79 thoughts on “Our Daily Thread 4-27-19”

  3. Phos, I have a problem keeping Elvera hydrated. I try to get her to drink her tea, coffee, etc. (She drank half a Coke yesterday.) But she seems to have an aversion to anting liquid. I try to explain that if she doesn’t drink something, they are going to put her in he hospital and put a needle in her arm. She hears me, but it doesn’t register at all. She will hold her coffee cup for an hour. Sometimes I warm it again for her. She still doesn’t drink.
    If it gets too bad, she will go to a hospital, they will take her temperature and put a needle in her arm for a couple of days. . That relieves the situation, but doesn’t solve the problem.

    Are you aware of any thing I can do to get liquid into he?

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  4. Morning! Oh how beautiful are those flowers! Did I mention we are predicted to get three inches of snow on Tuesday? ⛄️ (told you I wasn’t putting that shovel away! 😏)
    Chas does Elvera like snow cones? Or popsicles? Fruit bar? On the inpatient unit we had an ice maker that would shave ice like a snow cone. The ice would melt in their mouth and was cool and soothing. You could pour a little juice over it and eat it with a spoon or just eat it as plain ice.

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  7. Chas, I don’t have any suggestions that haven’t been offered. They make something called pedialyte for small children. Maybe you could try that. When BG dehydrates the doctor has me give her Gatorade or something like that.

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  9. Oranges? Watermelon? Apples? It seems the aversion to liquid deal is worked around by offering ices of different sorts.

    I thought I heard that coffee and cola were deyhdrators, but maybe better than nothing.

    When we are all done offering our non medical advice, perhaps the nurses will pop in with something of substance to offer.

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  10. Chas, Have you tried including soups more in the weekly menu? They make you feel like you are eating but are helping the liquid intake.

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  11. Chas, when my younger daughter was doing in-home care, she had one elderly patient who couldn’t swallow liquid, and so she had something she was required to put into everything he drank (even wine) to make it a heavier consistency (like pudding, I think). Is there a possibility that something like that would work for her?

    If she is taking in liquids in other forms (cereal with milk, ice cream, watermelon), that counts. In fact, after my dad went into kidney failure and was on dialysis, we had to strictly limit the amounts of liquid he consumed, and it was amazing how many foods were on the caution list (as in keep track of amounts). Lima beans might have been one of them. If you can work at keeping her menu as “liquid” as possible, my hunch is that would be quite helpful.

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  13. She drinks Gatorade. I went to the store and bought some. She drank half a glass of it.
    not much, but something. I will try again soon.
    It isn’t the straw thing. She drank half a Coke with a straw.
    I go give her soup for lunch.

    I know, Mumsee, I just need to get something wet into her.

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  14. Chas, the aversion to liquids is not uncommon with dementia, as the disease does not just affect the cognitive centres of the brain but also those that control hunger, thirst, etc. When someone with memory problems no longer feels thirst, they do not remember to drink. Sometimes, however, they may drink if they see someone else drinking, so it would be good for you to sit and have a drink with Elvera.

    Does Elvera have any trouble swallowing? Difficulty swallowing can be another effect of dementia, as the disease also affects the motor centres of the brain. There was one dementia patient I worked with who was paralyzed from the disease and couldn’t swallow liquids, so we had to use thickeners to make any drinks the consistency of pudding or jelly and feed it to him with a spoon. It would be good to get a swallow assessment done, as trouble swallowing can lead to pneumonia from aspirating (breathing in) food.

    Jellies and other semisolid foods can be used to supplement liquid intake, and wet foods such as fruit. Watermelon is particularly high in water content. There was a recent invention I learned about in school to encourage those with dementia to take in water, called Jelly Drops, but they are not yet available for sale: https://blog.thealzheimerssite.greatergood.com/jelly-drops-release/

    One thing to be aware of is that any drink with caffeine in it acts as a diuretic, drawing water out of the body. If Elvera is no longer interested in drinking coffee, it would be better to substitute it with another drink that does not contain caffeine. This website has more suggestions for helping those with dementia eat and drink: https://www.alzcompend.info/?p=218

