¹We have heard with our ears, O God, our fathers have told us, what work thou didst in their days, in the times of old.
2 How thou didst drive out the heathen with thy hand, and plantedst them; how thou didst afflict the people, and cast them out.
3 For they got not the land in possession by their own sword, neither did their own arm save them: but thy right hand, and thine arm, and the light of thy countenance, because thou hadst a favour unto them.
4 Thou art my King, O God: command deliverances for Jacob.
5 Through thee will we push down our enemies: through thy name will we tread them under that rise up against us.
6 For I will not trust in my bow, neither shall my sword save me.
7 But thou hast saved us from our enemies, and hast put them to shame that hated us.
8 In God we boast all the day long, and praise thy name for ever. Selah.
Please continue to pray for my MIL. My BIL is staying with her, and he reports she’s eating very little–just doesn’t have an appetite.
Also, my mom is supposedly still not drinking alcohol . Please pray she’d stay off the sauce….and continue to regain her strength .
And, please pray for Lindsey’s salvation. Thank you.
I will surround myself today with people who care about me and treat me well. I will remind myself that friends are the people who are there for me during my pain as well as my joy. Those whom I call my friends are the ones who love me.
I don’t have to bribe others to be my friends. There is no need for me to feel that I have to put up with verbal abuse or pay for my friendships. If I am putting too much of my energy into people who put me down, it’s time to ask myself who loves me and who does not.
Today I will be selective about those whom I call my friends. I will extend my hand in friendship to those who validate me and validate themselves.
Kim: I know this one sounds strange and selfish but people who grew up in chaos and malfunction (notice I avoided the word disfunction–it’s overused) lack the filter to put a stop to the way someone is treating them if it isn’t kind. They are used to being told “I wish you were never born” “You ruined my life” and all the other negative tapes they play in their heads.
We need to rewire our brains with positive messages and expect better than we got. It is people like my Mama Ruth and life Mumsee who help rewrite those messages.
I will add. . .Please pray for salvation for my girls & my grandson, & also for his dad & other grandparents.
Kim – Our daughters have heard the stories (& lived through them) of how God has moved in seemingly-miraculous ways in our lives, & yet they seem to have chosen to think that those things were mere coincidences or whatnot.
Let’s please pray also for YF & her sister (& the other young lady who lives with the McK family).
Wow, Kim, that is so like nineteen year old daughter. She continually is trying to buy friends and the ones she buys do not have her interests at heart. I will forward that to her. Thanks.
My mother almost sent my father into bankruptcy trying to buy people’s love. If I spend my money on you…it is because I love and trust you. I do NOT pay for friends.
Meanwhile, everybody here is down with the “Cruise cold” and we did not even get the cruise. Actually grandpa had it before going on the cruise so now everybody he met on the cruise probably has it also. Husband is going in to see if he has pneumonia. prayers. Thanks.
Please pray for a lady who came forward in church for prayer yesterday. She sat beside my husband and couldn’t even tell him what she needed prayer for – she just started sobbing, almost wailing. My heart broke for her pain and I was going to go pray with her as well when another lady who knew her approached and hugged her and prayed with her along with husband. I don’t know why she was there, but I’m sure she could use extended prayer from this group. Thank you.
Nightingale is driving down to Yale to meet up with one of the guys she has been dating (he works at Yale, in IT), & then he is driving the two of them to Manhattan. Nightingale has never seen the Statue of Liberty (neither have I 😦 ), & he was surprised to hear that, so he suggested this extended date.
Please pray for safe travels, & safety (& wisdom) in general. Also, protection of her heart (metaphorically speaking).
She is paying Chickadee extra to babysit with minimal participation from me. Please pray Chickadee will be able to muster up more patience than normal, & even enjoy her hours with her nephew.
I am at the library right now, and could use prayers for patience. Third Arrow, my daughter with the driver’s permit but no license is back to driving again. (Long story why she didn’t drive for a long time.) So, anyway, good that she’s back at it willingly. Her first time behind the wheel after restarting — last week — went very well. I figured, well she must have just needed a lot more observation time after her first (failed) driver’s test, because she didn’t lose the skills she’d gained before the test, and she improved in other areas that were substandard when she tested.
