Well, my neighbor’s condo is under contract . . . which is surreal. Three months ago she was living in it, and I’d visit her when I’d see her outside or could get her to hear me and answer the door. Then her son died . . . she was also descending into dementia and she basically dove into it. Her son had just signed her up with someone to have power of attorney, so her condo has been emptied, listed for sale, and sold without her involvement.
How quickly life can change!
Kizzie, I’m sorry for the loss of your little buddy. It’s a hard goodbye.
I have seen that so many times, Cheryl. It is sad to see. We have a few people who can no longer come to listen to the music. They are blessed to have spouses who care for them. They are still blessed to be in their own homes. However, we see many who go from apartment living, to assisted and finally dementia care. It is always a sad progression to watch.
It is always sad to lose those around us that we enjoy visiting with. Grieving is a natural thing to do. There are others around grieving their own losses. May we have eyes to see and hearts to reach out.
Losing someone suddenly is mentally and emotionally traumatic, especially a son or daughter who you expect to outlive you. Even if you are healthy and have support it can take a long time to recover from that. My youngest son was killed in a car accident in 2007 when he was 24. I was in my 40’s and healthy and a believer, but I still had problems for a good year or more afterward. Problems just functioning fully and thinking clearly. It was a very vulnerable time and if I had an illness like dementia, I don’t know if I would have come out of it at all. I often felt physically light-headed, like I was a hot air balloon in the wind with one of the tethers holding it to the ground suddenly cut. But God is merciful; he gave me 4 ‘tethers’ so when one was cut, I still had my husband and 2 other sons to consider. So the brain fog did eventually lift, though husband says my memory has never been quite the same.
After that experience, I became much more sensitive to those who experience sudden losses—especially in war where entire support systems are destroyed and people are left helpless and bereaved. That’s probably why I go on and on about it on the politics thread.
That background is helpful, Debra. That had to have been devastating.
This particular neighbor lost her husband while I had Covid, so June 2022, and they only had one child, so she lost her whole world overnight. The son had told my husband that his mother had dementia, and we’d seen a couple of hints of it, but nothing really severe. With his death she collapsed. I’m on my way to go visit her now. Sometimes she seems to recognize me and sometimes she doesn’t (last time the nurse asked her, “Do you know this woman?” and she said, “I used to”), but even if she doesn’t recognize me, and even if she’s sleepy, I’m someone coming just to see her.
Good afternoon. I went to walk during online church time since the afternoon was predicted to be stormy. It is, and we are under a tornado watch until 5 p.m. I will listen to the online service a little later.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son, Debra. It’s hard to find words to comment except to say that it does bring greater understanding about your heart to end wars.
Sometimes I consider the Civil War and weep. We used to visit a museum at the foot of Kennesaw Mt., a National Battlefield, where they have a room full of muskets and in another room they house photos of many soldiers. Some looked as young as 13 years old. Heartbreaking, wars, wherever and whenever they occur.
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Good morning, Wanderers. It is a day the Lord has made so you know what that means.
Such a sweet puppy doggy; always and forever love remains in the heart blessed to know such a sweetie.♡
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That is a sweet picture. Sorry for the hole in your heart, Kizzie, as you learn to live without your sweet companion.
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kizzie, I am sad for you. Praying that God comforts you.
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If anyone has need of a summer white cotton slub hoodie (Hanes), I found them on sale at Amazon for $10.62. They make a nice small summer gift.
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Another gloomy snowy day here! Fitting for such a state of this state🥲 I told husband we may need to move out of here.
Neighbors have a contract on their home…people from OK and they don’t have 4 dogs! I will miss my friends.
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New friends await discovery.
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Well, my neighbor’s condo is under contract . . . which is surreal. Three months ago she was living in it, and I’d visit her when I’d see her outside or could get her to hear me and answer the door. Then her son died . . . she was also descending into dementia and she basically dove into it. Her son had just signed her up with someone to have power of attorney, so her condo has been emptied, listed for sale, and sold without her involvement.
How quickly life can change!
Kizzie, I’m sorry for the loss of your little buddy. It’s a hard goodbye.
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I have seen that so many times, Cheryl. It is sad to see. We have a few people who can no longer come to listen to the music. They are blessed to have spouses who care for them. They are still blessed to be in their own homes. However, we see many who go from apartment living, to assisted and finally dementia care. It is always a sad progression to watch.
It is always sad to lose those around us that we enjoy visiting with. Grieving is a natural thing to do. There are others around grieving their own losses. May we have eyes to see and hearts to reach out.
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Losing someone suddenly is mentally and emotionally traumatic, especially a son or daughter who you expect to outlive you. Even if you are healthy and have support it can take a long time to recover from that. My youngest son was killed in a car accident in 2007 when he was 24. I was in my 40’s and healthy and a believer, but I still had problems for a good year or more afterward. Problems just functioning fully and thinking clearly. It was a very vulnerable time and if I had an illness like dementia, I don’t know if I would have come out of it at all. I often felt physically light-headed, like I was a hot air balloon in the wind with one of the tethers holding it to the ground suddenly cut. But God is merciful; he gave me 4 ‘tethers’ so when one was cut, I still had my husband and 2 other sons to consider. So the brain fog did eventually lift, though husband says my memory has never been quite the same.
After that experience, I became much more sensitive to those who experience sudden losses—especially in war where entire support systems are destroyed and people are left helpless and bereaved. That’s probably why I go on and on about it on the politics thread.
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That background is helpful, Debra. That had to have been devastating.
This particular neighbor lost her husband while I had Covid, so June 2022, and they only had one child, so she lost her whole world overnight. The son had told my husband that his mother had dementia, and we’d seen a couple of hints of it, but nothing really severe. With his death she collapsed. I’m on my way to go visit her now. Sometimes she seems to recognize me and sometimes she doesn’t (last time the nurse asked her, “Do you know this woman?” and she said, “I used to”), but even if she doesn’t recognize me, and even if she’s sleepy, I’m someone coming just to see her.
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Good morning, all, this beautiful sunshine day. Guests have gone to church and potluck with husband and children. Pleasant folk to have around.
mumsee
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Good afternoon. I went to walk during online church time since the afternoon was predicted to be stormy. It is, and we are under a tornado watch until 5 p.m. I will listen to the online service a little later.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son, Debra. It’s hard to find words to comment except to say that it does bring greater understanding about your heart to end wars.
Sometimes I consider the Civil War and weep. We used to visit a museum at the foot of Kennesaw Mt., a National Battlefield, where they have a room full of muskets and in another room they house photos of many soldiers. Some looked as young as 13 years old. Heartbreaking, wars, wherever and whenever they occur.
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All of a sudden, I am feeling a chill. I changed out of shorts and put on fleece pants and a sweatshirt! Again, we have cold weather. Brrr . . .
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