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  15. On the discussion from yesterday, Canada’s military has the same rules regarding childcare. Those rules led to a tragic incident for two of our soldiers thirteen years ago, and the ongoing lack of understanding and support from the military regarding how their childcare rules affected the life of one of their servicewomen is a national disgrace: https://nationalpost.com/news/canada/after-a-crash-took-her-child-and-her-leg-air-force-officer-left-fighting-her-military-bosses
    ‘In 2006, Captain Kim Fawcett’s air force unit was gearing up for deployment, not unexpected for an experienced member of a high-readiness unit as Canada’s war in Afghanistan was expanding.
    ‘This time, however, there were extra complications: Fawcett was a new mother just back from maternity leave, and her military husband had been ordered onto base to prepare for an imminent mission of his own.
    ‘Fawcett, a planning officer at the time, was able to make quick arrangements to help both of their deployments and, on the morning of Feb. 21, 2006, she phoned her commanding officer and received approval to trigger the military’s mandated childcare plan for their nine-month-old son, Keiran…’
    A more recent update on the story: https://nationalpost.com/news/canada/soldier-who-lost-nine-month-old-son-and-a-leg-in-horrific-car-crash-losses-legal-battle-with-military-bosses

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  16. Insurance is always challenging as they try to keep their part to a minimum. But in her case, she is still employed, she has medical coverage, she gets a regular paycheck. Obviously, they would be unable to bring her son back to life and that is sad but it is not really the fault of the military that she hit ice. Or that she was hit on the way to the shoulder. That happens in civilian life also.

    Again, it is not a perfect system and each country gets to make its own rules.

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  17. Good suggestions here for Elvera. I didn’t know that about caffeine acting as a diuretic, I’ll have to mention that to Carol as she drinks a lot of soda and also is on a pretty strong diuretic medication.

    I may make some coffee this morning, I haven’t done that in a while although the new building where I work offers courtesy coffee so I’ve been drinking a cup of that on at least some mornings. Piper’s site had an interesting piece that I read the other night:

    https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/god-caffeinated-his-world

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    … Scientists around the world have noted the effects of the drug — caffeine is a drug, and a powerful one. Caffeine “sharpens the mind,” and as Murray Carpenter adds in his book-length study Caffeinated, the drug “does not just increase acuity; it can also improve mood.” Unlike marijuana, caffeine (in moderate doses) makes us more awake to the world, rather than less.

    John Piper writes,

    “It is an empowering drug that enables you to be a more alert dad, or a more aware mother, or a more competent employee. . . . Most coffee drinkers hope to stay awake, do their jobs more reliably, and drive more safely. It is certainly possible to abuse caffeine, but, as a natural stimulant, it is most commonly used not as an escape from reality, but as an effort to interact responsibly with reality. (“Don’t Let Your Mind Go to Pot”)”
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  18. I’ve been working my way through RC Sproul’s “What’s in the Bible: A Tour of Scripture”

    It’s 400 pages, written as a sweeping overview of the Bible which I am finding helpful right now, to step back and get a glimpse again at the “big picture.” It’s well written and is an easy read.

    Here’s his summary of David which I read last night (next up will be the “major prophets” chapter):
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    David did nothing halfheartedly. If there ever was a Renaissance man, it was King David. He was multifaceted, extremely complex — a wild bunch of contradictions. He threw himself into life with reckless abandon. His success was beyond limits. His failures were atrocious. But his repentance was unabashed and desperately sincere.

    As we saw with many of those who carried the mantel of God’s covenant blessing, David’s selection came as a complete surprise. Samuel, who understandably was broken by the failure of Saul as king, was sent by God to visit the home of Jesse, a Bethlehemite of the family of Judah. “For I have provided Myself a king among his sons,” the sovereign God announced to Samuel.

    God’s anointing did not fall on David because of his good looks. And, as we learn as we closely follow him throughout the remainder of his life, the blessing didn’t become his because he was always good. The covenant blessing of leadership became David’s because of his heart.

    David was the greatest king in Israel’s history. He was the supreme symbol of kingship in the Old Testament and the New. David was not only strong and benevolent, he was also a good administrator and a master diplomat.