Second time behind the wheel, things didn’t go well — a couple very unsafe moves that could have resulted in accidents. Thank God they didn’t. All her younger siblings were in the back seat of the car at the time, so I thought maybe she was just a little nervous with a car full of people. (Though they were all behaving well, and none was being a distraction.)
Now today — third time — only her and me. She drove to her ministry volunteerism that she does on Mondays, but, again, numerous problems, including not being aware she was driving over a white line in a construction area, her right wheels on higher ground than the left ones, and other such things. It was a half-hour drive, and it was a struggle for me to be patient with her, making all the mistakes she did.
Please pray that I’ll stay patient when I go to pick her up and have her drive. I am glad she wants to try again after failure, but any impatience on my part could lead to her wanting to give up again, and that would not be good.
Since I mentioned Nightingale’s date. . . please pray for Hubby to stop coming across as an over-protective father who treats his grown daughter like a teenager. He doesn’t want to push her away, but he can’t seem to help himself, making remarks or asking too many questions. Asking God to help him trust in her to be a responsible adult (which she is), & most of all to trust God to watch over her.
Kizzie, I, like your hubby, have no patience for boyfriends. When daughter mentioned her new one wanted to meet us, I asked if she was sure she wanted to do that. I am quite direct, and ask just what their intentions are in dating my daughter. I am not interested in anyone getting hurt, or having unrealistic expectations.
Kizzie, may I ask for clarification on what you mean by this: “… please pray for Hubby to stop coming across as an over-protective father…”?
Is he coming across that way to you or to Nightingale? In other words, is daughter getting that impression, or are you? (Or maybe both of you?)
If Nightingale is feeling like he’s too overprotective, then I think that’s the perfect opportunity for her to speak to her father, adult to adult, about how his questions and comments make her feel. I’d encourage her in that direction (to speak to him on her own), then let the two of them work out how they will relate to each other, father to adult daughter.
Parents and adult children who are communicating with one another are continually refining that process. The dynamics change in adulthood, as I know you clearly understand. Give your husband grace as he relates to Nightingale in his own way. As a believer, he is led by the Spirit, but God may be working on other things in his life right now, and what you might see as a problem in the way he deals with Nightingale may be something that he will see in a different light sometime in the future.
Or maybe he’ll never see it your way. Men and women tend to approach relationships differently, and that’s not a bad thing. My husband deals differently with my daughter who has a boyfriend than do I. She knows her father and I both love her, but we express it in different ways.
Perhaps Nightingale feels treasured (whether she admits it or not) just by virtue of the fact that he *is* asking questions and giving her a window into his thoughts, rather than saying nothing to her. It shows he cares about her welfare, and she may recognize that and feel a healthy sense of protection, rather than isolation, which some adult children can feel quite intensely if one or both parents are non-communicative.
Please know I am praying, Kizzie, for healthy relationships, and most of all, for salvation. May the Lord grant you His peace.
Insomnia again tonight. I have an idea it was the taco seasoning I consumed two nights in a row. I’ll bet there’s some MSG or something like it hidden in there — shouldn’t have had leftovers tonight.
And I’m lying awake, hoping my post just above doesn’t sound like I don’t think the Holy Spirit is working in Kizzie. Sigh. Not the impression I meant to give if I did. I “heard” distress and responded with what I felt could be alternative ways of addressing the situation and relieving stress.
My apologies if my approach was offensive or unhelpful. I could have just said the last paragraph only, and it would have been just as true.
A addition to what 6 Arrows wrote above: with the dating history, a father would be right to be concerned, and a daughter just may feel loved by it, as long as it is not too overbearing. Our adult daughter was very happy to have our input and presence as she dated; she asked for it, and asked for it to be strengthened (if we gave them too much time alone, for example, she let us know that they needed our presence to be greater–they asked us not to close the door into the library when they were in our living room, because that gave them a sense that they had too much privacy, and they knew that wasn’t a good thing). So it depends on the father and the child.
