Thanks for praying for us. I have to make a decision. A neighbor, who has been very supportive both emotionally and with driving and having the children over, told Mike and I the other day that she was glad he was leaving as it would give her life some value. We suspected she was going to attempt a take over. And that appears to be the situation. She has always told us how wonderful the children are and how great they are doing (everybody tells us this) but she then proceeds to tell the children how wrong we are in so many ways (everybody tells them that as well). Which is not such a big deal from a distance but she came over in tears the other day as I was not calling on her enough to drive the children. For her, I made an effort to do better. The children are obviously suffering from the undermining that goes on when she takes them places and I am frustrated that she does not allow them to do the chores I assign them. (they were to get themselves to the sheriff dept to check on their licenses, not a difficult thing in our town and definitely not for such talkative children) but she insisted she needed to help them do it. Rather than drop them off for school yesterday, leaving them to go to track and then shoot some baskets for an hour before the pizza party and medals program they were attending, she felt she needed to make three trips to town for them. She constantly is living paycheck to paycheck and I will hear about it. So…I need to come up with a tactful way to tell her she is not needed to such an extent as she would like. I am trying to raise adults here! Anyway, prayer for my attitude, wisdom on what to say and what not to say, and willingness to accept help when needed. Thanks. I don’t need girl drama on top of all this.
I really am not a whiner or a selfish brat. My stepmother has always been very good to me. Last night she came by to visit on her way home. She has been working on a family trust. She has needed information from me about my dad and I have provided it. The trust is almost complete. I have told her that if it takes every dime she has to take care of her in her later years that she worked hard for that money. I truly believe that. Just like my quip that “being of sound mind my father spent his money”.
Last night was the first time she kept talking about what she was setting up to leave her children and it really sounded like she was excluding me. It really hurt my feelings but I am in a position where I can’t ask her if she is excluding me because I truly am not a greedy, grabby person.
1. Please pray for my dear, hard-working husband. His discouragement is getting deeper, & he’s having more – & lower – times of feeling very down. The past couple nights he’s been commenting that he’s a failure, & has seemed quite depressed. And, of course, he’s exhausted, which is exacerbating (maybe even causing) all this. (I’m hoping he’ll be able to sleep better when Emily & Forrest are finally upstairs, & that that will help his mood.)
As you know from previous requests, I’m praying for God to bring some other opportunity or option for him, that will give him some relief in hours worked & stress/pressure, & that will comfortably meet our needs. But I am also praying that in the meantime, God would bring some kind of breakthrough &/or encouragement to Lee’s spirit, to help him deal with the current situation with peace in his heart.
2. Someone I know often does something that is illegal. Please pray that this person will be caught in this sin, & arrested. (Please trust me that I’m not being cruel or petty in asking this.)
Karen, they did not have their licenses yet. The tester found out he was out of paperwork so had to order it up from Boise. He tested them and then we waited. He turned it in with the sheriff dept, I sent the children in to get it but it turns out they have to have a parental signature. i plan to go in this afternoon and then they should be good to go. Mike left with the plan they would be driving themselves but glitches happen.
Mumsee, that sounds like quite a bit of drama. I just don’t understand people who tell kids their parents are wrong. If parents are seriously abusing their kids and you have to tell them, “You don’t deserve them; they are the ones who are doing wrong,” that’s one thing, or if the kid is 25 and you see him on the path to his parents’ destructive choices, then speak up. But if you disagree with a parent’s choices, tell the parents privately, not the children!
Kim, hopefully she will rethink that and realize you are one of her children too! Such things can be so tricky, though. Several in my family have married after the spouses’ children are already grown, and in most or all cases they’ve kept inheritances separate. But in cases where the stepparent helped rear the child, I don’t see why a distinction would be made between children by birth and stepchildren. But regardless of her choice in this, she does love you.
I meant “You don’t deserve that,” as in, “No, you don’t deserve to be abused.” But you’d better not say anything of the sort unless you’re truly dealing with abused children, such as kids who’ve been put into foster care but who think they are the cause of the abuse.
Mumsee, praying for you. May the children get their licenses soon. As you know your family comes first and she is not your responsibility. She needs to find another outlet.
I am very hurt and discouraged. My child hates my husband and thinks I have chosen him over her which is something I swore I would never do. My mother chose bourbon over me. He doesn’t careuch for her. Ex husband is complaining that the last five times he has been here husband hasn’t spoken to him. I want to run away from home.
The light of this day is diappearing quickly. How fast the days fly from dawn to dusk. Some days bring good news and other days make us feel trampled upon. You are with us either way. You do not leave us with no where to look in gratitude for blessings received or in suffering for comfort. Your everlasting presence is such a benefit we often take for granted. Thank You for Your faithfulness.
