I saw the Dr. for the surgery followup. All the bowel damage appears healed as well. So he was calling the surgeon who did the colostomy to begin the scheduling of what I hope is the final surgery to reverse it. I will need a colonoscopy first though. Yay.
The only other bad part was hearing that the tube replacement procedures may need to continue, possibly for a long time, depending on scarring in the ureters. I can live with that if I have to.
Praising God, AJ, for going through all this with you and bringing you back to us to tell all about it. Will be praying it forward! Just stay well for the next procedure. No more Covid! As if we can help the situation. I am not suggesting the vaccine, of course.
I know someone about ten years my senior who has become a grandmother unexpectedly for the first time. Her son and the mother of the baby are not married but live together. I could tell it took my friend forever to reveal the situation as she went around the moon to tell me. I think she does not know how to refer to the mother. Would it be at all appropriate to call her Daughter in Love? Is that reserved for a legal Daughter in Law? Are there other names for this mom instead of mother of my grand baby?
I can’t think of any besides, my grandson’s girlfriend. That seems to be the norm these days. It is a very tenuous situation, as I well know. Love can be given no matter what the name.
There are many names but most are not appropriate. How about her name?
Good morning from another beautiful day.
Today is sixth daughter’s seventeenth birthday. It is how I keep track of my age. So, as of Sept 13, I will be sixty seven. It helps to have that fifty year indicator.
My heart breaks for my friend, who at her advanced age is having to deal with that issue. My MIL was 84 when she got her only grandchild, our son. I can’t imagine how she would have dealt with it had Art and I not been married! People need to feel joy and not shame when a new baby enters their family.
Having a grandson “born out of wedlock”, I can say that the choice can be made to rejoice over the new life that God has allowed to be brought into the world. Our disappointment over the lack of marriage between the parents should probably be best kept between ourselves and God. Those who know us well will already know our stance on that matter.
in Australia, few seem to marry. They refer to their “significant other” as their partner.
When I asked a young man awaiting the birth of his first child while he didn’t marry the baby’s mother–this was a guy in Christian ministry–he squirmed and said, “Well, she deserves a really nice wedding and we don’t have the money right now.”
“Why not get married now and have the party when you have money. Don’t you want your child to carry your name?”
Yes, Michelle. The grandmother said they did not have the money to get married. It can cost very little to get married, and the celebration can always be later if the priority is giving a baby the best start, IMO.
Art remembered it cost money to get the blood test to get married. But a friend who was recently married said she did not think the blood test was required now in GA. Not sure if that is the case everywhere.
I thought about the word partner, too, but it seems like such a dry word, lacking in love. Also, in the south, it seems to refer to the same sex relationships.
Kizzie, I always thought that Boy’s parents were married and got divorced. I did not realize you went through this, too. At least for some, it saves the cost of getting a divorce.
Janice – They were living together, and were engaged (before she got pregnant), but before they got around to getting married, things blew up. He was very bad for her (for anyone, really), so it kind of worked out well.
I agree with you about the word “partner”. There was a funny scene in a drama show years ago in which a woman thought that a particular male character was gay because he referred to another man as his partner. It turned out that he was not gay, and the other man was his business partner. 🙂
Michelle – Boy does have X’s last name, and we wish he didn’t.
Maybe. However, there is heartbreak whether or not a couple is married when they part. There have also been issues with custody etc. just as there would be with marriage. Scripture says the two become one, so there really is a cutting when a people part, whether they are married or not.
There are so many advantages of marriage, beyond doing God’s will. Perhaps those need to be preached more.
I’m very careful to use “business” before partner when referring to folks I’m writing about.
My friend’s daughter had been living with her boyfriend for 5 years and he finally proposed (after some outside pressure from both families) … but then covid hit and since the bride wanted a very large, fancy wedding with many, many guests and all the bells and whistles, they postponed getting married until after the pandemic …
They’re now happily married and pregnant with their first child (and now in labor, I heard this morning!) but at age 35 she’s going to have to really rush if she wants many more.
I blurted out at one point (re the postponed wedding issue) oh, just have a small ceremony now and plan a party for when the pandemic finally is over.
Michelle – One of my prayers for Nightingale is that God would bring her a Christian husband. Since a Christian should not marry a non-Christian, I pray that if she is still not saved when he comes along that the man will become a good friend who perhaps leads her to the Lord. (Like Carolyn Weber’s “TDH” in Surprised By Oxford.)
At times, I refer to him in prayer as a Boaz/TDH kind of man and/or a “If you got a problem. . .I can help” (like the song) kind of man.
Here’s the song, if you don’t know what I mean. . .
Kathaleena – At the time, a friend (also a Christian) said that the fact that they had not married yet helped Nightingale make a cleaner getaway from X. Of course, later, the custody issues started, but they were not there in the beginning.
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I saw the Dr. for the surgery followup. All the bowel damage appears healed as well. So he was calling the surgeon who did the colostomy to begin the scheduling of what I hope is the final surgery to reverse it. I will need a colonoscopy first though. Yay.
The only other bad part was hearing that the tube replacement procedures may need to continue, possibly for a long time, depending on scarring in the ureters. I can live with that if I have to.
But all in all, encouraging.
Allen
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Praising God, AJ, for going through all this with you and bringing you back to us to tell all about it. Will be praying it forward! Just stay well for the next procedure. No more Covid! As if we can help the situation. I am not suggesting the vaccine, of course.
