We had some drama here last night in which BG didn’t get what she wanted. She left the house to go for a walk. I told her I would go with her. She ran. I went back to get the car to follow her. She got away and I was fearful the boyfriend was near and she would go somewhere with him. Of course with this new time it was pitch black. I called her dad and he said to call the police. I did. I had my niece out helping me look for her and she found her. The police had to come to the house anyway and they had to see that she was back home.
George, Niece, and I had a long talk with Miss Priss and explained the seriousness of what she was in. Some of which for security I must not say here. That was the first time I really saw fear in her. I think we made progress but probably not as much as I would hope.
Niece asked if BG could go out to First Friday with her and her boyfriend and spend the night with her. We allowed it. It is also one street over from where we live.
After BG and Niece left, Mr P came out and he, George, and I discussed the situation. I showed George the emails and other things I have found on her phone. The three of us agreed on how to proceed with a plan.
Of course the two men are hard noses and it hurts this mother’s heart of mine, but I have agreed to go along with the plan. George grew up with the Chief of Police where she was arrested. They have spoken and we have agreed to let her take her lumps. The most humorous line from the night was Mr. P’s “She’s a TEENAGER! She’s SUPPOSED to be depressed!
It is hard for me not to draw the parallels between my daughter and my mother. Both would hare lip a mule to get their way and in the end make YOU feel like you were the crazy one and should apologize for offending them. Perhaps I need to invest in a little more therapy for me.
George and Mr. P are not hard nosed.
They are men who think like men.
That is, logical.
You mentioned that BG wanted to visit with BF in the bed room.
A man thinks. “What can you do in a bed room?” In five seconds he narrows the choices to two things.
Another five seconds and he has eliminated one of them.
It was wise to disallow it.
It’s wise to listen to a voice that isn’t emotionally tied to the event.
Kim, for all the fussing she is doing right now, she is deep down glad you care about her and that you are stronger and wiser than she is. There is security in that. There is chaos in her own inner world, and she’s a weak little puppy, but the adults around her are strong for her, and to her. And that is excellent, just what she needs. She also needs the loving mama who will still fix breakfast!
The Kid may had stolen something. He denies it. The evidence is against him but not ironclad. I’m stuck between which will be more harmful to him a false accusation or getting away with stealing. Hubby, of course, is out of town. Please pray the truth will come out.
Absolutely, that is our standard prayer here. Which is why I found the older boys IPod in the fourteen year olds’ bed, the alarm part on his bed, etc. God is able to bring it out.
We ought to be praying for Ben Carson. Not necessarily so he will get elected (though I would be interested in seeing what would come of that) but, as a brother in the Lord, that he be protected from the lies and rending that comes from running for office against a particular mindset. And protection for his family as well.
Mumsee, Mumsee, Mumsee…She can’t be barefoot and pregnant. She isn’t from or in the South. We are the only ones who do that. Although, it you are from an uppity family, they will buy you a pair of shoes when you get married so you won’t be barefoot and pregnant.
kbells, if you have read anything I have posted since last Monday, you will know that I certainly am in no position to give advice on how to handle a teenage reprobate, but I will tell you the sooner you jerk a knot in his tail the better. Luckily, even though she is 18, she is still in high school and therefore the law believes she is not TRULY an adult. Regrets? Yeah, I have a few.
Now might be a lesson on being judged by the company you keep and YES, you CAN judge a book by it’s cover when it is fresh and new. Even though he may be perfectly innocent, he must always avoid the appearance of evil, even if he isn’t doing even. He was a very pleasant young man when I met him—it’s there, the trick is bringing it to the forefront.
Tell ya what. I’ll pray for you if you pray for me.
He has confessed to stealing a smaller cheaper item than the one I suspected. Though this is still bad I believe this is a distraction. Hubby thinks he is plea bargaining, hoping not to have to pay for the bigger item. I agree.
Sixth Arrow had a bad dream last night, and came into our room, trembling from head to foot. She still remembers tonight what it was about, but she (our most talkative child) does not want to talk about it. Prayers for peaceful sleep for her are appreciated.
Hubby pointed out to him how much worse this could have been if he had been caught in the store instead of by us and reminded him that God was looking out for him.
This is not a serious problem I need prayer for, but some of you will understand, I think.
I am the kind of woman who does her best work when no one else is around. I do my morning chores, then have some prayer time, then go on to the cleaning (or whatever) project of the day (I work on particular things on particular days), taking frequent breaks. (I “sprinkle” my reading & computer time between “chores”.) I like to putter around my home, often with music on, as I “do my thing”.
Well…tomorrow is the first Monday that my husband will not be going out to work. When he is home on a day off, I usually find it hard to do what I need/want to do. And – God love him – he likes to talk to me a lot, even when I am reading or on the computer.
I’m afraid I am going to get frustrated & crabby. I don’t want that to happen. Please pray I can be flexible, & not feel put upon. (And of course, please pray Lee gets a good job soon.) Thank you. 🙂
I shoplifted a few items with some friends in middle school. I felt so guilty, I felt sick to my stomach about it. My mom & I took the items back. (We quietly left them in the stores.)
