. Difficult road to walk.
NancyJill, praying for you and your situation with your mom. And for Lucinda and Mitch, Kim.
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In college I was briefly in a group with a young married couple, also students. She ended up pregnant, and while she was pregnant her husband died. To go from being two college students, married, starting a family to being a pregnant widow who is still in college (with mostly single fellow students, but living on a dorm floor with other married couples) has got to be extremely difficult.
One of my dearest friends (now with the Lord) married at 16 if I recall correctly, and then had four children. When the youngest, her only son, was a few months old, she woke up to find her husband dead beside her. The son died of leukemia at 10, and one of the daughters died as a young woman (30-ish) of breast cancer. She was a dear saint, gentle and sweet, and I told her multiple times that I want to live next door to her in heaven. But I just couldn’t comprehend that level of sorrow in one life, though I do know that people sometimes suffer more than that.
My sister, of course, lost her own husband when she had five children at home, the oldest only 14. One of her sorrows initially was the thought that the youngest will have few or even no memories of their father. She also struggled (later) with really not having anyone else to whom she could really connect. All the other widows she knew had had decades of marriage and were in their seventies and up. My brother is a widower, but a dozen years older than her and with grown children, and anyway he had already remarried by then. So she felt very alone.
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