Michelle–I understand your feelings about your husband ‘siding’ with your daughter. I felt (and still feel) the same way. I do not think husbands realize it. It did make me upset to see MY dad do that to my mom. However, it made me able to understand some actions from the past and see my mom’s point of view. I could also use prayer for it all. We also need prayer to help our husbands understand how their actions and words affect us.
Oh! This situation is so commonplace it led to the television commercial where the mother gets her daughter to talk the father into something the mother wants. She knows he will listen more to the daughter than to her. Not sure if there was anything like it for sons.
We learned a long time ago that we needed to talk before dealing with the children or just that would happen. Husband is still a marshmallow and I still get miffed, but not so much.
Prayers for a co-worker (remember the one who was trying to read through the Bible on her own?) who today will be interviewing my pastor for a story I asked if she’d mind doing (she seemed enthusiastic to say yes).
Our church is sponsoring a formal debate next week — Christians vs. atheists — on the existence of God. Guy who’s organizing it from our church was looking to buy an ad in the newspaper to spread the word but also sent me an email saying he thought it was of enough widespread interest that it could also work for a news story in advance.
I agreed, but felt very uncomfortable doing the story myself as it’s my church sponsoring the event (one of those situations where reporters need to be careful to avoid even the appearance of a conflict).
We’re so short-handed right now, though, and we have no one doing anything like religion coverage (a luxury in our better-staffed days). But I thought this one co-worker might be interested so I sent her an email yesterday saying if she didn’t want to do it or was too swamped with other things, not to worry about saying no — but she said yes.
So, long intro — but pray that her interviews (she’ll also be talking to one of the atheist participants) will go well but especially, on a personal level, that God will use her talk with my pastor (who has a gift in apologetics — his seminary-college major and he’ll be one of the debaters) to open the way to her hearing the gospel.
(He’s also incredibly personable, friendly and easy to talk to. I didn’t tell him anything about her, but I suspect he will intuitively figure things out as they talk — she’s also very open — and he’ll no doubt assume she’s not a believer going into this.)
And, hey, while you’re at it, pray for rain in California 😉
Re: Husbands “siding” with the daughter against the mother. Yup, that’s happened to me, too, & I’ve felt betrayed by it. We wives are told to side with our husbands “against” our children no matter what (even if we disagree), but then our husbands seem to get a pass when it comes to siding with us.
When I would disagree with Lee about something, I would hold my tongue, & wait until we were alone to plead my case. If he changed his mind, I’d insist that he be the one to tell whichever daughter was involved, so it didn’t look like I had over-ruled him.
praise: enjoying watching the grade point averages creep up. The guy we thought we would have to tell to go get a job because of all of the F’s has decided it is not so hard after all and has brought his gpa up to 2.9. Two are at 3.2 and two are at 4. That is all good and nice but it also makes me doubt our educational system. I know all of my children are wonderful and that is as it should be, but all of them are above average? Something stinks.
Thank you to those of you who took the time to pray for BG, Mr P, and me yesterday. I told someone earlier that the child of an alcoholic in me wants everyone to be happy and live a rosy, happy life. I have always been the peace maker and the problem solver and when I cannot make people behave I am the one who ends up with the knots in my stomach. I spilled a lot of it at Bible study last night and they prayed with me too.
I told her last night that she was at a cross roads and she needed to decide it it was more important to “have a social life and spend time with her friends” than it was to have a rood over her head, food in the house, and a car to drive, because if her friends were more important she could take her car back to her dad and she could move in with the trash she was associating with. Not my most stellar mothering speech but she just doesn’t get it. If her father and I are beyond frustrated with her what more can I expect from a man who has only known her less than 4 years—and not the best 4 years of her life either.
I also appreciated the advice you gave. I know that some of you gave it from having walked that path before and some gave it because you are wise.
Also to clarify, BG was told the story of the girl almost running off with the trafficker. When she received some suspicious messages and phone calls she told me about it and blocked them.
Speaking of amusing, which I was even if you were not, I got an email from one of the teachers this morning. seems fourteen year old son is not taking his instrument to band. He has been there for weeks. Seems he is causing a bit of a disruption without it. Now I ask you, how can he be keeping a 3.2 going when he does not turn in homework, does not do the work in school, and does not take his instrument to band or practice at home? I repeat, somewhat concerned for our nation.
FIL is out of the hospital and back to his room at the nursing home. Hubby had lots of meetings with various medical staff today, and didn’t get home until after 2:30, and had to rush right off to work, so I don’t know details about his dad yet, but it sounds like his ability to swallow is somewhat improved.
I love this prayer post. Such wisdom and compassion.
Please pray for my daughter who lost one job today, but is starting another one tonight. She is feeling like a failure despite working so hard to finish her paramedics course and to keep working to support herself while she whittles away at the last few things she needs to graduate.
As I am preparing to close up shop for the day, I like to scroll up through the prayer requests and pray for each poster. May each person be blessed through their desire to bring loved ones and friends and issues before the Lord in the fellowship of believers.
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Michelle–I understand your feelings about your husband ‘siding’ with your daughter. I felt (and still feel) the same way. I do not think husbands realize it. It did make me upset to see MY dad do that to my mom. However, it made me able to understand some actions from the past and see my mom’s point of view. I could also use prayer for it all. We also need prayer to help our husbands understand how their actions and words affect us.
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Oh! This situation is so commonplace it led to the television commercial where the mother gets her daughter to talk the father into something the mother wants. She knows he will listen more to the daughter than to her. Not sure if there was anything like it for sons.
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Thanks to everyone for the supportive and encouraging words on yesterday’s prayer thread.
