I’m bleary-eyed from driving home tonight so when I resd Michelle’s “hot job” I thought it said “hot tub.” Prospects until I looked back. 🙂
We got home after a fun day. I have not heard from son who was with several co-workers returning to TX from AK (8 hours) . With the storm and all, I hope I will hear from him soon. Prayers for safety, please. He had to present another paper and that eent well for him and may be something he can publizh.
Please pray for my husband. He is so stressed about the (poor) care his dad is receiving. Incompetence. Lack of communication with family. You name it. Today his sister was told their dad has chronic kidney problems.
Chronic? He’s been in that nursing home since January and we first find out TODAY about a chronic problem he’s had?
And he was supposed to be having his legs wrapped every day to keep them from swelling, but after his second hospitalization this month, when he went back to his same nursing home room as before, but was considered to be under hospice care, none of his regular caregivers notified the hospice people about wrapping his legs, and my hubby’s sister discovered by simple observation that his legs weren’t wrapped, and were all swollen up again. When she called that to someone’s attention, she learned it had been five days they’d been unwrapped.
My husband is furious, and is on the way there now. Please pray for safety on the road, and whatever else you can think of.
And pray for my FIL, too. He was given morphine today for I don’t remember what reason — his lungs are filling with fluid, so probably pain, I’m guessing?
God convicted me of my sinful attitude towards others as I handled the book order and had to deal with others mistakes and assumptions. I know I am forgiven, but do need to make some apologies.
Roscuro, my husband called home a few minutes ago, just after I had seen your question, and I asked him what he found out. He reported being told today that his dad has kidney disease, stage 3.
Nothing had ever been told the family about this, and it seems that if family doesn’t observe things that don’t seem right, and remark on them, no one tells them anything.
And when they do inquire of staff what’s going on, they get a different answer from everyone they talk to.
Frustrating beyond words that we are the ones who have to figure out the right things to ask to get any information. And who knows if what we’re being told is correct.
I know there are competent caregivers in the medical field, and I don’t mean to disparage medical practitioners as a broad group, but my husband has reported to me so many instances of staff at that place who have no common sense about basic issues that pertain to his dad’s care.
We try to do research, too, on what things may help my father-in-law, but if we’re being kept in the dark about what he’s experiencing until problems are far advanced, what can we do?
6 Arrows, I only asked because of the symptoms you describe. I would have questioned the staff as well about their communication, or lack thereof. Believe me, I don’t take it personally every time the staff of a particular agency are criticized. I’ve seen first hand how they need to be criticized. In hospice care, part of the care is to fully inform the family.
Thank you for that link, Roscuro, and for your good attitude. I am glad you don’t take general criticisms like that personally.
Unfortunately, a relative of mine works at that facility (though not on the same floor where my FIL is), and just yesterday, when she said she would pray for our family (which we’re grateful for), she took the opportunity to crow about the “excellent care” he was receiving, and she hoped we take comfort in that.
She said that by email, and I DID NOT report to my husband what she said, or he would have been madder than ever. She has no clue, and if she ever says something like that in my husband’s presence, he would rip her notions to shreds, and she would be highly offended.
We could use prayers that if she doesn’t keep her mouth closed about how “wonderful” the care giving is at that place, that knocking her workplace off the pedestal she’s placed it on won’t lead to massive tension increases. 😦
I got a real comforting email from my brother tonight. He is a peacemaker, and had some encouraging and helpful words regarding family relationships in our family, and thoughtful words for my husband and me and hubby’s side of the family in my FIL’s decline.
Kathaleena, I meant to mention that I am reading They’re Your Parents, Too right now, which you recommended to me, and I am finding that book very helpful. Thank you for suggesting it.
If I only could have gotten a certain person or persons read it…. Glad it is helpful, 6 arrows. Those things are stressful enough without adding needless extra stress to it.
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Hubby is having eye problems. Nothing serious but it will delay his getting new glasses, which he badly needs.
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I’m bleary-eyed from driving home tonight so when I resd Michelle’s “hot job” I thought it said “hot tub.” Prospects until I looked back. 🙂
We got home after a fun day. I have not heard from son who was with several co-workers returning to TX from AK (8 hours) . With the storm and all, I hope I will hear from him soon. Prayers for safety, please. He had to present another paper and that eent well for him and may be something he can publizh.
