Trying to figure things out here. The doctor is not done diagnosing the boy but so far he concurs on everything we thought. Reactive attachment disorder, dangerously violent, predator, etc. He believes he is a powder keg waiting to go off but we cannot get him sent to residential treatment unless he commits a crime. We are just ready to bring him home and start over. He needs to know that we love him and are not giving up on him. Prayers for wisdom and the mind of Christ and love of Christ.
“Dangerously violent, predator, etc” and “we are ready to bring him home and start over” do not even belong in the same paragraph.
What kind of crime does he have to commit to get some help? Wouldn’t it be better to fix the problem before someone is hurt?
I know the parable of the good shepherd who leaves the 99 to save the one, but I would have a hard time doing that.
He believes he is a powder keg waiting to go off but we cannot get him sent to residential treatment unless he commits a crime. We are just ready to bring him home and start over.
I noticed that too, Kim.
Let’s pray that he gets help. One incident could ruin a couple (or more) lives forever.
The problem being: he has his brain broken to such a point that he believes he is unloveable, no one can ever want him as part of their life. And that makes him very angry and hopeless. He does things to prove he is worthless. We have a choice, confirm it or prove to him that he is wrong. We know that the only hope is in Christ. We believe he was brought here for us to help if possible. We have searched far and wide for places to “put him” so he can be fixed but it is possible that God put him here because He plans to use us to fix him. Who are we to stand in His way. It seems impossible to us, but nothing is impossible for Him. He knows the heart of the boy, we do not. We wait on Him.
Oh, Mumsee, how difficult, yet how wise. The balance of his needs and those of the others. Will the others survive having him back? But learning to love him through it all is a lifelong lesson for all of you.
Praying for our Lord to impart His divine wisdom….just the thought of bringing him back to the house grips my heart….I know you seek the heart of our Savior…I trust your walk and your listening ear Mumsee and Mike…
Does anyone know whatever happened to Jill? She posted on WorldMag…she had a difficult son and I recall her saying the same thing about sending her son away..they wouldn’t take him unless he committed a serious crime or something….I cannot seem to remember the title of her blog…and I can’t find it anywhere…help anyone?!
Mumsee: I hope it works out okay for everyone involved. I’ve had some experience with residential treatment centers, not all of it positive. All the ones i’ve interacted with have left Jesus out completely. I’ll continue to pray for you and the Nest.
AJ, I too forgot Gambia until prayer meeting last night. So, Gambia got prayer for, but late.
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verse 2 is a song, which will carry us through the day.
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Trying to figure things out here. The doctor is not done diagnosing the boy but so far he concurs on everything we thought. Reactive attachment disorder, dangerously violent, predator, etc. He believes he is a powder keg waiting to go off but we cannot get him sent to residential treatment unless he commits a crime. We are just ready to bring him home and start over. He needs to know that we love him and are not giving up on him. Prayers for wisdom and the mind of Christ and love of Christ.
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“Dangerously violent, predator, etc” and “we are ready to bring him home and start over” do not even belong in the same paragraph.
What kind of crime does he have to commit to get some help? Wouldn’t it be better to fix the problem before someone is hurt?
I know the parable of the good shepherd who leaves the 99 to save the one, but I would have a hard time doing that.
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He believes he is a powder keg waiting to go off but we cannot get him sent to residential treatment unless he commits a crime. We are just ready to bring him home and start over.
I noticed that too, Kim.
Let’s pray that he gets help. One incident could ruin a couple (or more) lives forever.
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The problem being: he has his brain broken to such a point that he believes he is unloveable, no one can ever want him as part of their life. And that makes him very angry and hopeless. He does things to prove he is worthless. We have a choice, confirm it or prove to him that he is wrong. We know that the only hope is in Christ. We believe he was brought here for us to help if possible. We have searched far and wide for places to “put him” so he can be fixed but it is possible that God put him here because He plans to use us to fix him. Who are we to stand in His way. It seems impossible to us, but nothing is impossible for Him. He knows the heart of the boy, we do not. We wait on Him.
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I am praying.
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Sounds like the right approach, Mumsee.
Still in my prayers.
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Oh, Mumsee, how difficult, yet how wise. The balance of his needs and those of the others. Will the others survive having him back? But learning to love him through it all is a lifelong lesson for all of you.
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Praying for our Lord to impart His divine wisdom….just the thought of bringing him back to the house grips my heart….I know you seek the heart of our Savior…I trust your walk and your listening ear Mumsee and Mike…
Does anyone know whatever happened to Jill? She posted on WorldMag…she had a difficult son and I recall her saying the same thing about sending her son away..they wouldn’t take him unless he committed a serious crime or something….I cannot seem to remember the title of her blog…and I can’t find it anywhere…help anyone?!
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Nevermind..I found it….From the Heart of Jill…and she is still posting on her blog! I need to touch base with her….
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Oh Mumsee, such a decision. May God grant you wisdom and an abundance of love for this young man.
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Mumsee: I hope it works out okay for everyone involved. I’ve had some experience with residential treatment centers, not all of it positive. All the ones i’ve interacted with have left Jesus out completely. I’ll continue to pray for you and the Nest.
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Praying for wisdom, mumsee. Stay watchful.
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Praying, Mumsee. Thank you and Mike for your loving hearts toward the hurting.
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