    But if David was more accomplished at something other than military strategy, political prowess, or leadership savvy, it was the art of genuine confession and repentance.
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  19. Re the discussion of military forcibly separating families: Let’s imagine that someone in the medical field has had a good part of their medical training paid for by their workplace, with the understanding that they will stay and work for a certain number of years after completing that training, and let’s imagine that the new nurse or doctor comes to Christ near the end of that training, or the medical facility changes the rules a bit. Now it will be a requirement to assist with abortions. Would you say well, he signed that commitment, and now needs to go through with it? Or would you say there needs to be some alternate route that is honorable (such as paying back the expense of training)?

    Nearly all commitments have an opt-out clause, though the way out may be costly. For instance, when you sign a 30-year mortgage, you actually have multiple ways of fulfilling your commitment: You can make mortgage payments for 30 years, you can make extra payments and pay the loan early, you can sell the house and pay the loan early . . . or you can default on your mortgage, let the bank repossess your house, and take a serious hit on your credit. You can even die and not finish paying it. When you take on that 30-year mortgage you are not saying, “No matter what happens in the next 30 years, I will make this payment every month for 30 years.” You are saying you will pay or suffer consequences if you don’t pay.

    We Christians believe that marriage is a lifelong commitment. But if you find that your husband is abusing the baby, you will probably call the police on him and also divorce him. If you find he has a mistress, and he is not willing to decide between you, you will divorce him.

    When I was getting ready to marry, a few years prior (my first year in Nashville) I had worked a part-time job that required a 12-month commitment, January to December. The boss found January the best time to train a new employee, so he required that particular commitment each year. I was quite uncomfortable making such a commitment, especially for a part-time job (10-15 hours a week, dropping down to 5 hours or less a week the last half of the year) that paid $10 an hour. What if freelance didn’t work out and I decided to move? What if family in some other state needed me? I made the commitment, but reluctantly, because I believe in honoring my word, but I also think that a commitment generally needs some sort of emergency clause. Well, the fall before I married (when I didn’t know I would be marrying in a year) I was approached about working that job again in 2011, again with the full-year commitment. This time I hedged my bets. I told them that I could work the job, and could probably work the full year, but I could not make the commitment as a promise. I just could not be “bound” to something that brought me so little benefit. It turned out that I got married before the year was over, and the last couple of months before our marriage I did not have the time in my schedule to be doing something that low in my priorities; I gave them notice and gave them time to hire and train someone. If I had not had that discussion, it could have been seriously problematic, because I would have had to go to them during the year and say something like “I made a 12-month commitment, but I would like to ask you if you could voluntarily release me.” Had they refused to release me, I would have had to wait till the following spring to list my house for sale, marry, and move.

    I do not believe that a commitment to the military should be more binding than marriage. If there is not some honorable way to withdraw when circumstances change (e.g., you marry and bear a child), then military service is slavery. I am fine with making the way out painful (e.g., garnishing wages till the debt is repaid) but not OK with saying a commitment to the military comes ahead of responsibility to family. The military has become far too self-important at that point.

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  20. Driving over the bridge the other day with all the port-bound container trucks, a small rock or something hit my windshield and left a tiny crack near the left edge. Very tiny, but I know from experience it ideally should be fixed. I also know from experience that it’ll cost at least $100 or thereabouts — that is if they don’t try to tell me the entire windshield needs to be replaced.

    I’m watching it for now, I have no desire to buy another windshield — which I’ve had to do twice before with this car. Has anyone used the DIY products you can buy at auto parts stores or through Amazon? I think it’s a resin material that includes applicators — it won’t get rid of it completely but it can stabilize it from spreading any more.

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  21. “Thanx everyone. You have helped.
    She eats soup. I will stop giving her much coffee.
    Right now, she’s wanting to pack up and go home.
    I am convincing her that we should stay here a while longer.’
    But now, she has diverted her interest to the calendar. That is easier to deal with.
    🙂

    She still has her sweet disposition. TSWITW still.

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  23. Hi. Jumping in again with another comment as I trek through the threads I’ve missed in the last few weeks. I’m directing this especially to Chas, who mentioned the difficulty reading medication dosage instructions that is in small print.

    One person suggested googling the name of the medicine to find the correct dosage online. One caveat I’ll mention to that good advice is to be very careful to spell the name of the medicine correctly when you type it into the search bar. If there is another medicine with a similar spelling, but very different dosage instructions, it could be dangerous if you or Elvera end up ingesting a wrong amount of the medicine because of mistakenly reading instructions for a different drug.

