A couple of aunts died, considering whether to make the attempt to get to their funerals in Los Angeles. We knew it was coming and saw them before. One was a believer, we hope the other was. My dad is thinking of moving to assisted living as he no longer thinks he is able to take care of his wife and is concerned she will fall on the stairs. I will go up and remind them that they can live here with a wing of their own on the ground floor but it is tough to leave where you have lived for fifty years. Thanks for praying.
Hard, Mumsee, but I’m glad your father recognizes he cannot do it all. That’s the first step.
My boss just got back from an elderly aunt’s funeral and while it was hard, she was glad she went and saw the family for what will probably be the last time–until her own mother dies. Tricky to close out a life.
My mom fell several times before my dad died. It was always a worry for us and for him. It was also why we told her she would NOT be living alone again. My brother had to tell her that social services would intervene if she fell and needed stitches again. Then it would be out of all our hands. She finally realized that would not be in her best interests. She would rather live with family. It is such a difficult time of life. I pray for the best solution for your dad, mumsee.
Thank You for always having our best interest in Your heart and Your making. That thought can override a lot of the wrongs we see in our world. No matter what, we can always trust that You know best and will make perfect effort to bring Your goodness and justice to prevail over all lesser possibilities.
Thank You for working out the needs brought before You here today. Please bless AJs family with good results from procedures and doctor visits. Make a way through the stressful days with a pulling together rather than apart of family members. I pray that likewise for all these who are trying to find the best solutions related to the housing and care of elderly family members. If finances are an issue, I pray for the needed monthly cost to be furnished or reduced for some unexpected reason. Thank You for working all to good. Thank You for seeing Kim and Mr. P through the shock of another loss. Please do a miracle in the life of their son with PTSD. Bless the new grandbaby. Thanks for traveling mercies for Jo and Joanne. And thanks for Roscuro’s good grades. I pray for the men on here and the husbands of the wives on here who suffer from pain and assorted afflictions. Please comfort and heal. I ask that meds would be totally effective. Thank You for Your blessed provision and answers to our prayers. Amen
My father was so frustrated after his stroke–he couldn’t grasp that his brain wasn’t functioning well, in part because of where his stroke was located. I said to him one day, “if you had broken your leg, it would be obvious to all and we’d remember you were not functioning as normal. Because it’s your brain, though, it’s harder to remember you aren’t the same.”
He looked the same, he just wasn’t acting the same and was unwilling to accept that things needed to be changed.
My father-in-law was the same until my husband and sister said, finally, “could you move to a safer place for our sake so we don’t have to worry about you?”
It’s was appealing to the “daddy” that finally got him to move. He was making a grand gesture for those children, not because he needed to move, in his mind.
Unfortunately, he moved too late and missed out on several years of good living with family nearby had he moved earlier. My heart goes out to you. Dealing with my father, at the same time I had teenagers in the house, was challenging but he was more difficult than my kids!
Michelle – That’s the way it was when we had my MIL living with us for several years, while the girls were still young. (They were 11 & 8 when she moved in with us.) She was feisty!
Please, please pray for Lee & me. We are so very discouraged about our situation (the difficulties of Lee’s route & our financial situation). And things keep breaking down & needing to be fixed.
Lee told me tonight he feels like giving up. I realize that this was a momentary feeling that will pass, especially since it was right before bed & he was so very tired, & we had just learned that our washer isn’t working again. He has mostly been doing great spiritually, but five nights a week of only getting about five hours sleep is wearing him down. In my own personal life, there are a couple things that are frustrating & discouraging, & look to get worse sometime soon.
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A couple of aunts died, considering whether to make the attempt to get to their funerals in Los Angeles. We knew it was coming and saw them before. One was a believer, we hope the other was. My dad is thinking of moving to assisted living as he no longer thinks he is able to take care of his wife and is concerned she will fall on the stairs. I will go up and remind them that they can live here with a wing of their own on the ground floor but it is tough to leave where you have lived for fifty years. Thanks for praying.
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Hard, Mumsee, but I’m glad your father recognizes he cannot do it all. That’s the first step.
My boss just got back from an elderly aunt’s funeral and while it was hard, she was glad she went and saw the family for what will probably be the last time–until her own mother dies. Tricky to close out a life.
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My mom fell several times before my dad died. It was always a worry for us and for him. It was also why we told her she would NOT be living alone again. My brother had to tell her that social services would intervene if she fell and needed stitches again. Then it would be out of all our hands. She finally realized that would not be in her best interests. She would rather live with family. It is such a difficult time of life. I pray for the best solution for your dad, mumsee.
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Heavenly Father,
Thank You for always having our best interest in Your heart and Your making. That thought can override a lot of the wrongs we see in our world. No matter what, we can always trust that You know best and will make perfect effort to bring Your goodness and justice to prevail over all lesser possibilities.
Thank You for working out the needs brought before You here today. Please bless AJs family with good results from procedures and doctor visits. Make a way through the stressful days with a pulling together rather than apart of family members. I pray that likewise for all these who are trying to find the best solutions related to the housing and care of elderly family members. If finances are an issue, I pray for the needed monthly cost to be furnished or reduced for some unexpected reason. Thank You for working all to good. Thank You for seeing Kim and Mr. P through the shock of another loss. Please do a miracle in the life of their son with PTSD. Bless the new grandbaby. Thanks for traveling mercies for Jo and Joanne. And thanks for Roscuro’s good grades. I pray for the men on here and the husbands of the wives on here who suffer from pain and assorted afflictions. Please comfort and heal. I ask that meds would be totally effective. Thank You for Your blessed provision and answers to our prayers. Amen
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My father was so frustrated after his stroke–he couldn’t grasp that his brain wasn’t functioning well, in part because of where his stroke was located. I said to him one day, “if you had broken your leg, it would be obvious to all and we’d remember you were not functioning as normal. Because it’s your brain, though, it’s harder to remember you aren’t the same.”
He looked the same, he just wasn’t acting the same and was unwilling to accept that things needed to be changed.
My father-in-law was the same until my husband and sister said, finally, “could you move to a safer place for our sake so we don’t have to worry about you?”
It’s was appealing to the “daddy” that finally got him to move. He was making a grand gesture for those children, not because he needed to move, in his mind.
Unfortunately, he moved too late and missed out on several years of good living with family nearby had he moved earlier. My heart goes out to you. Dealing with my father, at the same time I had teenagers in the house, was challenging but he was more difficult than my kids!
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Michelle – That’s the way it was when we had my MIL living with us for several years, while the girls were still young. (They were 11 & 8 when she moved in with us.) She was feisty!
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Please, please pray for Lee & me. We are so very discouraged about our situation (the difficulties of Lee’s route & our financial situation). And things keep breaking down & needing to be fixed.
Lee told me tonight he feels like giving up. I realize that this was a momentary feeling that will pass, especially since it was right before bed & he was so very tired, & we had just learned that our washer isn’t working again. He has mostly been doing great spiritually, but five nights a week of only getting about five hours sleep is wearing him down. In my own personal life, there are a couple things that are frustrating & discouraging, & look to get worse sometime soon.
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Lifting you up KarenO.
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Amen.
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Thank you.
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Praying Karen.
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