KarenO, you can expect the “velcro” effect for a while. My hubby works out of town, so when he is home, it feels like I have velcro on me. Which is much better than him not wanting to be close. 🙂 . Give him some time to find his routine, but cherish this short period that he is stuck to you.
BG requested to go to dinner with a friend tomorrow night. I had to explain, again, what restriction until December 8th means. This friend needs her, she is emotional and depressed. Not my problem Baby, you are. BG is depressed too. She informed me that it wasn’t good to keep two depressed people separated. I offered to help her with her depression and friend’s mother would have to help her with her depression.
I was then informed that she is 18 and she could just leave and I couldn’t do anything about it. I explained that she might be 18 but she hasn’t graduated, so, yes, there is something I can do about it. (She isn’t the only one who knows how to use Google–except I speak with people who actually know the law in this situation)/
I told her then that she could go if she wanted to, but since the car is in her father’s name she needed to leave the keys so he could come get it and since I paid for most of the clothes in her closet she needed to leave those too. She then decided that I must WANT her to kill herself. I asked how that would be revenge. She still wouldn’t get her way AND she would be dead. She didn’t have an answer for that.
I understand that she is not getting the drug of her choice in her system and for the first time in a very long time she isn’t able to manipulate the adults around her. I am still rattled that she even mentioned killing herself. G and I have spoken. We decided to wait and see. Mr. P removed something from the house that could be used. I could use the threat as a reason to put her on a 72 hour psych hold, but I would have to cross a state line to do it.
Obviously we need prayer around here tonight. I doubt I get much sleep.
You have my prayers, Kim, KBells and Karen. (That’s a lot of K names there.) 🙂
Tychicus, how did it go today?
Karen, a lady from our church who attended a Bible study for a while that I go to said that it’s an adjustment whenever her husband is home. They’re military, and he’s stationed overseas, so she’s accustomed to managing the day-to-day household/parenting business. When he’s home, it takes a while for her to get accustomed to having her husband take the lead. But she does eventually adjust, and you will, too. 🙂
Wandering Views 
Please pray for me as tomorrow I will preach on the role of women in ministry. Thank you.
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We had some drama here last night in which BG didn’t get what she wanted. She left the house to go for a walk. I told her I would go with her. She ran. I went back to get the car to follow her. She got away and I was fearful the boyfriend was near and she would go somewhere with him. Of course with this new time it was pitch black. I called her dad and he said to call the police. I did. I had my niece out helping me look for her and she found her. The police had to come to the house anyway and they had to see that she was back home.
George, Niece, and I had a long talk with Miss Priss and explained the seriousness of what she was in. Some of which for security I must not say here. That was the first time I really saw fear in her. I think we made progress but probably not as much as I would hope.
Niece asked if BG could go out to First Friday with her and her boyfriend and spend the night with her. We allowed it. It is also one street over from where we live.
After BG and Niece left, Mr P came out and he, George, and I discussed the situation. I showed George the emails and other things I have found on her phone. The three of us agreed on how to proceed with a plan.
Of course the two men are hard noses and it hurts this mother’s heart of mine, but I have agreed to go along with the plan. George grew up with the Chief of Police where she was arrested. They have spoken and we have agreed to let her take her lumps. The most humorous line from the night was Mr. P’s “She’s a TEENAGER! She’s SUPPOSED to be depressed!
It is hard for me not to draw the parallels between my daughter and my mother. Both would hare lip a mule to get their way and in the end make YOU feel like you were the crazy one and should apologize for offending them. Perhaps I need to invest in a little more therapy for me.
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Kim, it is so nice to hear that the three of you are talking and working together on a plan. May God bless you all.
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George and Mr. P are not hard nosed.
They are men who think like men.
That is, logical.
You mentioned that BG wanted to visit with BF in the bed room.
A man thinks. “What can you do in a bed room?” In five seconds he narrows the choices to two things.
Another five seconds and he has eliminated one of them.
It was wise to disallow it.
It’s wise to listen to a voice that isn’t emotionally tied to the event.
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That is a good sermon topic, Tychicus. I am virtually certain nobody will find any room to disagree.
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mumsee: Especially when they see me approach the podium in a pregnant state! 🙂
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Kim, for all the fussing she is doing right now, she is deep down glad you care about her and that you are stronger and wiser than she is. There is security in that. There is chaos in her own inner world, and she’s a weak little puppy, but the adults around her are strong for her, and to her. And that is excellent, just what she needs. She also needs the loving mama who will still fix breakfast!
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And barefoot?
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The Kid may had stolen something. He denies it. The evidence is against him but not ironclad. I’m stuck between which will be more harmful to him a false accusation or getting away with stealing. Hubby, of course, is out of town. Please pray the truth will come out.
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Absolutely, that is our standard prayer here. Which is why I found the older boys IPod in the fourteen year olds’ bed, the alarm part on his bed, etc. God is able to bring it out.
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We ought to be praying for Ben Carson. Not necessarily so he will get elected (though I would be interested in seeing what would come of that) but, as a brother in the Lord, that he be protected from the lies and rending that comes from running for office against a particular mindset. And protection for his family as well.
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Mumsee, as well as other candidates.
