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Prayer Requests 1-15-18

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Psalm 129

1 “They have greatly oppressed me from my youth,”
    let Israel say;
2 “they have greatly oppressed me from my youth,
    but they have not gained the victory over me.
3 Plowmen have plowed my back
    and made their furrows long.
4 But the Lord is righteous;
    he has cut me free from the cords of the wicked.”

5 May all who hate Zion
    be turned back in shame.
6 May they be like grass on the roof,
    which withers before it can grow;
7 a reaper cannot fill his hands with it,
    nor one who gathers fill his arms.
8 May those who pass by not say to them,
    “The blessing of the Lord be on you;
    we bless you in the name of the Lord.”

30 thoughts on “Prayer Requests 1-15-18”

  1. Father God,

    Please help AJ, Cheryl and Liz to quickly recouperated from this horrible flu. I pray the rest and any aids to recovery with strengthen them and move the bad bugs quickly out of their systems. You know their individual needs and their whole family group needs. They are in Your good care. In Jesus, Amem

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  3. Patterns repeat themselves in our lives. I had thought I had broken a pattern but it seems that I haven’t.
    My ex-husband didn’t like my friends. He did not want to socialize with people I knew. We only socialized with people he knew. He would not attend events with me, yet told me I was welcome to attend by myself. If I made him go with me, he made me so miserable I just wanted to go home.
    Yesterday my husband pretty much told me the same thing. I am welcome to find someone else to attend social functions with me.

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  4. Kim, a lot of husbands don’t socialize with their wives. I am trying to convince my husband to go on a cruise again. He likes cruises and, though I enjoy them very much, I get very motion sick and the lines to them are horrendous. So, I am encouraging him to go. He found a nice one from this area that goes to Florida in nineteen days for about a thousand dollars. On the other hand, I used to do a lot of camping by myself with some children. Though in the military I did go to some of his functions but he never went to the wive’s functions.

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  5. Kim I don’t know that my Mr P is any different. He does seem out of his comfort zone at events that I do enjoy. And then again, I am out of my element at gatherings he enjoys (with his running friends…and the running women in attendance have zero fat on their bodies while I am there sitting on mine!) I just don’t fit in, I don’t speak the language and to be perfectly honest, I don’t enjoy listening to any more than I must…and I must listen to it at home with my verbal processor retired husband! 😜) It’s gonna be ok…enjoy your gatherings with your friends…different strokes for different folks…..breathe deeply of the sweet times spent with your Mr P…. 💕

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  8. Kim – Mumsee and NancyJill have good points, but I also know that there are some functions that work better as a couple. I’m sorry you find yourself in this situation again. I hope you can make peace with it, and still enjoy your outings and events.

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  9. There are some events that are far more special with your spouse or someone you love. I think many spouses would be surprised at what they learn to appreciate or enjoy, if they gave it more effort.

    In the modern world most spouses are already apart most of the day. It is a balance and each couple most find what works for both of them. We also need to be reminded that love gives etc.

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  12. Oh my Mr P and I enjoy many events together…it’s just there are some that do not gel! We both enjoy a small concert venue…small groups at church…small town street festivals…we both dislike crowds, events with lots of people, amusement park settings….we are very like minded in many aspects…there are just those times when he knows I would not enjoy myself and I am perfectly happy for him to attend those events with his friends….and those events he knows I enjoy and he does not…he is perfectly happy for me to attend with my friends.

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  13. Kathaleena thank you for understanding. Everyone else, I appreciate your thoughts.
    I was an only (lonely) child. I have a small circle of real friends. I have been alone most of my life. I wanted a “play mate” as well as a husband. Most things I am OK going alone. I understand him not wanting to attend my company functions. Some things I am not. If I had wanted to be by myself I would have stayed single so that if a suitable escort crossed my path I could attend an event with them. I married, expecting him to be my suitable escort. And for those who saw the photos on FB he does clean up well.

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  15. So, I was going to try to get out today, but then I began to feel like I was going to faint. No going anywhere, though I may need to crawl to the corner to get some more drinking water and something for supper. This is not good.

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  17. Many was the night I sat at home letting a kernel of resentment grow until the point I blew my life apart. I am not likely to do that this time. I don’t want to suffer the consequences again, and I want to at least learn from my mistakes. Some events I will give up and now there are some I won’t. I won’t let the resentment build this time. I am just disappointed again. He has gone to a movie while I work from home today. I don’t think he understands what it is like for me to be gone from home 10+ hours a day, stand on my feet for much of that time, and come home mentally exhausted.

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  18. Sorry, Kim. That does hurt. Maybe if you both together engaged in a new interest you would make a new set of compatible friends. I think my cousins use to belong to a dinner club where couples hosted an international type dinner once a month. I think they liked that and found some good friends while expanding on food knowledge.

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  19. The idea is that you can sit at home or you can go out, he can sit at home or he can go out. You two find the balance that works for you.

    My dad used to go out to the woods and stepmom would go work at the hospital as a volunteer. Dad would play tennis, she would get her hair done. They would play Bridge together. Now he says he is within six feet of her twenty hours a day and they are both happy. We got there for our visit and he had just stepped out to shovel the snow. Eleven year old hopped out and ran over to help while we went inside to visit with grandma. They came in with happy faces over a job well done and he sat with her the rest of the time. Seasons change.