Lord, I do pray for resolution for Mumsee’s situation with the overbearing and undermining neighbor. Some people are just that way always looking for a power grab and chance to control when they get an inkling of vulnerability. Lord, give Mumsee the diplomacy and wisdom to straighten the situation out in the best way. You know what that way is. Please guide her through the expressions to firmly get the message through without total alienation of the neighbor. Bless Mike as he adjusts to all that he is encountering in his new work and home away from home environment. I ask that You would sweeten the lives of all in the Nest family in each of their abodes.
Lord, You know the sufferings of Karen’s family. Please help each member as You see all their needs. Enrich Karen with patience to see her through these emotionally painful days. Please keep Lee looking up even as his body is feeling down. Give him rest by sharing the burdens of his load with Jesus. Help him to ask Jesus for help. May he feel Jesus slip the weight off his shoulders when he enters their home. I pray for Emily to do well in school. Help her to find solutions for Forrest’s needs as he aadvances toward school age. Make known to her all the good options. Please help Chrissy as she is testing her wings. Help her to be learning ways to cope with life and to see what works and what doesn’t. May she soon recognize that You are the giver of good homes. Draw her heart to you, please.
I pray also for 6 Arrows daughter who grieves over her cat that died. It seems like such difficult timing with exams coming up and also her move. Comfort her. Give her good results on her exams. Please make her have an easy move in. Thank You for the faithful care You give her and all the others mentioned today.
Thank Yoh for Michelle’s major accomplishment and the joys in research that she encountered along the way. May she go forward with the next phase of getting published with an optimistic outlook even if it is a slow process. I pray You will give her good rest after she has worked so hard.
I include a prayer for Kim also. She is in one of those suffering times when people she loves pull at her heart in the most painful of ways. No matter what we do here on this earth we are always encountering the consequences of the original fall and the sin that has so infiltrated this world. When hurts run so deep like this, You give Yourself for us to grasp onto for You are all holy, righteous and good. The way You are is what we long for here on earth. You are perfect love. Our personal relationships, even at best, are no where near as good as what You had in mind when You made people. Help Kim to look to You.when there seem to be no resolutions. You have ways above our ways to reconcile imperfect people affected by the sin that seems to have free reign in this world. Ease her hurt this evening. Lift her above the fray. May she act with Your love toward each of the stormy hearts until the clouds pass away and reveal sunshine.
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Thanks for praying for us. I have to make a decision. A neighbor, who has been very supportive both emotionally and with driving and having the children over, told Mike and I the other day that she was glad he was leaving as it would give her life some value. We suspected she was going to attempt a take over. And that appears to be the situation. She has always told us how wonderful the children are and how great they are doing (everybody tells us this) but she then proceeds to tell the children how wrong we are in so many ways (everybody tells them that as well). Which is not such a big deal from a distance but she came over in tears the other day as I was not calling on her enough to drive the children. For her, I made an effort to do better. The children are obviously suffering from the undermining that goes on when she takes them places and I am frustrated that she does not allow them to do the chores I assign them. (they were to get themselves to the sheriff dept to check on their licenses, not a difficult thing in our town and definitely not for such talkative children) but she insisted she needed to help them do it. Rather than drop them off for school yesterday, leaving them to go to track and then shoot some baskets for an hour before the pizza party and medals program they were attending, she felt she needed to make three trips to town for them. She constantly is living paycheck to paycheck and I will hear about it. So…I need to come up with a tactful way to tell her she is not needed to such an extent as she would like. I am trying to raise adults here! Anyway, prayer for my attitude, wisdom on what to say and what not to say, and willingness to accept help when needed. Thanks. I don’t need girl drama on top of all this.
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I really am not a whiner or a selfish brat. My stepmother has always been very good to me. Last night she came by to visit on her way home. She has been working on a family trust. She has needed information from me about my dad and I have provided it. The trust is almost complete. I have told her that if it takes every dime she has to take care of her in her later years that she worked hard for that money. I truly believe that. Just like my quip that “being of sound mind my father spent his money”.
Last night was the first time she kept talking about what she was setting up to leave her children and it really sounded like she was excluding me. It really hurt my feelings but I am in a position where I can’t ask her if she is excluding me because I truly am not a greedy, grabby person.
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Then Mumsee puts it all in perspective.
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Mumsee – Could you tell her that the new drivers need more experience, so they will be doing the driving from now on? Is that feasible?
Kim – Plan on not receiving anything, & try to make peace with that. Then, if you do receive something, it will be a pleasant surprise.
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Two prayer requests:
1. Please pray for my dear, hard-working husband. His discouragement is getting deeper, & he’s having more – & lower – times of feeling very down. The past couple nights he’s been commenting that he’s a failure, & has seemed quite depressed. And, of course, he’s exhausted, which is exacerbating (maybe even causing) all this. (I’m hoping he’ll be able to sleep better when Emily & Forrest are finally upstairs, & that that will help his mood.)
