We have a meeting with the Kid’s teacher Thursday. He keeps getting in trouble for disrespect. and anger. He claims he is being picked on by a group of popular students who it and kick him then tattle or yell when he responds. I need to know the truth. I need to know if he is being bullied or if he is the bully. This requires two totally different approaches.
So I fly out today. I am going Southwest from Sacramento to LA. I left myself two choices so not worried about that. Oh, I am flying standby for three flights then SIL up to Ukarumpa. My concern is that I am remembering the problem with LAX. You check in in one terminal and the flight leaves from a different terminal. On standby, you can’t check in until the very end when they determine if there is room for you. There is absolutely nowhere to wait, just a narrow hallway. I am not even sure where to get anything to eat and I will be ther 5 o 6 hours early. Also please pray for my Brisbane transfer. If they will not check my bag all the way through, and I am not really expecting that with a standby ticket, then I will have to get my bag and go through customs in Brisbane and then go back upstairs and wait to check in for my next flight. I have some food items, so can’t go through express customs. God is good and He is in control, no matter what happens, but after a 14 hour flight, mercy would be appreciated and grace.
You are our unchanging God Who does not vary with moods, winds or turmoil. When life feels shaky You are The One on Whom we can grip and not let go. Thank You for letting us know that quality in You that never fails us.
I ask, Lord, for Your felt help as Jo travels. Keep her filled with a spirit of adventure and curiosity that will overshadow any unpleasantness. Give her pleasant surprises along her way. You know the needs before they are evident in the human realm. Please be her assistant rushing to help her at any trouble points. Thank You that Jesus is the best traveling companion she could have and that He is with her.
Lord, I ask for Your revelation to Kbells regarding this ongoing school problem. Is it her son, or is it the other children, or is it something that the teacher is handling inappropriately? Lord, You see all and know all. Whatever the situation is, I ask that Your righteous hand would intervene and set things straight. Help Kbells to rest in her faith that You will show her anything she and her husband need to do. Please make it known soon as this has been an ongoing battle. May Jesus overcome the enemy once again. May light shine forth into the darkness.
I pray in the powerful name of Jesus, my Lord and Savior. Amen
1.) My friend Jenn, the sweet lady with severe health problems, has had a serious infection in the area of her bladder tube. She’s had the infection for two months, is on the third anti-biotic, & the infection is still there, making her very ill.
2.) My friend Ruth has a husband who can be very difficult (he has some mental problems, too, & sometimes goes off his meds). He has decided that he doesn’t want Ruth & the children to go to our church anymore (which he wasn’t attending anyway), even though they’d been attending for many years, & they all love the church. He has allowed them, at least for now, to try to find another church.
Ruth is concerned that he won’t approve of a conservative/orthodox church, or that he’ll eventually refuse to let them go to church at all. She is obeying him from a spirit of faith that God wants wives to submit to their husbands. Please pray God will soften her husband’s heart, & that the whole family will come to worship at our church (or at the very least, a good church).
Kbells, are your work hours such that you could go to your son’s school during school hours several times over a period of, say, a few weeks, to observe for yourself what is happening? (I’d recommend several observations rather than just one, as your presence in the classroom may initially “put people on their best behavior” for a bit. Some of the usual habits might come out later, after your being there becomes less novel — they’ll let their guard down again, eventually.)
I remember when I was teaching school, there was a mother who came to school with her daughter and sat in every class she went to over the course of I don’t remember how long (some weeks, or maybe longer — it wasn’t a one-time deal by any means). If I remember right, this girl got picked on more than other children, and maybe the mother wanted to find out what was going on at school, and how it was being handled. I do know that later the girl got transferred out of the class she was in, and put in the other classroom of the same grade level.
That may not be an option for your son (doesn’t he go to a Christian school? — usually those classes are smaller, and there may not be another class of similar-age children), but you might be able to get a clearer understanding of who is instigating the trouble and be able to work toward a solution faster with school officials.
6 arrows, I suggested that to Hubby but he thinks the teacher would resent it and see it as interfering in her domain. He thinks we have to tread very lightly with the teacher and not look like we are suggesting she is doing anything wrong. Also, you are right, there is only one class per grade.