    Make sure the drug you’re reading about online is the exact same one that’s printed on the bottle you have.

    Dosing errors can be deadly. My friend’s mother-in-law misread a direction to take one pill every three days as “take three pills every day.” She eventually died from the overdose.

    Take special care for yourself and TSWITW, Chas. We all love you.

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  24. Sometimes when women cannot control their bladder well, they decrease fluid intake to mitigate the problem. This often leads to other problems, such as constipation and UTIs. Fresh fruits and vegetables come naturally packages with fluids and fiber.

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  25. I have been at EMS conference for the past 2 days learning and gaining CEs. It is so hard to sit a listen to lecture/power points without falling asleep. I have drunk 5 cups of coffee and a Dr pepper. Thank God this is the last class today. Vascular access. At least the speaker is interesting

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  27. Get Linda to write them out in a very large font on your computer. You could have a file with that information. I would not want to trust my memory in the middle of the night.

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  28. speaking of caffeine, I went to the high school talent night last night. I had a cliff bar in my bag which I ate half of as the show lasted three hours almost. Well it was a chocolate cliff bar. I laid in bed last night unable to sleep. I am very sensitive to caffeine. I got to pray for lots of folks.

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  29. So everyone’s in a tailspin out here about the measles. Some of our universities are putting students under quarantine and advising everyone who hasn’t had the measles or the vaccine to get it.

    OK, I thought, I should probably go get the shot. I went to the one Walgreens in LB where it was supposed to be in stock but they’d just given their last dose to someone else when I arrived (delayed also by the fact that all the streets around the store were shut down for a bicycle event).

    They said try the store in downtown LB, so I went there and they’d run out as well, no idea when they’d get more in.

    I tried.

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  31. Azaleas!

    I understand the local college has been dealing with mumps. Having had both measles and mumps, neither particularly concerns me, but I know it’s tricky for the schools.

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  33. It snowed for only a couple of hours today, and promptly melted. So, good current weather for going to the piano concert tonight. Yay. 🙂

    For those interested, I’m playing the first four movements of Bach’s French Suite No. 4 in E-Flat Major (up to the 9:22 mark on the video). This recording isn’t me. 😉

    Enjoy your weekend, everyone!

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  35. My sweet husband starting out thinking The Barefoot Contessa was irritating. He gave in and let me watch it. Tonight he is cooking her lamb and orzo except he knows I don’t like lamb so he substituted chicken. It smells really good.

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  39. Nice variety of music at the piano concert tonight. I enjoyed listening to the others’ pieces. As for my playing this evening, it didn’t go all that well, in my opinion. I didn’t really hit my stride until about seven minutes in, and by then there was only one or one and a half movements left. Kind of an off night, but a player will have that once in a while.

    Tomorrow I play at my 8th-grade student’s Confirmation service at his church — we’re doing a teacher-student piano duet on Savior Like a Shepherd Lead Us. Beautiful melody, and I like the harmony in the arrangement we’re doing. I didn’t know the words until I looked them up just now. They’re fitting for a Confirmation.

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  40. Kare, thanks for your comment about your friend playing the composition I sent you. I’m glad the hearing and playing of it blessed you.

    I’ve been working a little bit on the piece I’m composing for my granddaughter. She’s due two months from today, so maybe I’ll be able to finish it up after I get to see and hold her. 🙂

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  42. No, for some reason I escaped having mumps, measles and chicken pox growing up despite sitting next to kids in school who had them. I finally got chicken pox in my 40s (!) but have never had the other 2 out of the Big 3 plagues of childhood.

    And I do t remember getting the vaccine

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  45. DJ, you escaped all of those? I don’t remember having measles, though I am told I had them, but I do remember the other two (though vaguely). I was fairly young with chicken pox, and mostly remember that I remembered it; I think it was quite itchy. Mumps I remember. I had a sore jaw, and mentioned it to Mom; she took one look at me and said, “You have mumps.” I asked what that was, and she explained. I got it on one side, and my sister got it the next day and my brother the next day, or something like that. By the time it was traveling to my siblings, I got it on the second side. Then I got it on the first side all over again, and Mom said that didn’t usually happen. It was very uncomfortable and hard to eat, but Mom told me it was better (especially for boys) to get it as children and not in adulthood, and that we were now all safe from getting it again.

