Prayer Requests 10-21-20

It’s Wednesday, so don’t forget Ajissun and the folks in The Gambia.

Anyone else?

Psalm 71

In you, Lord, I have taken refuge;
    let me never be put to shame.
In your righteousness, rescue me and deliver me;
    turn your ear to me and save me.
Be my rock of refuge,
    to which I can always go;
   give the command to save me,
    for you are my rock and my fortress.
Deliver me, my God, from the hand of the wicked,
    from the grasp of those who are evil and cruel.

For you have been my hope, Sovereign Lord,
    my confidence since my youth.
From birth I have relied on you;
    you brought me forth from my mother’s womb.
    I will ever praise you.
I have become a sign to many;
    you are my strong refuge.
My mouth is filled with your praise,
    declaring your splendor all day long.

Do not cast me away when I am old;
    do not forsake me when my strength is gone.
10 For my enemies speak against me;
    those who wait to kill me conspire together.
11 They say, “God has forsaken him;
    pursue him and seize him,
    for no one will rescue him.”
12 Do not be far from me, my God;
    come quickly, God, to help me.
13 May my accusers perish in shame;
    may those who want to harm me
    be covered with scorn and disgrace.

14 As for me, I will always have hope;
    I will praise you more and more.

15 My mouth will tell of your righteous deeds,
    of your saving acts all day long—
    though I know not how to relate them all.
16 I will come and proclaim your mighty acts, Sovereign Lord;
    I will proclaim your righteous deeds, yours alone.
17 Since my youth, God, you have taught me,
    and to this day I declare your marvelous deeds.
18 Even when I am old and gray,
    do not forsake me, my God,
   till I declare your power to the next generation,
    your mighty acts to all who are to come.

19 Your righteousness, God, reaches to the heavens,
    you who have done great things.
    Who is like you, God?
20 Though you have made me see troubles,
    many and bitter,
    you will restore my life again;
   from the depths of the earth
    you will again bring me up.
21 You will increase my honor
    and comfort me once more.

22 I will praise you with the harp
    for your faithfulness, my God;
   I will sing praise to you with the lyre,
    Holy One of Israel.
23 My lips will shout for joy
    when I sing praise to you—
    I whom you have delivered.
24 My tongue will tell of your righteous acts
    all day long,
   for those who wanted to harm me
    have been put to shame and confusion.

31 thoughts on “Prayer Requests 10-21-20

  1. CNN and Donald Trump are ruining my life. Seriously. I have asked Mr. P not to watch it all the time. If he is doing anything but watching a particular show or football or the local news, then he has CNN on. CNN no longer reports and news of substance, all they do all 23.5 hours of the day is talk about Donald Trump. I’ve asked him to please turn it off. I can’t make him understand that it isn’t going to change anyone’s mind about who they are voting for. They keep a running tally of how many people have died from Covid and how Trump has bungled that too.
    I have been brainwashed by my company on “What you focus on expands”. If we fill our minds constantly with this negativity, we really have no choice but to become negative. Last night we went to bed and he turned it on. Rather then ask one more time that he change the channel and start a conversation with him about it, I just got up and went back in the living room to read.
    I cannot wait for this election to be over, although if Trump wins, I may not personally make it 4 more years.
    Please pray for patience

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  2. The straw that broke the camel’s back and gave me such anxiety has been relieved. I want to give thanks to the Lord for that and thanks to you for your prayers.

    Kim, the rest of my issue is kind of like your plea for prayer. The refusal to consider your feelings is worse than the actual thing happening. You have my prayers.

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  3. When a husband is refusing to consider his wife’s feelings, and the wife has already stated her case several times, is it appropriate for her to be blunt and tell him that he is being inconsiderate of her feelings and that she should be more important to him than [fill in the blank]? And then maybe do something to underscore that, like perhaps in Kim’s case, refuse to be in the room where CNN is on?

    Praying that God will open Mr. P’s eyes to the effect this is all having on his wife, AND the effect having that stuff on constantly is having on him.

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  4. How awful, Kim. Buy him some headphones if he won’t “hear” what you’ve been trying to say for months.

    I can’t hardly stand to have cable news of any stripe on right now, I’m over it. Thankfully there’s Monk and Columbo and the World Series.

    Prayers for the nation and for the election, that it will roll out peacefully and that the results will be in as quickly — and be as absolutely clear — as possible. Pray for Christians, especially, that we will keep our focus on the bigger and more important picture and not get so caught up in the back-and-forth that’s overwhelming parts of our culture right now.

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  5. The bedroom should be a sanctuary; a place of respite from the trials and tribulations in the outside world; the quiet space where husband and wife connect. Politicians and media talking heads have no business being in the bedroom with the two of you, Kim. You were right to communicate your feelings about all that, and right to walk out of the room when he refused to keep that garbage out of your bedroom. He is undermining your marital union, you know it, and you are refusing to enable his destructive behavior. Good for you.

    Please know you are in my prayers.