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Please continue to pray for my MIL. My BIL is staying with her, and he reports she’s eating very little–just doesn’t have an appetite.
Also, my mom is supposedly still not drinking alcohol . Please pray she’d stay off the sauce….and continue to regain her strength .
And, please pray for Lindsey’s salvation. Thank you.
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Praying, Ann.
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I would also like to ask you to pray for Chloe’s salvation. She knows that both her parents think she was a direct answer to a specific prayer.
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November 14
FRIENDSHIPS
I SEEK ENDURING FRIENDSHIPS
I will surround myself today with people who care about me and treat me well. I will remind myself that friends are the people who are there for me during my pain as well as my joy. Those whom I call my friends are the ones who love me.
I don’t have to bribe others to be my friends. There is no need for me to feel that I have to put up with verbal abuse or pay for my friendships. If I am putting too much of my energy into people who put me down, it’s time to ask myself who loves me and who does not.
Today I will be selective about those whom I call my friends. I will extend my hand in friendship to those who validate me and validate themselves.
Kim: I know this one sounds strange and selfish but people who grew up in chaos and malfunction (notice I avoided the word disfunction–it’s overused) lack the filter to put a stop to the way someone is treating them if it isn’t kind. They are used to being told “I wish you were never born” “You ruined my life” and all the other negative tapes they play in their heads.
We need to rewire our brains with positive messages and expect better than we got. It is people like my Mama Ruth and life Mumsee who help rewrite those messages.
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I will add. . .Please pray for salvation for my girls & my grandson, & also for his dad & other grandparents.
Kim – Our daughters have heard the stories (& lived through them) of how God has moved in seemingly-miraculous ways in our lives, & yet they seem to have chosen to think that those things were mere coincidences or whatnot.
Let’s please pray also for YF & her sister (& the other young lady who lives with the McK family).
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Wow, Kim, that is so like nineteen year old daughter. She continually is trying to buy friends and the ones she buys do not have her interests at heart. I will forward that to her. Thanks.
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My mother almost sent my father into bankruptcy trying to buy people’s love. If I spend my money on you…it is because I love and trust you. I do NOT pay for friends.
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That is what I tell her.
Meanwhile, everybody here is down with the “Cruise cold” and we did not even get the cruise. Actually grandpa had it before going on the cruise so now everybody he met on the cruise probably has it also. Husband is going in to see if he has pneumonia. prayers. Thanks.
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Please pray for a lady who came forward in church for prayer yesterday. She sat beside my husband and couldn’t even tell him what she needed prayer for – she just started sobbing, almost wailing. My heart broke for her pain and I was going to go pray with her as well when another lady who knew her approached and hugged her and prayed with her along with husband. I don’t know why she was there, but I’m sure she could use extended prayer from this group. Thank you.
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Praying with you, Kare.
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Nightingale is driving down to Yale to meet up with one of the guys she has been dating (he works at Yale, in IT), & then he is driving the two of them to Manhattan. Nightingale has never seen the Statue of Liberty (neither have I 😦 ), & he was surprised to hear that, so he suggested this extended date.
Please pray for safe travels, & safety (& wisdom) in general. Also, protection of her heart (metaphorically speaking).
She is paying Chickadee extra to babysit with minimal participation from me. Please pray Chickadee will be able to muster up more patience than normal, & even enjoy her hours with her nephew.
Thank you.
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I could use some prayers this afternoon. I am having a hard time being an optimist right now.
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Amen and amen to all of these.
I am at the library right now, and could use prayers for patience. Third Arrow, my daughter with the driver’s permit but no license is back to driving again. (Long story why she didn’t drive for a long time.) So, anyway, good that she’s back at it willingly. Her first time behind the wheel after restarting — last week — went very well. I figured, well she must have just needed a lot more observation time after her first (failed) driver’s test, because she didn’t lose the skills she’d gained before the test, and she improved in other areas that were substandard when she tested.