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  46. rkessler,

    Quite possibly that is who moved home a couple days ago. Six months ago, she wanted to go to college. Three months ago, she had enrolled and was starting classes. Three days ago, she was in her third year. Yesterday, she would have been graduating next week or so. She describes her classes and the opportunity to dissect a cadaver. She is not registered as enrolled in either of the universities. But that is okay, because when she had her meltdown and quite two months ago, they removed her from all the lists. And she had no debt from it because she took half of what the grands were paying and put it toward college. Not to mention all the traveiling she was doing And this is just one aspect of her story telling. As mentioned, until I see a positive preg test, I am not a believer. Though I will treat her as pregnant until I know otherwise. Bring up little things like the enrollment question and she is quick to cover. We suggested she just get confirmation from the registrar and she had a blank look, what is that? I spelled it out for her. May God be glorified as we attempt to minister to her.

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  47. Morning! We had a most beautiful sunrise here in the forest this morning..bright orange sky peeking through the pines with branches tossing to and fro in the wind….achoo!! 🤧 pollen!!!
    I had chickenpox terribly bad and have scars to prove it! I had mumps as well but I do not recall having measles….don’t you break out in measles just like chickenpox? Did measles skip a generation?
    Off to church we go then to lunch with daughter who is 41 today…oh my oh my how does that happen that our children get “old”!! 😳

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  48. Thanks for the comments on the flowers. The small patch of azaleas is an example of the honeysuckle weeds I am pulling out. You see more of them than the azaleas here. This is an area I need to work on. There are always more.

    Now to get ready for church.

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  49. DJ- If the crack in your windshield is smaller than a quarter it is repairable. Do you have comprehensive coverage in your insurance? If so, insurance pays the bill, and sometimes there is no deductible. I know this because I just had a chip in our minivan’s windshield.

    If you only have liability, get some estimates. There is also Safelite, which has mobile units that come to you.

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  50. Beautiful flowers, Janice.

    I had a great aunt who got the mumps in her early teens, just as she was entering puberty. Mumps, a viral infection, is mostly known for infecting the salivary glands, producing the characteristic swelling in the sides of the jaw, but it may infect other parts of the body, including the testicles (a condition called orchitis) or the ovaries. The results of such an infection in either males or females can be sterility. My great aunt was one of those who suffered such an infection of her ovaries by mumps and as a result, never progressed into puberty and thus never physically matured. She worked as a nanny and then ended up living with her brother, my grandfather, and his family. My mother remembers her as a bitter and hard woman, who only softened at the end of her life while she was dying of terminal cancer, when she became a Christian. Mumps may have devastating and life changing effects, such as miscarriage in pregnant women, deafness, encephalitis, meningitis, and pancreatitis.

    My mother remembers having measles. Measles is also mild in most people who get it, with a fever, characteristic red rash (it doesn’t produced raised blisters like chicken pox) and normally mild symptoms. Before routine vaccines were introduced and in parts of the world where vaccines are not, due to conflict or other reasons, given, measles was one of the leading causes of blindness. There was a children’s story that we read over and over in our childhood, titled The Five Little Peppers and How They Grew, written in the late 1800s. In part of the book, the five children get measles, and one of the girls nearly becomes blind, while another of the boys nearly dies. I have a non-fiction book, called The Horse and Buggy Doctor, written by a physician who practiced mainly in rural Kansas during the late 1800s, and early 1900s (the book was published in the 1938). He vividly describes what the common childhood diseases did to their victims, and on measles:
    ‘Measles, though less fatal than diphtheria or scarlet fever, added its quota to the casualty list of childhood. Of all the diseases it is the one most readily disseminated. If housing facilities were poor, pneumonia was a frequent complication which resulted fatally in many cases and in many more left constitutional defects. I had experience enough with this disease in my early years of practice.
    ‘Since measles is much more fatal in adults than in children, mothers were anxious that their offspring should have the disease in childhood. My mother sent me, when I was nine years old, to play with a neighbor boy who had the disease. We played dominoes several hours but I took nothing. This is inexplicable because, as already mentioned, measles is the most readily spread of all infectious diseases.'(A.E. Hertzler, ch. 1, p. 4)
    Measles is a potentially devastating disease, with other complications being, again, miscarriage or premature birth in infected pregnant women, deafness, encephalitis, pneumonia (the most common cause of death in children due to measles), diarrhea, and the rare but always fatal subacute sclerosing panencephalitis (SSPE), which appears 7 to 10 years after the initial infection. It is most severe, as Dr. Hertzler noted, in adults and in children under five. The measles virus also produces what is called immune amnesia by infecting the memory cells of the immune system (that is right, your immune system has lymphocytes dedicated to remembering the diseases you have been infected with or been vaccinated against) leaving the infected person, even after symptom recovery, vulnerable to other infections (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/30470742).