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  6. Kim, don’t let this cause a division between you. He is entitled to watch what he wants just as you are entitled to keep busy with your own stuff. It is frustrating to see our spouse so absorbed with this, but not the end of the world. He is in constant pain, this gets his mind off of it. You leave him alone to his stations, go about your own interesting life, and he will realize on his own what he is doing. He does not need any reminders.

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  7. Mumsee – I greatly respect your wisdom, but in this matter, I think that there is already a division that he has created, especially if he’s doing his thing, and Kim is doing her thing in a different room. Or maybe that is the point? To make him realize that he has caused division?

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  8. Kizzie, he is an adult, she has expressed her position. She can continue to feel disturbed or she can use her time otherwise, filling up with good stuff. She can sit with him and watch a half hour, whatever. He will begin to back off though it may initially escalate.

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  9. Since I am a conflict avoider, my suggestion is to see if what he likes can be accessed on his phone or tablet so he can use headphones and keep the screen light from disturbing your rest. You are there to sleep which should be top priority. You need excellent rest so you can stay well, immune from Covid, and able to cook good meals for y’all. It takes compromise to be compatible and not combative. Make him see the advantages to him of looking out for your needs.

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  10. Mumsee – Of course, I don’t know what Kim has or has not told him specifically, but I had the impression that perhaps she has not yet been as blunt as I mentioned above, to “tell him that he is being inconsiderate of her feelings and that she should be more important to him than [fill in the blank]”. Even something like, “I can’t take this anymore!”

    But I also know that when in difficult situations at home, we each need to do what we can to find some peace in the midst of it. Sadly, Kim has mentioned previously that she doesn’t have a corner of her home to make her own space.

    I was thinking earlier about the teaching we young wives received in my old church, to make home a restful, peaceful place for our husbands when they come home after working hard all day to provide for their families. In this case, Kim is the hard-working breadwinner, but also the wife who needs to be submissive and let her husband do what he wants to do.

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  11. 6 Arrows, I really like what you said for people who are equally yoked. It may not apply to all who are here, I don’t know everyone’s situation in that regard. I would not want to make Art choose between me and the television. I know his mom always had the tv on at their home. My family rarely did. So it is a big deal to him. He does watch a number of things I can take interest in. He controls the remote so we don’t have discord over the tv. And my friend Karen watches tv all the time because she can’t do much else. So I understand how attached some people are to tv. Maybe I have too much empathy for others, but I still value the words in the Bible about being at peace with folks if at all possible. But I agree with you, 6 Arrows, under the best circumstances.

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  12. Speaking of television, my sis in law has four tv’s and lives alone. She has them all on twenty four hours a day, including with company there. Very odd to me, but it is her comfortable.

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  13. I think an added dimension to this, rather than just being about having the TV on, is that the barrage of negativity is affecting his own attitudes, which is bad for him as well as for Kim.

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  14. Janice – I understand what you mean about wanting to keep the peace. That is what I try to do most of the time, even if it costs me some. But there are times when keeping the peace is not really keeping the peace.

    As an example: My dad came from a broken home in which, before the divorce, there was a lot of yelling and fighting. He determined that when he married, he would not have that in his home. So he let Mom have her way a lot, and when she angered him, he did not argue with her. (He did speak his mind, but then did not engage with her if she argued.) That resulted in Mom becoming more terse and prickly, because her husband did not help smooth the rough edges by “arguing” with her. (Can’t think of what word or phrase I really want here, “arguing” isn’t quite right.) And Dad ended up feeling bitter inside at times.

    I tried to keep the peace in my own marriage in a certain situation, until the Holy Spirit showed me that my being “a submissive wife” was actually enabling my husband’s sinful attitude, and allowing it to grow worse. Calmly and respectfully, I told him about that, and said that I would not stand for that treatment anymore, but that I would point out to him when he was doing it. I admit that sometimes my “pointing it out” was with a little anger attached, but I tried to be as calm and respectful as possible (and he grew to understand the occasional anger). Praise God, Hubby began to change, and God did a wonderful work in him and in our marriage.

    FTR, I do not say that a prescription for every wife. It is how the Holy Spirit led me.

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  15. Thanks, Janice, 7:59pm.

    Update on a couple prayer requests earlier this month. Our pastor as well as one of the two co-workers of mine who had covid are recovered and doing well. Thanks for praying for them. I haven’t heard about how the other teacher with it is doing, but I will probably learn more tomorrow when I’m at the studio. I’ll update on her, and also about the 3-year-old and how it goes with him tomorrow, when I have more information.

    I much appreciate the prayers for the people I mention. Thank you, and have a good night, all.

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  16. Kizzie, communication is very important, especially in a marriage. I think we are all agreed she should or should have spoken up. I believe she did. A situation like this, I would not advocate continuing to speak up, Her actions of removing herself from the room will remind him of her words.

    A situation of abuse: emotional or physical would need to be more thoroughly addressed, probably by leaving. But emotional abuse is such a broad term. Most husbands, I believe, when it is brought to their attention that their words hurt, will change. But if a husband is conitnually tearing her down or hitting her, she ought to get out and get help and try to restore the marriage from outside.

    This is not like that. Simply a difference of opinion on what to watch. He probably feels he needs to be informed and sees those stations as balanced and true. So, let him watch and find something else to do that will encourage her in her walk with God.