Second time behind the wheel, things didn’t go well — a couple very unsafe moves that could have resulted in accidents. Thank God they didn’t. All her younger siblings were in the back seat of the car at the time, so I thought maybe she was just a little nervous with a car full of people. (Though they were all behaving well, and none was being a distraction.)
Now today — third time — only her and me. She drove to her ministry volunteerism that she does on Mondays, but, again, numerous problems, including not being aware she was driving over a white line in a construction area, her right wheels on higher ground than the left ones, and other such things. It was a half-hour drive, and it was a struggle for me to be patient with her, making all the mistakes she did.
Please pray that I’ll stay patient when I go to pick her up and have her drive. I am glad she wants to try again after failure, but any impatience on my part could lead to her wanting to give up again, and that would not be good.
Thank you, and sorry for the long post.
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Since I mentioned Nightingale’s date. . . please pray for Hubby to stop coming across as an over-protective father who treats his grown daughter like a teenager. He doesn’t want to push her away, but he can’t seem to help himself, making remarks or asking too many questions. Asking God to help him trust in her to be a responsible adult (which she is), & most of all to trust God to watch over her.
Thank you.
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Trip home went well. Thanks for praying.
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Kizzie, I, like your hubby, have no patience for boyfriends. When daughter mentioned her new one wanted to meet us, I asked if she was sure she wanted to do that. I am quite direct, and ask just what their intentions are in dating my daughter. I am not interested in anyone getting hurt, or having unrealistic expectations.
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RKessler – The remarks & questions I referred to are to Nightingale, before she goes out.
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Kizzie, may I ask for clarification on what you mean by this: “… please pray for Hubby to stop coming across as an over-protective father…”?
Is he coming across that way to you or to Nightingale? In other words, is daughter getting that impression, or are you? (Or maybe both of you?)
If Nightingale is feeling like he’s too overprotective, then I think that’s the perfect opportunity for her to speak to her father, adult to adult, about how his questions and comments make her feel. I’d encourage her in that direction (to speak to him on her own), then let the two of them work out how they will relate to each other, father to adult daughter.
Parents and adult children who are communicating with one another are continually refining that process. The dynamics change in adulthood, as I know you clearly understand. Give your husband grace as he relates to Nightingale in his own way. As a believer, he is led by the Spirit, but God may be working on other things in his life right now, and what you might see as a problem in the way he deals with Nightingale may be something that he will see in a different light sometime in the future.
Or maybe he’ll never see it your way. Men and women tend to approach relationships differently, and that’s not a bad thing. My husband deals differently with my daughter who has a boyfriend than do I. She knows her father and I both love her, but we express it in different ways.
Perhaps Nightingale feels treasured (whether she admits it or not) just by virtue of the fact that he *is* asking questions and giving her a window into his thoughts, rather than saying nothing to her. It shows he cares about her welfare, and she may recognize that and feel a healthy sense of protection, rather than isolation, which some adult children can feel quite intensely if one or both parents are non-communicative.
Please know I am praying, Kizzie, for healthy relationships, and most of all, for salvation. May the Lord grant you His peace.
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Insomnia again tonight. I have an idea it was the taco seasoning I consumed two nights in a row. I’ll bet there’s some MSG or something like it hidden in there — shouldn’t have had leftovers tonight.
And I’m lying awake, hoping my post just above doesn’t sound like I don’t think the Holy Spirit is working in Kizzie. Sigh. Not the impression I meant to give if I did. I “heard” distress and responded with what I felt could be alternative ways of addressing the situation and relieving stress.
My apologies if my approach was offensive or unhelpful. I could have just said the last paragraph only, and it would have been just as true.
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A addition to what 6 Arrows wrote above: with the dating history, a father would be right to be concerned, and a daughter just may feel loved by it, as long as it is not too overbearing. Our adult daughter was very happy to have our input and presence as she dated; she asked for it, and asked for it to be strengthened (if we gave them too much time alone, for example, she let us know that they needed our presence to be greater–they asked us not to close the door into the library when they were in our living room, because that gave them a sense that they had too much privacy, and they knew that wasn’t a good thing). So it depends on the father and the child.
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