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Thanks for praying. I heard from son who had a good and non-eventful trip.
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Please pray for my husband. He is so stressed about the (poor) care his dad is receiving. Incompetence. Lack of communication with family. You name it. Today his sister was told their dad has chronic kidney problems.
Chronic? He’s been in that nursing home since January and we first find out TODAY about a chronic problem he’s had?
And he was supposed to be having his legs wrapped every day to keep them from swelling, but after his second hospitalization this month, when he went back to his same nursing home room as before, but was considered to be under hospice care, none of his regular caregivers notified the hospice people about wrapping his legs, and my hubby’s sister discovered by simple observation that his legs weren’t wrapped, and were all swollen up again. When she called that to someone’s attention, she learned it had been five days they’d been unwrapped.
My husband is furious, and is on the way there now. Please pray for safety on the road, and whatever else you can think of.
And pray for my FIL, too. He was given morphine today for I don’t remember what reason — his lungs are filling with fluid, so probably pain, I’m guessing?
Thank you.
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a sweet, gentle rain shower falling here this morning. The ground is being refreshed.
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God convicted me of my sinful attitude towards others as I handled the book order and had to deal with others mistakes and assumptions. I know I am forgiven, but do need to make some apologies.
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Part of my conviction came when I made a simple mistake that took me two hours of hunting to find. I call that God’s sense of humor.
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We are dealing with similar issues to Six Arrows. I so understand and am sorry for your situation. Prayers for you and your husband.
I ask for prayers for our similar situation.
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Thank you, Kathaleena. And I’m praying for you and yours, also, in your similar circumstances.
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6 Arrows, is it possible they are talking about kidney failure? You mentioned hospice care.
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Roscuro, my husband called home a few minutes ago, just after I had seen your question, and I asked him what he found out. He reported being told today that his dad has kidney disease, stage 3.
Nothing had ever been told the family about this, and it seems that if family doesn’t observe things that don’t seem right, and remark on them, no one tells them anything.
And when they do inquire of staff what’s going on, they get a different answer from everyone they talk to.
Frustrating beyond words that we are the ones who have to figure out the right things to ask to get any information. And who knows if what we’re being told is correct.
I know there are competent caregivers in the medical field, and I don’t mean to disparage medical practitioners as a broad group, but my husband has reported to me so many instances of staff at that place who have no common sense about basic issues that pertain to his dad’s care.
We try to do research, too, on what things may help my father-in-law, but if we’re being kept in the dark about what he’s experiencing until problems are far advanced, what can we do?
I have almost zero patience for that. Sorry.
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6 Arrows, I only asked because of the symptoms you describe. I would have questioned the staff as well about their communication, or lack thereof. Believe me, I don’t take it personally every time the staff of a particular agency are criticized. I’ve seen first hand how they need to be criticized. In hospice care, part of the care is to fully inform the family.
This explains chronic kidney disease: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/kidney-disease/basics/definition/con-20026778
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Thank you for that link, Roscuro, and for your good attitude. I am glad you don’t take general criticisms like that personally.
Unfortunately, a relative of mine works at that facility (though not on the same floor where my FIL is), and just yesterday, when she said she would pray for our family (which we’re grateful for), she took the opportunity to crow about the “excellent care” he was receiving, and she hoped we take comfort in that.
She said that by email, and I DID NOT report to my husband what she said, or he would have been madder than ever. She has no clue, and if she ever says something like that in my husband’s presence, he would rip her notions to shreds, and she would be highly offended.
We could use prayers that if she doesn’t keep her mouth closed about how “wonderful” the care giving is at that place, that knocking her workplace off the pedestal she’s placed it on won’t lead to massive tension increases. 😦
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I got a real comforting email from my brother tonight. He is a peacemaker, and had some encouraging and helpful words regarding family relationships in our family, and thoughtful words for my husband and me and hubby’s side of the family in my FIL’s decline.
Kathaleena, I meant to mention that I am reading They’re Your Parents, Too right now, which you recommended to me, and I am finding that book very helpful. Thank you for suggesting it.
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If I only could have gotten a certain person or persons read it…. Glad it is helpful, 6 arrows. Those things are stressful enough without adding needless extra stress to it.
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