KBells I would try it anyway. It is all in how you frame it. You are there to HELP the teacher not spy on her. You are a concerned parent trying to find out what YOUR child is doing WRONG. You are on the teacher’s side. You can find a way to convince her it is her idea.
Our teachers all appreciated it when I would go in to observe, trying to find out if things were the way I was hoping or not. They appreciated a parent willing to check on the child to find out if the child was the problem, and willing to do something about it.
Good morning, nice to finally roll out of bed this fine day.
Good morning, Mumsee! You’re making me laugh on the prayer thread! 😀
Kbells, I understand how your husband might be reluctant to set up an observation — I’m guessing my husband would feel the same way if we were in a similar situation. He doesn’t like to make waves, and just hopes things work themselves out on their own without stepping into a situation in which he’s not directly involved to begin with. Me, I like to take the direct route. Sometimes that turns out well, other times not. 😉
I think Kim’s ideas on how to frame the conversation are good. Perhaps you can frame it that way first for your husband. Your intent is to help the teacher understand this really isn’t about her, it’s about your son. Parenting is a 24-hour-a-day job, not just the hours he is with you physically. You’ve delegated some responsibility to the school, but you want to assist as they carry out their important calling and you carry out yours as a loving parent.
I volunteered quite often in my children’s classrooms. One of those times, I was able to observe some things that told me the things the teacher told me were not correct. I had some input from other parents as well. After a meeting with the teacher, while praying on the way home, I really knew I needed to support my child and not the teacher. The harm was not only to my child, but another. It is so hard to see. It is very easy to blame your child, since you do see them at their worst. Sometimes, though, it IS the way they say. Praying for discernment for you.
Please pray for Paul, the son of woman at church, who has possibility for long awaited organ transplant. Asking that the waiting be over and for successful transplant. Thank you.
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Our pastor read Ps. 145 yesterday. The sermon was “Regain Yur Focus”.
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We have a meeting with the Kid’s teacher Thursday. He keeps getting in trouble for disrespect. and anger. He claims he is being picked on by a group of popular students who it and kick him then tattle or yell when he responds. I need to know the truth. I need to know if he is being bullied or if he is the bully. This requires two totally different approaches.
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Also I need a job that will not require me to work nights or weekends. Not a lot of those around that I’m qualified for.
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So I fly out today. I am going Southwest from Sacramento to LA. I left myself two choices so not worried about that. Oh, I am flying standby for three flights then SIL up to Ukarumpa. My concern is that I am remembering the problem with LAX. You check in in one terminal and the flight leaves from a different terminal. On standby, you can’t check in until the very end when they determine if there is room for you. There is absolutely nowhere to wait, just a narrow hallway. I am not even sure where to get anything to eat and I will be ther 5 o 6 hours early. Also please pray for my Brisbane transfer. If they will not check my bag all the way through, and I am not really expecting that with a standby ticket, then I will have to get my bag and go through customs in Brisbane and then go back upstairs and wait to check in for my next flight. I have some food items, so can’t go through express customs. God is good and He is in control, no matter what happens, but after a 14 hour flight, mercy would be appreciated and grace.
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Great breakfast restaurant in International terminal, 5?
Problem with Southwest is they don’t transfer your luggage, you have to haul it yourself to the next terminal. 😦
Travel mercies, for sure!
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Heavenly Father,
You are our unchanging God Who does not vary with moods, winds or turmoil. When life feels shaky You are The One on Whom we can grip and not let go. Thank You for letting us know that quality in You that never fails us.
I ask, Lord, for Your felt help as Jo travels. Keep her filled with a spirit of adventure and curiosity that will overshadow any unpleasantness. Give her pleasant surprises along her way. You know the needs before they are evident in the human realm. Please be her assistant rushing to help her at any trouble points. Thank You that Jesus is the best traveling companion she could have and that He is with her.
Lord, I ask for Your revelation to Kbells regarding this ongoing school problem. Is it her son, or is it the other children, or is it something that the teacher is handling inappropriately? Lord, You see all and know all. Whatever the situation is, I ask that Your righteous hand would intervene and set things straight. Help Kbells to rest in her faith that You will show her anything she and her husband need to do. Please make it known soon as this has been an ongoing battle. May Jesus overcome the enemy once again. May light shine forth into the darkness.