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  52. How do you feel about borrowing things from friends and relatives?
    I don’t mind lending you almost anything I have.
    I cannot stand to borrow something from someone. I will do without, make do, and only as a very last resort borrow something from someone. If I do end up borrowing something I will replace it or have it back to you as soon as possible.
    I find others it doesn’t bother as much.

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  53. I am home sick today. Yesterday, I started out to return to the city. We were nearly to the train station when I had to ask my father to pull over and find a bag. Then I threw up. I had had no symptoms before the overwhelming nausea – it was the kind where you don’t know if you are going to faint or throw up. So, we turned around and came back. We thought maybe it was a reaction to something I had eaten, as I had a similar episode after eating mangos a couple of months ago, but this morning, Sixth nephew also threw up, so it seems to be a virus. I have been only to church and to visit Youngest in the past week. I have no idea where I picked this up.

    Being in the generation which was vaccinated against measles, mumps, and rubella, I have not had any of those, but varicella (chicken pox) was not vaccinated against in my day. My mother, like Dr. Hertzler’s mother with measles, had my siblings and I play with children who had chicken pox. But, like him with measles, we never contracted it. I was 18 when a child we were babysitting broke out with the chicken pox rash. I got so ill – high fevers, terrible muscle pain, and pox all over, including my eyelids and throat. Youngest was even worse than I was. The only disease I have been more ill with than chicken pox was the unknown virus I got halfway through my stay in West Africa.

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  55. Thanks Peter, the is worth a call to my insurance agent to see if it can be fixed without my having to pay the deductible. This crack is tiny but is stretching out a little bit (though still way smaller than a quarter) — the issue I think might be that it’s right up close to the left side edge (the direction the one crack line also is traveling in) and I was once told by one of those repair places that they couldn’t fix cracks that were too close the edge. I’ve used the mobile fixers before and they were good. But I think only one of my windshield cracks over time was fixable, the others required new windshields (and my deductible didn’t work for those, they cost less than the deductible would have so I had to just pay cash).

    This one is very small and out of my needed visibility through the windshield so it’s easy for now to ignore, though I know I should get it checked soon.

    Oh, chicken pox. I was probably 48 years old … I remember is was the week when Columbine happened — and I came home from work one day just feeling really weak. Then I noticed spots on my legs. I called my friend down the street as we were going to go to a dog club meeting that night. By the next morning I felt a lot worse, called my doctor, and they had me come in but quickly rushed me through to a private room. He declared I had chicken pox, gave me a prescription or two (one by mouth the other a lotion); and told me to take oatmeal baths. I think I took several every day as I recall. It felt like having a really bad case of the flu with the worst sunburn ever, all at the same time, I was pretty miserable. And as I was waiting at the drug store for the meds (I stood way off to the side with my hand and T-shirt pulled up over my face), I honestly thought I was going to pass out right there.

    I still remember calling in sick to my editor and saying I had chicken pox so I wouldn’t be in. “CHICKEN POX?!” He couldn’t believe it. Neither could I after having dodged it all my life. I have no idea where I picked it up but I had recently been downtown LA covering a legal hearing and remembered eating in the very crowded courthouse public cafeteria, so that was my best guess.

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  56. I hate borrowing anything and never do unless it’s some desperate situation. I never borrow money from friends, but Carol borrows money every month from a couple people, it’s considered (by her) as part of her income. Yeah, I’ve tried to talking to her about it, but … “They don’t mind” and she does pay them back the next month. But then she turns around and borrows money from them all over again. Go figure.