As you know from previous requests, I’m praying for God to bring some other opportunity or option for him, that will give him some relief in hours worked & stress/pressure, & that will comfortably meet our needs. But I am also praying that in the meantime, God would bring some kind of breakthrough &/or encouragement to Lee’s spirit, to help him deal with the current situation with peace in his heart.
2. Someone I know often does something that is illegal. Please pray that this person will be caught in this sin, & arrested. (Please trust me that I’m not being cruel or petty in asking this.)
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Karen, they did not have their licenses yet. The tester found out he was out of paperwork so had to order it up from Boise. He tested them and then we waited. He turned it in with the sheriff dept, I sent the children in to get it but it turns out they have to have a parental signature. i plan to go in this afternoon and then they should be good to go. Mike left with the plan they would be driving themselves but glitches happen.
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Mumsee, that sounds like quite a bit of drama. I just don’t understand people who tell kids their parents are wrong. If parents are seriously abusing their kids and you have to tell them, “You don’t deserve them; they are the ones who are doing wrong,” that’s one thing, or if the kid is 25 and you see him on the path to his parents’ destructive choices, then speak up. But if you disagree with a parent’s choices, tell the parents privately, not the children!
Kim, hopefully she will rethink that and realize you are one of her children too! Such things can be so tricky, though. Several in my family have married after the spouses’ children are already grown, and in most or all cases they’ve kept inheritances separate. But in cases where the stepparent helped rear the child, I don’t see why a distinction would be made between children by birth and stepchildren. But regardless of her choice in this, she does love you.
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I meant “You don’t deserve that,” as in, “No, you don’t deserve to be abused.” But you’d better not say anything of the sort unless you’re truly dealing with abused children, such as kids who’ve been put into foster care but who think they are the cause of the abuse.
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It is almost exactly what happened to us last summer.
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Mumsee, praying for you. May the children get their licenses soon. As you know your family comes first and she is not your responsibility. She needs to find another outlet.
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I am very hurt and discouraged. My child hates my husband and thinks I have chosen him over her which is something I swore I would never do. My mother chose bourbon over me. He doesn’t careuch for her. Ex husband is complaining that the last five times he has been here husband hasn’t spoken to him. I want to run away from home.
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Heavenly Father,
The light of this day is diappearing quickly. How fast the days fly from dawn to dusk. Some days bring good news and other days make us feel trampled upon. You are with us either way. You do not leave us with no where to look in gratitude for blessings received or in suffering for comfort. Your everlasting presence is such a benefit we often take for granted. Thank You for Your faithfulness.
Lord, I do pray for resolution for Mumsee’s situation with the overbearing and undermining neighbor. Some people are just that way always looking for a power grab and chance to control when they get an inkling of vulnerability. Lord, give Mumsee the diplomacy and wisdom to straighten the situation out in the best way. You know what that way is. Please guide her through the expressions to firmly get the message through without total alienation of the neighbor. Bless Mike as he adjusts to all that he is encountering in his new work and home away from home environment. I ask that You would sweeten the lives of all in the Nest family in each of their abodes.
Lord, You know the sufferings of Karen’s family. Please help each member as You see all their needs. Enrich Karen with patience to see her through these emotionally painful days. Please keep Lee looking up even as his body is feeling down. Give him rest by sharing the burdens of his load with Jesus. Help him to ask Jesus for help. May he feel Jesus slip the weight off his shoulders when he enters their home. I pray for Emily to do well in school. Help her to find solutions for Forrest’s needs as he aadvances toward school age. Make known to her all the good options. Please help Chrissy as she is testing her wings. Help her to be learning ways to cope with life and to see what works and what doesn’t. May she soon recognize that You are the giver of good homes. Draw her heart to you, please.
I pray also for 6 Arrows daughter who grieves over her cat that died. It seems like such difficult timing with exams coming up and also her move. Comfort her. Give her good results on her exams. Please make her have an easy move in. Thank You for the faithful care You give her and all the others mentioned today.
Thank Yoh for Michelle’s major accomplishment and the joys in research that she encountered along the way. May she go forward with the next phase of getting published with an optimistic outlook even if it is a slow process. I pray You will give her good rest after she has worked so hard.
In Jesus’name, Amen
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Oh and husband doesn’t care much for either.
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Heavenly Father,
I include a prayer for Kim also. She is in one of those suffering times when people she loves pull at her heart in the most painful of ways. No matter what we do here on this earth we are always encountering the consequences of the original fall and the sin that has so infiltrated this world. When hurts run so deep like this, You give Yourself for us to grasp onto for You are all holy, righteous and good. The way You are is what we long for here on earth. You are perfect love. Our personal relationships, even at best, are no where near as good as what You had in mind when You made people. Help Kim to look to You.when there seem to be no resolutions. You have ways above our ways to reconcile imperfect people affected by the sin that seems to have free reign in this world. Ease her hurt this evening. Lift her above the fray. May she act with Your love toward each of the stormy hearts until the clouds pass away and reveal sunshine.
In Jesus’name, Amen
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Amen
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