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  17. To be clearer, I was not referring to merely rehashing what has already been said, but getting down to the matter of how it is affecting Kim emotionally. (I agree with you, Mumsee, that rehashing the same old complaint is neither productive nor helpful.)

    In saying what I have said, I have been assuming that perhaps she has not told him that much. I could be wrong. Sometimes we get caught up on details that are not really the crux of the matter. For instance, if Kim has been focusing on what CNN is reporting on and how much they target Trump, but the real matter is that the constant negativity is wearing on her emotionally. I don’t know if that is the case, but I have been assuming it may be.

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  18. Meanwhile, Kim has gone about her business as we have discussed her business to bits. But really, Kim, it is not about you. You bring up an issue we all deal with so it is something we need to discuss.

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  19. Kim, I empathize with you (up to a point). I once had a housemate who always had the TV on when she was home. My bedroom was unheated, so the room I hung out in was also the room with the TV. If a TV show finished and she wasn’t in the room, I’d turn it off. She’d then come back in the room and ask why I turned the TV off. I’d tell her I was trying to read and she wasn’t watching it, and her show had finished. She’d say she wanted to watch the next thing too, turn it back on, and leave the room again. I started looking for another place to live, and found a friend who was going to graduate in a few months and who became my best housemate ever until I got married and got my “really” best one, so this was only the situation for a few months, but I had a taste of it.

    I learned from living with her what I could and “couldn’t” live with, and always had the TV/noise conversation with subsequent housemates before agreeing to share a house. I don’t like noise, whatever the source, for very much of the day. Years later, one of my friends mentioned that when her husband was home, the TV was on. She didn’t like it but had made peace with it. (He has recently retired, and I don’t know if/how that has changed.) It occurred to me how easily I could have entered such a situation accidentally, and when my husband and I were getting to know each other we had the conversation. I told him an average of about an hour a day, with some days none at all, was about my limit. He tends to use earbuds if he’s watching something I don’t want to watch. It works. I also told him that I had read that a TV in the bedroom hinders marital intimacy (including sex) and that I knew for me personally, the bedroom would not be a cozy place if there was a TV in it. He had one in his bedroom, but removed it before we married. I didn’t make any ultimatums, but these were deal-breaker issues for me personally, and I knew they needed to be addressed before marriage, because I could make a decision about whether I would or wouldn’t marry him, but I couldn’t tell him what to do.

    My suggestion is that nagging won’t work; it won’t help either of you. But do you feel as though in other respects he is a loving husband–that he cares about what you think and how you feel? (You don’t need to answer that for us, but think about it.) If so, let that temper your response to this. And if he is open to such a conversation, tell him you need to talk with him. Tell him calmly how hard this is for you, and ask him if he knows of any ways he can make it easier for you. For me personally, I’d tell him I can’t tell him what to do, but I’m requesting that he voluntarily remove the TV from the bedroom and give you (“you” plural) one room without it. That may mean you’ll see less of him in the bedroom, but that will be his own choice to make. But if he is open to such conversations and he looks for ways to love you, then he should be able to come up with some ideas on his own to make things workable. You also have to make the choice not to nag him about it. If you have done so in the past, ask his forgiveness and tell him you won’t be doing that–that he is more important to you than whether or not CNN is on.

    It’s late and I should be in bed, so hopefully this makes sense, but forgive me in advance if it doesn’t.

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  20. Thank you ladies. Due to his physical limitations he entertains himself with watching TV. He listens to music. He listens to talk radio. If he is awake their is noise. There used to be a radio in the shower!!!! I am happy with silence although I have gotten used to falling asleep to the noise of the tv. That isn’t my complaint.
    My complaint is my almost physical reaction to hearing ANYTHING about Donald Trump. Over 4 years of hearing it has worn on my nerves and my mental health. I don’t want to listen TO him saying anything and I don’t want to hear about anything he has or hasn’t done. In a few weeks he either will or won’t be president. I don’t care and don’t want to hear about it.
    I don’t know how to describe it.
    Husband on the other hand lives on a constant diet of it and is astounded that any MAGA Moron doesn’t agree with him.
    I also have to deal with other ugliness from the current state of no one being willing to hear the other side
    Yesterday someone sent me screenshots and complained to me about what one of the assistants to one of my agents posted on her neighborhood Facebook group. Her husband serves on the HOA and she was defending them and telling others if they didn’t like it they should volunteer.
    Someone called her a “Karen” so she called him a “Richard” (it took me a minute to figure that one out). So the result is that someone took the time to find me thinking I would -I don’t know -discipline her about her Facebook posts.
    I did call her and tell her I didn’t see anything wrong with what she posted but she may want to be aware of it.
    You may remember that back in May an attorney advised one of my agents to delete his FB account t and resign from my company from something he posted on FB and then deleted. The FB Mafia has screenshots of it and went all out on attacking him. I think he even moved away from the area.

    What have we become? It’s bad enough I have to deal with it out there. I just want a peaceful sanctuary in my home where I can run away from the bullies on the playground.

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