I pray in the powerful name of Jesus, my Lord and Savior. Amen
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Two prayer requests today…
1.) My friend Jenn, the sweet lady with severe health problems, has had a serious infection in the area of her bladder tube. She’s had the infection for two months, is on the third anti-biotic, & the infection is still there, making her very ill.
2.) My friend Ruth has a husband who can be very difficult (he has some mental problems, too, & sometimes goes off his meds). He has decided that he doesn’t want Ruth & the children to go to our church anymore (which he wasn’t attending anyway), even though they’d been attending for many years, & they all love the church. He has allowed them, at least for now, to try to find another church.
Ruth is concerned that he won’t approve of a conservative/orthodox church, or that he’ll eventually refuse to let them go to church at all. She is obeying him from a spirit of faith that God wants wives to submit to their husbands. Please pray God will soften her husband’s heart, & that the whole family will come to worship at our church (or at the very least, a good church).
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Kbells, are your work hours such that you could go to your son’s school during school hours several times over a period of, say, a few weeks, to observe for yourself what is happening? (I’d recommend several observations rather than just one, as your presence in the classroom may initially “put people on their best behavior” for a bit. Some of the usual habits might come out later, after your being there becomes less novel — they’ll let their guard down again, eventually.)
I remember when I was teaching school, there was a mother who came to school with her daughter and sat in every class she went to over the course of I don’t remember how long (some weeks, or maybe longer — it wasn’t a one-time deal by any means). If I remember right, this girl got picked on more than other children, and maybe the mother wanted to find out what was going on at school, and how it was being handled. I do know that later the girl got transferred out of the class she was in, and put in the other classroom of the same grade level.
That may not be an option for your son (doesn’t he go to a Christian school? — usually those classes are smaller, and there may not be another class of similar-age children), but you might be able to get a clearer understanding of who is instigating the trouble and be able to work toward a solution faster with school officials.
Praying for you and your son.
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6 arrows, I suggested that to Hubby but he thinks the teacher would resent it and see it as interfering in her domain. He thinks we have to tread very lightly with the teacher and not look like we are suggesting she is doing anything wrong. Also, you are right, there is only one class per grade.
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KBells I would try it anyway. It is all in how you frame it. You are there to HELP the teacher not spy on her. You are a concerned parent trying to find out what YOUR child is doing WRONG. You are on the teacher’s side. You can find a way to convince her it is her idea.
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Our teachers all appreciated it when I would go in to observe, trying to find out if things were the way I was hoping or not. They appreciated a parent willing to check on the child to find out if the child was the problem, and willing to do something about it.
Good morning, nice to finally roll out of bed this fine day.
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What Kim & Mumsee said.
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Good morning, Mumsee! You’re making me laugh on the prayer thread! 😀
Kbells, I understand how your husband might be reluctant to set up an observation — I’m guessing my husband would feel the same way if we were in a similar situation. He doesn’t like to make waves, and just hopes things work themselves out on their own without stepping into a situation in which he’s not directly involved to begin with. Me, I like to take the direct route. Sometimes that turns out well, other times not. 😉
I think Kim’s ideas on how to frame the conversation are good. Perhaps you can frame it that way first for your husband. Your intent is to help the teacher understand this really isn’t about her, it’s about your son. Parenting is a 24-hour-a-day job, not just the hours he is with you physically. You’ve delegated some responsibility to the school, but you want to assist as they carry out their important calling and you carry out yours as a loving parent.
Those are my two cents. 😉
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I volunteered quite often in my children’s classrooms. One of those times, I was able to observe some things that told me the things the teacher told me were not correct. I had some input from other parents as well. After a meeting with the teacher, while praying on the way home, I really knew I needed to support my child and not the teacher. The harm was not only to my child, but another. It is so hard to see. It is very easy to blame your child, since you do see them at their worst. Sometimes, though, it IS the way they say. Praying for discernment for you.
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Please pray for Paul, the son of woman at church, who has possibility for long awaited organ transplant. Asking that the waiting be over and for successful transplant. Thank you.
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