Talked to Nana this morning and told her the plans I have set in place. G, BG, and I will have a family meeting Saturday. I am going for a tough love/scared straight approach. As often happens there is a boy involved and the more I am finding out the less I am liking him.—not that I have met him. I am on the trail of his last name and where he lives.
And the results of some mistakes are blessings in disguise, although with harsh or sad consequences involved.
You may have guessed I’m referring to the conception & birth of my little grandson. Sometimes I have started to say that I wish Emily had never gotten involved with R, but then I realize that that would wish my little guy away.
I do wish his birth had been under better circumstances, & it is sad that he will pay (& already is paying to an extent) the price for his parents’ mistakes. But I believe God allowed him to be conceived for a purpose. May God have His way in Forrest & his parents, & may God have His way in BG & her parents.
Amen, Karen. Good for you, Kim. Keep on fighting for what is best for BG as long as you can. No matter how things end up, you will know you did your best. Lots of prayers being said for you and BG. And Karen’s loved ones, too.
Our friend Kim and her parents will be going to her surgery consultation today. Surgery will be next week. We know she is in God’s hands and pray for much glory to Him. We pray for healing and peace, too. Jesus welcomed all prayers for healing. He is the perfect representation of the Father. Of course, we pray for the Father’s best for Kim and all the others.
Karen, good perspective. God’s hand is always there, unseen by us at the time but often understood (and appreciated as being in his perfect will, bringing glory to him and good to his people) with the passing of a few years.
Still, I would not want to be that boy that Kim is on the hunt for. 😉
Doing some better today. I’m finding that talking seems to make things worse. So I’ll have to type instead 🙂
Karen, well said. I have been reflecting recently on all the children in Genesis who shouldn’t have been born, yet, whether in that story or later on, God shows how he used that birth for good, e.g. Lot’s son from his daughter, Moab – nothing good seemed to come of that until the Moabitess Ruth shows up to become the great grandmother of David; or Pharez, son of Judah from his daughter-in-law, who also was an ancestor of Christ.
We just do not know, so we must hold it all lightly. Sometimes hitting bottom is what some of us need to grow up–or at least go in hunt of our Savior. Prayers, of course.
Michelle- I agree, but as moms we don’t want our chicks – even grown up ones – to have to hit bottom, do we? I pray “Whatever it takes” for my daughters & grandson to be saved, but I know that “whatever it takes” could be painful for all of us. Let’s hope it’s not, but be prepared for if it is.
May I tell a story? It’s long. I should probably get permission and write a blog post about it someday.
Many years ago, a friend told us how she met her husband. The story went like this.
A retired military officer, her father was a teacher at a Christian college. R and her siblings were teenagers when the younger sister, 16, seemed to change. She suddenly was fixated on her clothing, make up, figure and once she could drive would visit people at the dorms at night. I’m not sure how out of control she was.
Several young men approached her father and warned him that they were concerned about her behavior.
Her mother began to pray that God would work in her heart, “no matter what he had to do.”
The girl continued to sneak out at night. One night, she caught a ride home from a guy who raped her. She didn’t tell anyone. She became pregnant.
The family went into counseling and through the course of it, Mom never once said a negative word about what had happened–because she saw it as an answer to prayer.
Meanwhile, they discovered that two young men from the college who lived in their basement, were practicing witchcraft. The Christian counselor explained that when Satan’s minions enter your household, they seek out the most vulnerable. In this case, it was the youngest teenage daughter.
In the 1960s and 1970s, when a teenage girl became pregnant out of wedlock, she was typically sent away. In this case, the family found military friends in Maryland who would take her in. Her mom went with her for the last few months of the pregnancy.
R went to visit and attended church services. She was there one weekend, but she met a great guy. They corresponded, they fell in love, they got married six months later.
Sister had her baby, who was adopted out. Family went home. Sister recommitted her life to Christ and ultimately married a terrific guy and had five children. They are pillars in their church.
That baby was adopted to a family who lived ten miles from R’s parents, in a state far from her birth. They saw her often growing up–she looks just like her birth mother.
I can’t begin to list all the good things for the kingdom of God that have from R’s marriage.
We don’t really ask ourselves this question, but sometimes you have to wonder. Doesn’t this sound just like the result of “you meant it for evil, but God used it for good?”
There are worse things than having a baby out of wedlock. Particularly if that “crisis” takes you back to the God who loves you, and will forgive you, no matter what you do or how long it takes.
I have a last name and I have a street. I took a look at him on FB. The other mother and I took the kids to get something to eat after I was finished with the open house and they were done on the beach. They were teasing her about the guy and she clammed shut. If she is so proud of him she can bring him home to meet us. We will have a cook out and everything. We just want to get to know him.
I really am exhausted from the last few hours, but wanted to let you all know that things came to a head tonight with BG and her dad. I received a text from her, I called her dad and told him he needed to take the keys to her car away from her. I then went over to their house. The three of us sat in her bedroom for a long time talking. I pointed out that her dad and I were sitting side by side and she was facing us—two against one Baby Girl, we love you but this is the way it is.. . She cried, George cried, Nana cried, We all hugged. There will be some changes coming up, but she is not going to play her mother and father against each other.
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Talked to Nana this morning and told her the plans I have set in place. G, BG, and I will have a family meeting Saturday. I am going for a tough love/scared straight approach. As often happens there is a boy involved and the more I am finding out the less I am liking him.—not that I have met him. I am on the trail of his last name and where he lives.