I so appreciate them!
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Kathlena @ 9:29. Chuck, after he was a grown man, once said,’
“If I wanted something, I asked mom. If I wanted to know something, I asked dad.”
Figuring out parents is part of a child’s job.
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We learned a long time ago that we needed to talk before dealing with the children or just that would happen. Husband is still a marshmallow and I still get miffed, but not so much.
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Prayers for a co-worker (remember the one who was trying to read through the Bible on her own?) who today will be interviewing my pastor for a story I asked if she’d mind doing (she seemed enthusiastic to say yes).
Our church is sponsoring a formal debate next week — Christians vs. atheists — on the existence of God. Guy who’s organizing it from our church was looking to buy an ad in the newspaper to spread the word but also sent me an email saying he thought it was of enough widespread interest that it could also work for a news story in advance.
I agreed, but felt very uncomfortable doing the story myself as it’s my church sponsoring the event (one of those situations where reporters need to be careful to avoid even the appearance of a conflict).
We’re so short-handed right now, though, and we have no one doing anything like religion coverage (a luxury in our better-staffed days). But I thought this one co-worker might be interested so I sent her an email yesterday saying if she didn’t want to do it or was too swamped with other things, not to worry about saying no — but she said yes.
So, long intro — but pray that her interviews (she’ll also be talking to one of the atheist participants) will go well but especially, on a personal level, that God will use her talk with my pastor (who has a gift in apologetics — his seminary-college major and he’ll be one of the debaters) to open the way to her hearing the gospel.
(He’s also incredibly personable, friendly and easy to talk to. I didn’t tell him anything about her, but I suspect he will intuitively figure things out as they talk — she’s also very open — and he’ll no doubt assume she’s not a believer going into this.)
And, hey, while you’re at it, pray for rain in California 😉
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Re: Husbands “siding” with the daughter against the mother. Yup, that’s happened to me, too, & I’ve felt betrayed by it. We wives are told to side with our husbands “against” our children no matter what (even if we disagree), but then our husbands seem to get a pass when it comes to siding with us.
When I would disagree with Lee about something, I would hold my tongue, & wait until we were alone to plead my case. If he changed his mind, I’d insist that he be the one to tell whichever daughter was involved, so it didn’t look like I had over-ruled him.
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Michelle – I keep forgetting to tell you that I’d be interested in your notes on your talk, too.
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praise: enjoying watching the grade point averages creep up. The guy we thought we would have to tell to go get a job because of all of the F’s has decided it is not so hard after all and has brought his gpa up to 2.9. Two are at 3.2 and two are at 4. That is all good and nice but it also makes me doubt our educational system. I know all of my children are wonderful and that is as it should be, but all of them are above average? Something stinks.
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Thank you to those of you who took the time to pray for BG, Mr P, and me yesterday. I told someone earlier that the child of an alcoholic in me wants everyone to be happy and live a rosy, happy life. I have always been the peace maker and the problem solver and when I cannot make people behave I am the one who ends up with the knots in my stomach. I spilled a lot of it at Bible study last night and they prayed with me too.
I told her last night that she was at a cross roads and she needed to decide it it was more important to “have a social life and spend time with her friends” than it was to have a rood over her head, food in the house, and a car to drive, because if her friends were more important she could take her car back to her dad and she could move in with the trash she was associating with. Not my most stellar mothering speech but she just doesn’t get it. If her father and I are beyond frustrated with her what more can I expect from a man who has only known her less than 4 years—and not the best 4 years of her life either.
I also appreciated the advice you gave. I know that some of you gave it from having walked that path before and some gave it because you are wise.
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Also to clarify, BG was told the story of the girl almost running off with the trafficker. When she received some suspicious messages and phone calls she told me about it and blocked them.
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Ok, I thought I had missed something rather important in your and her life.
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Speaking of amusing, which I was even if you were not, I got an email from one of the teachers this morning. seems fourteen year old son is not taking his instrument to band. He has been there for weeks. Seems he is causing a bit of a disruption without it. Now I ask you, how can he be keeping a 3.2 going when he does not turn in homework, does not do the work in school, and does not take his instrument to band or practice at home? I repeat, somewhat concerned for our nation.
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Mumsee, 2:03, I thought so too.
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FIL is out of the hospital and back to his room at the nursing home. Hubby had lots of meetings with various medical staff today, and didn’t get home until after 2:30, and had to rush right off to work, so I don’t know details about his dad yet, but it sounds like his ability to swallow is somewhat improved.
Thanks for your prayers.
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Survived Hell, but it was a challenging study! 🙂
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You went to Hell and back? Are we going to be able to see the notes on that as well? I really enjoyed the prayer notes.
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Ditto Mumsee.
I need prayers. I’m about to snap, and I don’t want to lose it in front of the kids.
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praying for you.
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I’m OK! I’m OK! I just finished giving a piano lesson, and that was a good step away from the stress. Everything’s fine now. Whew 🙂
I am thankful for those prayers that went up the last hour and whatever. Thank you much!
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I love this prayer post. Such wisdom and compassion.
Please pray for my daughter who lost one job today, but is starting another one tonight. She is feeling like a failure despite working so hard to finish her paramedics course and to keep working to support herself while she whittles away at the last few things she needs to graduate.
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Praying with you for daughter. Eighteen year old daughter says she is tired of being an adult and wants to go back to being a child.
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Praying for all needs mentioned here today.
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As I am preparing to close up shop for the day, I like to scroll up through the prayer requests and pray for each poster. May each person be blessed through their desire to bring loved ones and friends and issues before the Lord in the fellowship of believers.
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Amen. A most lovely post, Mumsee.
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