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  57. Praying, Mumsee.
    I have heard of histrionic personality disorder. It is less well known than other personality disorders like borderline or narcissistic. My mental health nursing textbook describes histrionic personality disorder as:
    “a pattern of theatrical or overly dramatic behavior. Individuals commonly display discomfort in situations in which they are not the center of attention. The client uses physical appearance, inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior, and self dramatization and emotional exaggeration to draw attention to self. Style of speech is excessively impressionistic and lacking in detail as the client exhibits labile [unstable, rapidly changing] emotions. The client is easily influenced by others or by circumstance and considers relationship to be more intimate than they really are” (Basic concepts of psychiatric-mental health nursing, p. 415).

    There is another disorder, which often occurs with the personality disorders, that seems to match what you write about the daughter who has just returned home. That is factitious disorder imposed on self, formerly known as Munchausen syndrome: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9833-factitious-disorder-imposed-on-self-munchausen-syndrome

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  59. Now her bio dad is telling her to move home with real family, them, the drug users, ex cons, so she can receive the help she craves.

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  60. On Kim’s QoD: It depends on what. Books seem intended to be borrowed. My greatest frustration when I lend out books is that often they don’t seem to get read. I borrow books so long as I know I will be able to return them in a timely fashion. I have not had many occasions to borrow other items.
    I have never borrowed money from friends or family. My parents and other family members and friends have given me money, but it is not something I count on for income, nor something I ask for from them.
    Growing up, my parents were very generous, and often lent out items to others. My mother lost some of her schooling material that way, to people who never returned what they had borrowed.During our teen and young adult years, my siblings and I accumulated quite a DVD collection, with the majority being either classic films or productions of classic literary works. We lent them out on a regular basis to friends and a few were never returned. My father now uses that collection, which my siblings and I left for him to enjoy – he finds it hard to read with his blind spots from his accident – which he does, watching them over and over. He lends them out, but has people who borrow them sign them out, so that he can keep track of where they are.

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  61. Mumsee, my textbook goes on to say of those with histrionic personality disorder: “They have difficulty living in environments in which they are treated like ordinary workers or they are forced to confront their own failures. Although they may be creative and imaginative, they exhibit dependency and helplessness and handle feelings of criticism poorly.”

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  62. I don’t know that I have ever borrowed anything. Not counting books someone suggested I read. Nor tools from someone working on the same project.
    I have (seldom) loaned money and I often lend my truck.
    Happy to do so because I need to run it occasionally.

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  63. I am not a borrower or lender, however, my husband is. He loses lots of things as a result. I figure only lend things that you can afford to lose, as you may never see it again. Books are a different matter.

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  64. I am home from church. We had a great sermon on Hosea. The pastor is doing a series on the minor prophets before we get into a lengthy study of another book in the NT. In Sunday school we are starting into Ephesians using a Knowing the Bible book series edited by J I Packer and written by Eric Redmond (published by Crossway). I am feeling good about these studies.

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  65. I had chicken pox at 11 months old. It infected my gums somehow so my teeth are permanently stained. Many a dentist has tried to scrape the stains to no avail.

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  66. I posted a comment about borrowing that did not show up. I have no idea what happened. I won’t repost as my eyes are tired and it is difficult8. Yesterday I did a book review on my blog that took all my effort so I was not here. I next want to review Michelle’s Poppy book.

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  68. Thanks, Janice!

    I borrow things when appropriate–though never money. I’m happy to lend if I have something you can use. I might even give it to you if I don’t use it often enough to justify owning it.

    Even books, take them away!

    But I’m at the stage, as I keep reminding myself watching what the fire survivors are buying, when I’m trying to get rid of things not own them.

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  69. Here’s today’s story.

    I’ve talked about our friend who has endure a Job-like experience the last five years.

    Last year, he was attached to a woman he knew before he married (indeed, she baked his wedding cake), madly in love and desperate for her to love him back.

    She rejected him pretty soundly.

    We tried our best to console him, but, well, he’s a 62 year-old-man convinced he’ll never be loved again.

    Then, about four months ago a woman whom he and his wife knew for years–they raised their children together as close friends while she was married–returned to the area, divorced and to be closer to her pregnant daughter.

    She’s been a church goer–that’s how they knew each other–and he’s now back in church each Sunday sitting beside her. It’s love and today he told us he’s planning to propose.