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I’m praying for both of you KIm.
Some mistakes don’t matter in the long run.
some mistakes are irreversible.
Those are the ones that matter.
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And the results of some mistakes are blessings in disguise, although with harsh or sad consequences involved.
You may have guessed I’m referring to the conception & birth of my little grandson. Sometimes I have started to say that I wish Emily had never gotten involved with R, but then I realize that that would wish my little guy away.
I do wish his birth had been under better circumstances, & it is sad that he will pay (& already is paying to an extent) the price for his parents’ mistakes. But I believe God allowed him to be conceived for a purpose. May God have His way in Forrest & his parents, & may God have His way in BG & her parents.
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Amen, Karen. Good for you, Kim. Keep on fighting for what is best for BG as long as you can. No matter how things end up, you will know you did your best. Lots of prayers being said for you and BG. And Karen’s loved ones, too.
Our friend Kim and her parents will be going to her surgery consultation today. Surgery will be next week. We know she is in God’s hands and pray for much glory to Him. We pray for healing and peace, too. Jesus welcomed all prayers for healing. He is the perfect representation of the Father. Of course, we pray for the Father’s best for Kim and all the others.
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Karen, good perspective. God’s hand is always there, unseen by us at the time but often understood (and appreciated as being in his perfect will, bringing glory to him and good to his people) with the passing of a few years.
Still, I would not want to be that boy that Kim is on the hunt for. 😉
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Doing some better today. I’m finding that talking seems to make things worse. So I’ll have to type instead 🙂
Karen, well said. I have been reflecting recently on all the children in Genesis who shouldn’t have been born, yet, whether in that story or later on, God shows how he used that birth for good, e.g. Lot’s son from his daughter, Moab – nothing good seemed to come of that until the Moabitess Ruth shows up to become the great grandmother of David; or Pharez, son of Judah from his daughter-in-law, who also was an ancestor of Christ.
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We just do not know, so we must hold it all lightly. Sometimes hitting bottom is what some of us need to grow up–or at least go in hunt of our Savior. Prayers, of course.
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Michelle- I agree, but as moms we don’t want our chicks – even grown up ones – to have to hit bottom, do we? I pray “Whatever it takes” for my daughters & grandson to be saved, but I know that “whatever it takes” could be painful for all of us. Let’s hope it’s not, but be prepared for if it is.
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It took me hitting bottom, so I do pray that folks come to the end of themselves and find Him.
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May I tell a story? It’s long. I should probably get permission and write a blog post about it someday.
Many years ago, a friend told us how she met her husband. The story went like this.
A retired military officer, her father was a teacher at a Christian college. R and her siblings were teenagers when the younger sister, 16, seemed to change. She suddenly was fixated on her clothing, make up, figure and once she could drive would visit people at the dorms at night. I’m not sure how out of control she was.
Several young men approached her father and warned him that they were concerned about her behavior.
Her mother began to pray that God would work in her heart, “no matter what he had to do.”
The girl continued to sneak out at night. One night, she caught a ride home from a guy who raped her. She didn’t tell anyone. She became pregnant.
The family went into counseling and through the course of it, Mom never once said a negative word about what had happened–because she saw it as an answer to prayer.
Meanwhile, they discovered that two young men from the college who lived in their basement, were practicing witchcraft. The Christian counselor explained that when Satan’s minions enter your household, they seek out the most vulnerable. In this case, it was the youngest teenage daughter.
In the 1960s and 1970s, when a teenage girl became pregnant out of wedlock, she was typically sent away. In this case, the family found military friends in Maryland who would take her in. Her mom went with her for the last few months of the pregnancy.
R went to visit and attended church services. She was there one weekend, but she met a great guy. They corresponded, they fell in love, they got married six months later.
Sister had her baby, who was adopted out. Family went home. Sister recommitted her life to Christ and ultimately married a terrific guy and had five children. They are pillars in their church.
That baby was adopted to a family who lived ten miles from R’s parents, in a state far from her birth. They saw her often growing up–she looks just like her birth mother.
I can’t begin to list all the good things for the kingdom of God that have from R’s marriage.
We don’t really ask ourselves this question, but sometimes you have to wonder. Doesn’t this sound just like the result of “you meant it for evil, but God used it for good?”
There are worse things than having a baby out of wedlock. Particularly if that “crisis” takes you back to the God who loves you, and will forgive you, no matter what you do or how long it takes.
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I have a last name and I have a street. I took a look at him on FB. The other mother and I took the kids to get something to eat after I was finished with the open house and they were done on the beach. They were teasing her about the guy and she clammed shut. If she is so proud of him she can bring him home to meet us. We will have a cook out and everything. We just want to get to know him.
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I really am exhausted from the last few hours, but wanted to let you all know that things came to a head tonight with BG and her dad. I received a text from her, I called her dad and told him he needed to take the keys to her car away from her. I then went over to their house. The three of us sat in her bedroom for a long time talking. I pointed out that her dad and I were sitting side by side and she was facing us—two against one Baby Girl, we love you but this is the way it is.. . She cried, George cried, Nana cried, We all hugged. There will be some changes coming up, but she is not going to play her mother and father against each other.
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Crying now and taking the difficult, but right, action is so much better than crying later and trying to pick up the pieces. Way to go, Kim.
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Amen, Michelle.
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she is not going to play her mother and father against each other.
That is the key. Keep to that
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