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Mumsee, Mumsee, Mumsee…She can’t be barefoot and pregnant. She isn’t from or in the South. We are the only ones who do that. Although, it you are from an uppity family, they will buy you a pair of shoes when you get married so you won’t be barefoot and pregnant.
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kbells, if you have read anything I have posted since last Monday, you will know that I certainly am in no position to give advice on how to handle a teenage reprobate, but I will tell you the sooner you jerk a knot in his tail the better. Luckily, even though she is 18, she is still in high school and therefore the law believes she is not TRULY an adult. Regrets? Yeah, I have a few.
Now might be a lesson on being judged by the company you keep and YES, you CAN judge a book by it’s cover when it is fresh and new. Even though he may be perfectly innocent, he must always avoid the appearance of evil, even if he isn’t doing even. He was a very pleasant young man when I met him—it’s there, the trick is bringing it to the forefront.
Tell ya what. I’ll pray for you if you pray for me.
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He has confessed to stealing a smaller cheaper item than the one I suspected. Though this is still bad I believe this is a distraction. Hubby thinks he is plea bargaining, hoping not to have to pay for the bigger item. I agree.
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Kim, he’s got so many knots in his tail now I’m surprised he can sit. This is one strong willed kid.
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Sixth Arrow had a bad dream last night, and came into our room, trembling from head to foot. She still remembers tonight what it was about, but she (our most talkative child) does not want to talk about it. Prayers for peaceful sleep for her are appreciated.
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She slept well last night. Thanks for prayers.
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The Kid confessed and has returned the stuff. It took most of his birthday money.
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Confession is good for the soul.
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Wonderful! God is good!
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Hubby pointed out to him how much worse this could have been if he had been caught in the store instead of by us and reminded him that God was looking out for him.
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This is not a serious problem I need prayer for, but some of you will understand, I think.
I am the kind of woman who does her best work when no one else is around. I do my morning chores, then have some prayer time, then go on to the cleaning (or whatever) project of the day (I work on particular things on particular days), taking frequent breaks. (I “sprinkle” my reading & computer time between “chores”.) I like to putter around my home, often with music on, as I “do my thing”.
Well…tomorrow is the first Monday that my husband will not be going out to work. When he is home on a day off, I usually find it hard to do what I need/want to do. And – God love him – he likes to talk to me a lot, even when I am reading or on the computer.
I’m afraid I am going to get frustrated & crabby. I don’t want that to happen. Please pray I can be flexible, & not feel put upon. (And of course, please pray Lee gets a good job soon.) Thank you. 🙂
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kBells – Does he feel guilty or just “caught”?
I shoplifted a few items with some friends in middle school. I felt so guilty, I felt sick to my stomach about it. My mom & I took the items back. (We quietly left them in the stores.)
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KarenO, you can expect the “velcro” effect for a while. My hubby works out of town, so when he is home, it feels like I have velcro on me. Which is much better than him not wanting to be close. 🙂 . Give him some time to find his routine, but cherish this short period that he is stuck to you.
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Amen.
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I hope he feels guilty. He has been very emotional since it happened.
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BG requested to go to dinner with a friend tomorrow night. I had to explain, again, what restriction until December 8th means. This friend needs her, she is emotional and depressed. Not my problem Baby, you are. BG is depressed too. She informed me that it wasn’t good to keep two depressed people separated. I offered to help her with her depression and friend’s mother would have to help her with her depression.
I was then informed that she is 18 and she could just leave and I couldn’t do anything about it. I explained that she might be 18 but she hasn’t graduated, so, yes, there is something I can do about it. (She isn’t the only one who knows how to use Google–except I speak with people who actually know the law in this situation)/
I told her then that she could go if she wanted to, but since the car is in her father’s name she needed to leave the keys so he could come get it and since I paid for most of the clothes in her closet she needed to leave those too. She then decided that I must WANT her to kill herself. I asked how that would be revenge. She still wouldn’t get her way AND she would be dead. She didn’t have an answer for that.
I understand that she is not getting the drug of her choice in her system and for the first time in a very long time she isn’t able to manipulate the adults around her. I am still rattled that she even mentioned killing herself. G and I have spoken. We decided to wait and see. Mr. P removed something from the house that could be used. I could use the threat as a reason to put her on a 72 hour psych hold, but I would have to cross a state line to do it.
Obviously we need prayer around here tonight. I doubt I get much sleep.
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rkessler – Yes, I am trying to turn my focus to spending time with my husband, & let my routine go by the wayside for a while.
kBells – That does sound like he feels guilty, even if he can’t admit it.
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You have my prayers, Kim, KBells and Karen. (That’s a lot of K names there.) 🙂
Tychicus, how did it go today?
Karen, a lady from our church who attended a Bible study for a while that I go to said that it’s an adjustment whenever her husband is home. They’re military, and he’s stationed overseas, so she’s accustomed to managing the day-to-day household/parenting business. When he’s home, it takes a while for her to get accustomed to having her husband take the lead. But she does eventually adjust, and you will, too. 🙂
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6 arrows: It went very well – thank you for your prayers.
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Glad to hear it, Tychicus. And you’re welcome.
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