It has been a while since I have asked all of you to pray for my Baby Girl. I know a lot of you keep her on your prayer list regularly and I covet those prayer.
She is going through a difficult time at school right now. I have asked her father about us homeschooling her for her senior year, but he is not a fan of that. She has failed to get a proper education because she decided she was stupid and quit applying herself. It was a battle I fought daily when she was with me. He father’s people come from good farming and newpaper/printing stock. His father made a good living owning a printing company. They just don’t apply the same value to an education that my parents instilled in me. One of the things my father did for her was pay for her college education before she was a month old.
I have come around in my way of thinking. Ex Sister In Law and Nephew both make a VERY good living being hair stylist. A young man (23) works with me who dropped out of college and is making a very good start to a career in real estate. I have given up the dream of BG going to college right out of high school. As a matter of fact it would be a total waste of money to send her to college right now or even in a year.
I just need prayer to get her graduated from HIGH SCHOOL!!!!! Seniorits has hit her in her Junior year! She truly believes that she is stupid. I don’t know how to change that. Right now she has a 19 average in Geometry. I told her father I think I could do better than that right now!
Sad to hear, Kim, that both her father and school officials failed to do something more for your daughter. I am not sure what you can do when someone insists on failing. It is easy to let things slide, but not helpful for the student. I do wonder when/where she came up with the idea that she is stupid. Too often, students let test scores put them in a box that is not at all indicative of success. All the natural ‘intelligence’ in the world will not help someone who does not add the determination, study skills and discipline necessary. OTOH, someone who seems to have a lot less in the way of IQ can go on to do absolutely astounding things.
You are wise in realizing the foolishness of her attending college with her current attitude. That is one of the problems of earmarking money for college. It is not always the best thing for the child in the long run.
I do pray for you and her. Hopefully, you and she will look back one day and laugh together about the foolishness of youth.
My best friend’s youngest daughter was diagnosed as having a mild learning disability growing up and school (they went through the Catholic school system) was always hard for her, she lacked a lot of confidence.
But since graduating high school, she’s found her niche in teaching preschool & being a nanny, she’s wonderful with small children and seems to have settled into that work which she really enjoys. She’s also beautiful, tall and blonde, and has a nice steady boyfriend. 🙂
College isn’t for everyone. I wish the schools would focus more again on vocational tracks. I think it was with my generation, more or less, that college somehow became the desired “norm” for everyone.
And plumbers, welders & longshoremen make a lot more money than probably any of us. 🙂
On the other hand, I was a so-so student in high school, I was a pretty average, Cs and Bs, but when I signed up for community college I found I loved it. Suddenly, learning was so exciting for me, it was not like being in high school at all. I wound up on the Dean’s List with straight As most years after I’d transferred to a 4-year state school. Loved college, which I hadn’t even planned to ever attend (it wasn’t the norm in my family).
So you never know, a lot can change for young people and their outlook in 1-2 years.
Kim – Emily was a homeschool dropout (which is highly embarrassing to me, as I see it as my failure). She worked a few jobs before settling on the idea to go to school to be an LPN. That is just the first rung on the ladder she wants to climb. After that, she wants to eventually become an RN, & her ultimate dream is to be a nurse-midwife, or at least a nurse-lactation consultant. She is applying herself to studying & learning, & loving it.
But she was almost 25 before she began LPN school. So don’t give up hope on Chloe’s future. She may even stumble into a “temporary” job that she ends up loving, or leads to something else she loves. Just keep loving & encouraging her. You’re both in my prayers.
Speaking of Emily…Her heart is aching over some trouble (whether real or perceived, she’s not sure) in her relationship with A, her sort-of-long-distance (2 & 1/2 to 3 hours away) boyfriend. They were supposed to get together today, but he never gave her an answer about it.
She is now on a hike with Forrest. I am praying that as her heart aches, the Holy Spirit will prompt her to cry out to God, & she will find Him there. (Yes, I have mentioned this same kind of prayer before in another situation which had her quite upset.)
I don’t much care for Oprah Winfrey these days, but many ears ago she had Maya Angelou on her afternoon program. One of them said, “If you listen closely, people will tell you who they are”.
Until this confusion over whether or not they were getting together today, A has seemed very stable & decent. He has treated Emily very well, & she hasn’t seen any red flags to be concerned about. And yes, she has been looking for those red flags with a magnifying glass, as she doesn’t want to get involved with another narcissist or any other kind of manipulator or general bad guy.
Since leaving R, Emily has done a lot of reading about narcissists, & combative, controlling, & manipulative personalities. As she & A have written & texted each other, she has parsed his words, looking for anything that might be questionable.
For now, she has decided to not be the first one to text, to let him reach out to her if he so chooses. Then she will see if he is really still interested in her or not.
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It has been a while since I have asked all of you to pray for my Baby Girl. I know a lot of you keep her on your prayer list regularly and I covet those prayer.