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I know someone about ten years my senior who has become a grandmother unexpectedly for the first time. Her son and the mother of the baby are not married but live together. I could tell it took my friend forever to reveal the situation as she went around the moon to tell me. I think she does not know how to refer to the mother. Would it be at all appropriate to call her Daughter in Love? Is that reserved for a legal Daughter in Law? Are there other names for this mom instead of mother of my grand baby?
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I can’t think of any besides, my grandson’s girlfriend. That seems to be the norm these days. It is a very tenuous situation, as I well know. Love can be given no matter what the name.
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There are many names but most are not appropriate. How about her name?
Good morning from another beautiful day.
Today is sixth daughter’s seventeenth birthday. It is how I keep track of my age. So, as of Sept 13, I will be sixty seven. It helps to have that fifty year indicator.
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My heart breaks for my friend, who at her advanced age is having to deal with that issue. My MIL was 84 when she got her only grandchild, our son. I can’t imagine how she would have dealt with it had Art and I not been married! People need to feel joy and not shame when a new baby enters their family.
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Having a grandson “born out of wedlock”, I can say that the choice can be made to rejoice over the new life that God has allowed to be brought into the world. Our disappointment over the lack of marriage between the parents should probably be best kept between ourselves and God. Those who know us well will already know our stance on that matter.
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in Australia, few seem to marry. They refer to their “significant other” as their partner.
When I asked a young man awaiting the birth of his first child while he didn’t marry the baby’s mother–this was a guy in Christian ministry–he squirmed and said, “Well, she deserves a really nice wedding and we don’t have the money right now.”
“Why not get married now and have the party when you have money. Don’t you want your child to carry your name?”
He squirmed again and changed the subject. 😦
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Yes, Michelle. The grandmother said they did not have the money to get married. It can cost very little to get married, and the celebration can always be later if the priority is giving a baby the best start, IMO.
Art remembered it cost money to get the blood test to get married. But a friend who was recently married said she did not think the blood test was required now in GA. Not sure if that is the case everywhere.
I thought about the word partner, too, but it seems like such a dry word, lacking in love. Also, in the south, it seems to refer to the same sex relationships.
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I bought a small peek-a-boo farm animal board book to send and want something else to add to the package for a girl baby. Suggestions?
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Kizzie, I always thought that Boy’s parents were married and got divorced. I did not realize you went through this, too. At least for some, it saves the cost of getting a divorce.
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Janice – They were living together, and were engaged (before she got pregnant), but before they got around to getting married, things blew up. He was very bad for her (for anyone, really), so it kind of worked out well.
I agree with you about the word “partner”. There was a funny scene in a drama show years ago in which a woman thought that a particular male character was gay because he referred to another man as his partner. It turned out that he was not gay, and the other man was his business partner. 🙂
Michelle – Boy does have X’s last name, and we wish he didn’t.
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Yes, Kizzie, in their situation it appears best that they did not marry.
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Maybe. However, there is heartbreak whether or not a couple is married when they part. There have also been issues with custody etc. just as there would be with marriage. Scripture says the two become one, so there really is a cutting when a people part, whether they are married or not.
There are so many advantages of marriage, beyond doing God’s will. Perhaps those need to be preached more.
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I’m very careful to use “business” before partner when referring to folks I’m writing about.
My friend’s daughter had been living with her boyfriend for 5 years and he finally proposed (after some outside pressure from both families) … but then covid hit and since the bride wanted a very large, fancy wedding with many, many guests and all the bells and whistles, they postponed getting married until after the pandemic …
They’re now happily married and pregnant with their first child (and now in labor, I heard this morning!) but at age 35 she’s going to have to really rush if she wants many more.
I blurted out at one point (re the postponed wedding issue) oh, just have a small ceremony now and plan a party for when the pandemic finally is over.
On deaf ears lol
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BTW, Stargazer got engaged while we were overseas. A May wedding. We haven’t married off a child in 20 years. Shocking, to me.
They want kids and with the oldest Adorable now graduating from high school, I’m going to have two generations of grandchildren!
Things changed when I started earnestly praying for a wife. I’m now earnestly praying for a husband for our daughter. Please, Lord.
Amen. 🙂
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Michelle – One of my prayers for Nightingale is that God would bring her a Christian husband. Since a Christian should not marry a non-Christian, I pray that if she is still not saved when he comes along that the man will become a good friend who perhaps leads her to the Lord. (Like Carolyn Weber’s “TDH” in Surprised By Oxford.)
At times, I refer to him in prayer as a Boaz/TDH kind of man and/or a “If you got a problem. . .I can help” (like the song) kind of man.
Here’s the song, if you don’t know what I mean. . .
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Kathaleena – At the time, a friend (also a Christian) said that the fact that they had not married yet helped Nightingale make a cleaner getaway from X. Of course, later, the custody issues started, but they were not there in the beginning.
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Our son finally has a serious girlfriend. They seem well suited for each other. We shall see what happens . . . I am happy about this.
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I haven’t heard that song in a long time, Kizzie. Fun to hear it again.
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I suppose it is ‘cleaner’, if that means less worry about possessions and getting lawyers and going to court for a divorce.
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True, Kathaleena.
The Braves are playing the Phillies. It’s on Fox here tonight. I wonder if AJ watches?
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Aj only watches the stinking Phillies if they’re playing the Yankees. 😁
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Abby and I are going for a ride to the park.
It’s so nice to be able to say that.
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Kathaleena – Yes, only from that perspective, not from a moral one.
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