    We’ve all seen how much happier he is. None of the five children involved–who are now adults and have known each other since birth–are particularly enthusiastic, but those of us who have ministered to him, are so thankful.

    God is good. Even when we feel rejected.

    Now I’ve become one of you. WP no longer recognizes me. 😦

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  70. I’ve ‘given’ money to Carol (mainly because I figure getting it back is a fruitless dream), usually via treating her to meals as she never has “any” money after about 2 hours beyond when her pay hits the bank.

    But occasionally we’ve agreed she would pay me back for something. It hasn’t really happened, but the latest was the mobile notary I had to pay for ($75) and we both agreed I should get that money back. She’s supposed to give me $50 of it next weekend, but we’ll see.

    I’m much less inclined to spend money on her lately, partly because after the house and car issues on top of owing taxes I’m not exactly rolling in “extra” money.

    Church, as always was so uplifting and convicting both — and both are good.

    The pastor mentioned in his sermon about how angry our culture is nowadays but how we should always remember we are to love our enemies and we should not respond to their anger with anger of our own.

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  71. I see one of my colleagues today was covering what was supposed be a “white supremacy” rally or march in Long Beach, which is a very liberal city, heavily LBGT in its population. The event never materialized but did attract about 100 counter-demonstrators.

    Everyone’s in a frenzy right now, it seems. Was there really a white supremacy event planned? Or was it a rumor? Who knows. Just sounded unlikely to me, but then I’m not covering any of it (thankfully).

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  73. My brother just told me some interesting history. He said that where we grew up (near what is now Peachtree Dekalb airport and formerly the Naval Air Station) was originally the old Army Fort Gordon from World War I. He said it was where Sargent York trained. We had woods behind our house that had these giant concrete structures that we had been told were used for watering the horses. We would get in those things when they were dry and play. My brother also said that our mother worked at the Army base and did discharge papers for World War Ii soldiers. I knew that, but I did not know that her brother, my Uncle, went through her to be discharged. She told the others in the typing group that if they saw her brother’s name to send him to her. I just think that is so neat.

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  74. Home from church, then had birthday lunch with daughter and her family. A lovely afternoon.
    Kim I do not like to borrow anything…and I know this may sound weird to some but I will not even “borrow” books from the library. I would rather purchase a hard copy and either keep it for my library or pass it on to someone else. Of course I do purchase books on my Kindle.
    I will lend to others…not money….we have given money but never lended it to someone. If I lend something I figure on never seeing it again…it has happened to me with books….and Tupperware….. 😳

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  75. Borrowing,

    Pretty much what Nancyjill said. If we loan something, and we are happy to do so, we generally go on the plan it is a gift and we won’t see it again. Do not like to borrow if at all possible as I fear forgetting to return or damaging or losing.

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  76. We lived at Fort Gordon Reservoir for a summer. Beautiful place. We lived at the RV place, all alone at the end next to the water. Just us in our trailer with our four children and three dog and the water moccasins. Somebody left his sea kayaks with us and the children would kayak across the reservoir to the swimming area and back. Free range parenting at its finest.

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  77. Beautiful old two-story Spanish duplex on the corner down the street from me had a natural gas explosion, causing my house to shake and some police/fire activity. No one was inside, thankfully, and the outer part of the building looks still intact.

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  78. On marijuana health effects (prayer thread): They talked about that in school. The healthcare community tried to caution our lawmakers about it repeatedly; but the incumbent party had campaigned on the issue and argued that to make the legal marijuana age higher than the legal drinking and smoking age would not work. Not everyone who consumes marijuana will develop mental illness – my pathophysiology teacher said that there appears to be a genetic predisposition to developing schizophrenia after consuming marijuana – but everyone who spoke on the subject was clear that there is a link between marijuana and mental health issues. Our national broadcaster and several other publications even published the concerns of the medical community, only to have the comment sections on their articles flooded by angry marijuana advocates who didn’t want to hear about it. So, marijuana is legal in Canada now, and I smell it more now in the areas smokers frequent. It stinks. Thankfully, the rules that apply to smoking tobacco also apply to smoking marijuana. The greatest concern is for children of users, who have no choice in their prolonged exposure. During my last placement, we had pregnant women come in who reeked of the stuff. Marijuana does affect unborn children, and furthermore, it is passed through breastmilk.

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