She is going through a difficult time at school right now. I have asked her father about us homeschooling her for her senior year, but he is not a fan of that. She has failed to get a proper education because she decided she was stupid and quit applying herself. It was a battle I fought daily when she was with me. He father’s people come from good farming and newpaper/printing stock. His father made a good living owning a printing company. They just don’t apply the same value to an education that my parents instilled in me. One of the things my father did for her was pay for her college education before she was a month old.
I have come around in my way of thinking. Ex Sister In Law and Nephew both make a VERY good living being hair stylist. A young man (23) works with me who dropped out of college and is making a very good start to a career in real estate. I have given up the dream of BG going to college right out of high school. As a matter of fact it would be a total waste of money to send her to college right now or even in a year.
I just need prayer to get her graduated from HIGH SCHOOL!!!!! Seniorits has hit her in her Junior year! She truly believes that she is stupid. I don’t know how to change that. Right now she has a 19 average in Geometry. I told her father I think I could do better than that right now!
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Sad to hear, Kim, that both her father and school officials failed to do something more for your daughter. I am not sure what you can do when someone insists on failing. It is easy to let things slide, but not helpful for the student. I do wonder when/where she came up with the idea that she is stupid. Too often, students let test scores put them in a box that is not at all indicative of success. All the natural ‘intelligence’ in the world will not help someone who does not add the determination, study skills and discipline necessary. OTOH, someone who seems to have a lot less in the way of IQ can go on to do absolutely astounding things.
You are wise in realizing the foolishness of her attending college with her current attitude. That is one of the problems of earmarking money for college. It is not always the best thing for the child in the long run.
I do pray for you and her. Hopefully, you and she will look back one day and laugh together about the foolishness of youth.
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My best friend’s youngest daughter was diagnosed as having a mild learning disability growing up and school (they went through the Catholic school system) was always hard for her, she lacked a lot of confidence.
But since graduating high school, she’s found her niche in teaching preschool & being a nanny, she’s wonderful with small children and seems to have settled into that work which she really enjoys. She’s also beautiful, tall and blonde, and has a nice steady boyfriend. 🙂
College isn’t for everyone. I wish the schools would focus more again on vocational tracks. I think it was with my generation, more or less, that college somehow became the desired “norm” for everyone.
And plumbers, welders & longshoremen make a lot more money than probably any of us. 🙂
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On the other hand, I was a so-so student in high school, I was a pretty average, Cs and Bs, but when I signed up for community college I found I loved it. Suddenly, learning was so exciting for me, it was not like being in high school at all. I wound up on the Dean’s List with straight As most years after I’d transferred to a 4-year state school. Loved college, which I hadn’t even planned to ever attend (it wasn’t the norm in my family).
So you never know, a lot can change for young people and their outlook in 1-2 years.
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Kim – Emily was a homeschool dropout (which is highly embarrassing to me, as I see it as my failure). She worked a few jobs before settling on the idea to go to school to be an LPN. That is just the first rung on the ladder she wants to climb. After that, she wants to eventually become an RN, & her ultimate dream is to be a nurse-midwife, or at least a nurse-lactation consultant. She is applying herself to studying & learning, & loving it.
But she was almost 25 before she began LPN school. So don’t give up hope on Chloe’s future. She may even stumble into a “temporary” job that she ends up loving, or leads to something else she loves. Just keep loving & encouraging her. You’re both in my prayers.
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Speaking of Emily…Her heart is aching over some trouble (whether real or perceived, she’s not sure) in her relationship with A, her sort-of-long-distance (2 & 1/2 to 3 hours away) boyfriend. They were supposed to get together today, but he never gave her an answer about it.
She is now on a hike with Forrest. I am praying that as her heart aches, the Holy Spirit will prompt her to cry out to God, & she will find Him there. (Yes, I have mentioned this same kind of prayer before in another situation which had her quite upset.)
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You don’t want to get involved in guys you can’t rely on.
Nor one you can’t trust.
Those two cancel out every positive element there is.
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I don’t much care for Oprah Winfrey these days, but many ears ago she had Maya Angelou on her afternoon program. One of them said, “If you listen closely, people will tell you who they are”.
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Until this confusion over whether or not they were getting together today, A has seemed very stable & decent. He has treated Emily very well, & she hasn’t seen any red flags to be concerned about. And yes, she has been looking for those red flags with a magnifying glass, as she doesn’t want to get involved with another narcissist or any other kind of manipulator or general bad guy.
Since leaving R, Emily has done a lot of reading about narcissists, & combative, controlling, & manipulative personalities. As she & A have written & texted each other, she has parsed his words, looking for anything that might be questionable.
For now, she has decided to not be the first one to text, to let him reach out to her if he so chooses. Then she will see if he is really still interested in her or not.
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