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  21. Kim, I am sorry for your discouragement. I agree with Kathaleena’s, “There are some events that are far more special with your spouse or someone you love.” I’ve felt this way for the last few years that I’ve been performing in piano concerts — hubby never attends. I sometimes go to other performances at that particular venue, and I can understand that he doesn’t want to attend with me on those occasions, because he doesn’t care for live music, and wouldn’t know any of the performers. But I feel it’s different when I am one of the performers, because it’s his wife up on stage, doing something that has been years in the making, and from which I derive great joy.

    If I performed every weekend, or even every month, I could see his not wanting to go all the time, but two or three times a year? He can’t leave his garage work for two hours to be there with me?

    In other words, I understand your disappointment. It was hard for me, despite how much I love performing, to not have him there at my concerts, and especially to come home and have him not say a word to me about the concert (“How did it go?”, etc.). It destroyed the good feelings I’d have post-performance if I’d let it, and I almost decided to hang up performing because the one person who (should theoretically, or does actually, I don’t know which) loves me most takes zero interest in one of the deep joys of my life.

    Third Arrow performs on occasion, too, but if she’s disappointed that her father doesn’t attend when she’s playing, she doesn’t let on. So I took my cue from her and decided I wouldn’t let his absence bother me anymore.

    Sixth Arrow will have her first public piano performance a week from Sunday. I haven’t told hubby about it yet, and am telling myself not to sink into discouragement that he will most likely not go to see her perform, either.

    You are right to be wary of resentment creeping in. It’s a lesson I’ve had to learn, too.

    Apologies for bringing some of my own past hurt into this conversation. Praying for you, Kim.

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  24. Headache all day that has progressed to nausea. Could use prayers.

    Also, Hubby can’t find his driver’s license. He had it early this morning when he ran to town on errands, but couldn’t find it by 11:00 when he was leaving for work. We’ve hunted all over, and it’s nowhere to be found — he thinks he might have dropped it in town or in the snow, which has been coming down today.

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  25. Kim, remind yourself of all the positives, they are there.

    Husband likes to drive me up to see my dad, it is his gift to me. And I don’t generally have anywhere I want to go. Play some tennis, camp, that is about it. So we find things we do enjoy and do them and march to our own drummer as well.

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  26. Headache’s gone! Thank you. I should have asked you guys to pray a lot sooner. 🙂

    Yes, remembering the positives is good. Yesterday when I was leaving church by myself (I sang at both services, and my family attended early service), I was thinking I’ll bet I was the only woman in the choir whose husband went to start up her car between services and sit in it while it ran, so that it would start when I was leaving church 4 1/2 hours after getting there on that below-zero morning.

    Sweet.

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  27. 6 Arrows – Have you told your husband how you feel about him not being there when you perform? Could it be that if he knew, he’d make the effort? (I realize that by telling him, you risk another hurt if he still refuses.)

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  28. Kim – Have you told Mr. P about how mentally exhausted you are after a day of work? Maybe he doesn’t realize?

    That reminds me of teaching we women got when I was younger, in women’s Bible studies or elsewhere, to wait until one’s husband has had dinner after coming home from work to spring any bad news or hard questions on him, not laying them on him as soon as he comes in the door. I found that did make a big difference in how Hubby might respond to me. I wonder if men get any similar advice about their wives?

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  29. Kizzie, yes, I did once, but it exasperates him when I give any indication that I wish anything were different. His response is always, “I have enough to do without … [having to go there, or do that, or think about whatever].”

    He just can’t think beyond his own priorities anymore. And some of those priorities are important. So I can be thankful for that.

    And that he once was willing to spend time doing things with me that weren’t his favorite things to do. He went to my senior piano recital the month before we got married, for example, and went to the student piano recitals I had from 1995-2003, even before our oldest arrows started playing in them.

    But it’s hard, too, when things aren’t the way they used to be. I don’t know if it would have been harder if he’d never gone, or that he has quit going.

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  30. I was single till 44 and never dated till I met my husband. (I did do stuff with a guy friend a couple of years in my twenties, but he was definite we weren’t dating and he wasn’t much of a gentleman, so basically he was just someone to hang out with for a while.) I had to determine in those single years what things I just couldn’t do by myself (attend a movie, go to a sit-down restaurant) and do them with a friend or not at all. Other things were quite fine on my own (attending a concert, going to the zoo, hiking a place I considered safe). Even today I find I would rather do things with my husband, but there is a different rhythm to doing things alone, doing things with my husband, and doing them with a female friend, and all are fine in their way.

    My husband gets talking with one daughter about movies, with the other daughter about sports, and in those conversations I quietly leave the room–they simply do not interest me, and he has someone else with whom to discuss them. (I’ll watch a game on TV–except American football, which fortunately he doesn’t watch either–or attend a movie, but 45 minutes of conversation about either subject is tedium.) I am hoping that with the next move I can do better at finding female friends to do stuff with me. Here for various reasons it hasn’t been all that practical, but in the next place we should live closer to church and we should have more temperate weather, both of which should help me.

    But right now I am snowed in with a sick husband, and didn’t even get to church yesterday . . . so God’s grace is sustaining me, because all else being equal I could feel lonely and depressed about now, after weeks of winter in which I have had little people contact–but instead I am able to see it as a temporary season and to endure it.

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