Donna I am sorry about your friend. I knew I sounded harsh but didn’t know another way to phrase it.
Losing someone you love is never easy. I still am not over losing my dad and it’almost 7 years. At least now you know and can act accordingly. Many elderly deny themselves a pet because what happened s if they die? Norma now knows a ti.e frame and can make the right decisions. I Will write more later when I am at a computer.
Again, I am sorry for the loss you are facing.
Donna, almost everyone I have lost was within a short time frame unless they were older and it wasn’t unexpected.
My Aunt Gay died of cancer. When the doctor told her there wasn’t going to be a cure she asked him how long she would have with chemo and without. My aunt was a widow with an only child. She took the chemo because it gave her several extra months to prepare her 24 year old daughter to live the rest of her life without a parent. She planned her own funeral.
It was one of the most beautiful things I have ever experienced.
She was buried in the dress she wore to her daughter’s wedding and had the same type of corsage. Her casket spray was white calla lillies. The minister who had baptized her as a child conducted her funeral. She had been paralyzed from the waist down for 22 years. One of my uncles sang If You Could See Me Now. I was sitting between my father and another uncle when they both started shaking and I looked over and saw a tear roll down my father’s cheek (He would ice down a watermelon and go feed it to her because it was hot summertime and it was one of the only things she would eat).
To have that faith – that childlike faith that she had carried with her from childhood on and to bless so many people with her funeral in her late 40’s. It was a gift to all of us.
THAT is what I wanted to convey in my post yesterday. I am truly sorry I came across so hard/cold hearted.
No I will leave you with that song.
Thanks Kim. Norma’s faith is rock solid — and she’s been here before. More than 10 years ago a doctor told her to “get her affairs in order” due to her ongoing heart condition (she had a valve replacement before I met her).
Her doctor yesterday even made the comment that she took the news much better than most (though the “news” wasn’t a surprise, not really).
It’s just hard, but we’ll all adjust to the “new normal.” I went through it with my dad as a teen, so I suppose that’s where my hatred (and even fear) of cancer began for me and I’ve never really been able to shake it. I hate that Norma has to go through this, but so far there’s no pain and she’s getting set up with Hospice who will visit once a month at first, more often as she needs it.
And the weird thing is — because of her weak heart — I think the assumption was she’d eventually die due to that. The cancer diagnosis was a little out of the blue. Or so it seemed.
This is the only way I know I can share this great news. My baby grandson Jace was born on Monday. After many scares thru out Jillians pregnancy. This last one was the hurdle we needed to get thru.
My Daddy is a Hemophiliac ( a bleeder) a rare form ( factor 8). My self and my daughters became carriers. Jace our new grandson was the first boy from being passed by a carrier. To have a 50/50 chance on being a bleeder. Test results came back. Our precious little guy DOES NOT HAVE HEMOPHILIA!!!! Thank you God and everyone who was praying. This is the best news. Love my kids and g babes!!!! TEARS OF JOY!!!
I’m so happy. Doc also said. My hero my daddy. Is the oldest living person to have lived this long with this ” factor 8″.. My hero my daddy is 85. And he is the greatest!!!
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Donna I am sorry about your friend. I knew I sounded harsh but didn’t know another way to phrase it.
Losing someone you love is never easy. I still am not over losing my dad and it’almost 7 years. At least now you know and can act accordingly. Many elderly deny themselves a pet because what happened s if they die? Norma now knows a ti.e frame and can make the right decisions. I Will write more later when I am at a computer.
Again, I am sorry for the loss you are facing.
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Donna, almost everyone I have lost was within a short time frame unless they were older and it wasn’t unexpected.
My Aunt Gay died of cancer. When the doctor told her there wasn’t going to be a cure she asked him how long she would have with chemo and without. My aunt was a widow with an only child. She took the chemo because it gave her several extra months to prepare her 24 year old daughter to live the rest of her life without a parent. She planned her own funeral.
It was one of the most beautiful things I have ever experienced.
She was buried in the dress she wore to her daughter’s wedding and had the same type of corsage. Her casket spray was white calla lillies. The minister who had baptized her as a child conducted her funeral. She had been paralyzed from the waist down for 22 years. One of my uncles sang If You Could See Me Now. I was sitting between my father and another uncle when they both started shaking and I looked over and saw a tear roll down my father’s cheek (He would ice down a watermelon and go feed it to her because it was hot summertime and it was one of the only things she would eat).
To have that faith – that childlike faith that she had carried with her from childhood on and to bless so many people with her funeral in her late 40’s. It was a gift to all of us.
THAT is what I wanted to convey in my post yesterday. I am truly sorry I came across so hard/cold hearted.
No I will leave you with that song.
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Thanks Kim. Norma’s faith is rock solid — and she’s been here before. More than 10 years ago a doctor told her to “get her affairs in order” due to her ongoing heart condition (she had a valve replacement before I met her).
Her doctor yesterday even made the comment that she took the news much better than most (though the “news” wasn’t a surprise, not really).
It’s just hard, but we’ll all adjust to the “new normal.” I went through it with my dad as a teen, so I suppose that’s where my hatred (and even fear) of cancer began for me and I’ve never really been able to shake it. I hate that Norma has to go through this, but so far there’s no pain and she’s getting set up with Hospice who will visit once a month at first, more often as she needs it.
The Lord will provide.
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And the weird thing is — because of her weak heart — I think the assumption was she’d eventually die due to that. The cancer diagnosis was a little out of the blue. Or so it seemed.
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NO HEMOPHILIA!
I’m undone and in tears of joy!
My cousin just posted this–
This is the only way I know I can share this great news. My baby grandson Jace was born on Monday. After many scares thru out Jillians pregnancy. This last one was the hurdle we needed to get thru.
My Daddy is a Hemophiliac ( a bleeder) a rare form ( factor 8). My self and my daughters became carriers. Jace our new grandson was the first boy from being passed by a carrier. To have a 50/50 chance on being a bleeder. Test results came back. Our precious little guy DOES NOT HAVE HEMOPHILIA!!!! Thank you God and everyone who was praying. This is the best news. Love my kids and g babes!!!! TEARS OF JOY!!!
I’m so happy. Doc also said. My hero my daddy. Is the oldest living person to have lived this long with this ” factor 8″.. My hero my daddy is 85. And he is the greatest!!!
Uncle Frank truly is wonderful.
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