¹Help, Lord; for the godly man ceaseth; for the faithful fail from among the children of men.
2 They speak vanity every one with his neighbour: with flattering lips and with a double heart do they speak.
3 The Lord shall cut off all flattering lips, and the tongue that speaketh proud things:
4 Who have said, With our tongue will we prevail; our lips are our own: who is lord over us?
5 For the oppression of the poor, for the sighing of the needy, now will I arise, saith the Lord; I will set him in safety from him that puffeth at him.
6 The words of the Lord are pure words: as silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times.
7 Thou shalt keep them, O Lord, thou shalt preserve them from this generation for ever.
8 The wicked walk on every side, when the vilest men are exalted.
Continued prayer, please, for sixteen year old at the youth challenge. The weeding out process is over and school starts on Monday. I got a call from the school a few days ago telling me he is doing very well, showing potential leadership. I got a letter from him yesterday saying he got in trouble for having a blade. That is an expellable offense. I hope he did not do something stupid. it is possible his blade was made of paper or anything else, he is quite creative. Thanks.
Praying for your loved one Mumsee….I recall receiving calls concerning antics of our daughter when we sent her away…the director’s tenacious love and devotion towards the girls was comforting to us….I pray those ministering to your son have the eyes and heart to see through and break through as our Lord leads them…
I mentioned a couple-few days ago that when Emily starts her part-time LPN program in March, I will be babysitting Forrest more hours than I currently do. The schedule is Mondays & Wednesdays, 5pm – 10pm, & Saturdays, 8am – 3:30pm, as well as continuing to help Lee out on his route, one or two mornings a week.
I’m not too concerned about babysitting Forrest those two evenings, but I am concerned about those long Saturdays. (I hate to admit that I’m almost dreading it.)
I think her commute (plus parking & getting to the classroom) will be about 45 minutes, which will make my babysitting day about 9 hours long. Yikes! I know I’ll have Chrissy around to help, but, due to her Asperger’s tendencies, she has little patience with the frustrations that come with taking care of a three year old boy, especially for long periods of time. (And yet, at times, she can be wonderful with him.) Often, Chrissy acts more like Forrest’s sister. Kind of funny, in a way.
It would be ideal if Saturday could be R’s day to have Forrest.
(Thanks be to God that R is no longer insisting on having Forrest spend one night a week at his place, which Forrest hated. He now has him for about five hours one afternoon a week, which is so much better for the little guy. Yeah, five whole hours one day a week, no other contact during the week, pays no child support, but considers himself a good father.)
Unfortunately, R’s current job (only part-time) often includes Saturdays. And even if he didn’t work Saturdays, our experience has been that the handful of times when we have actually needed him to take Forrest for a few hours (& he wasn’t working), he refused, claiming he had important errands to run that couldn’t include his son, even when I was sick.
I’m hoping that maybe M (R’s mom) can step up to the plate & take Forrest for at least a couple hours each Saturday. But she has some emotional problems that keep her from being able to deal with Forrest (or much of anything) when she’s going through a spell of feeling overwhelmed. She often goes a couple weeks or more without seeing him (& they live right here in Stafford).
I love my little guy more than words can ever say. But I often wish there could be someone else in his life who could be relied upon.
Please pray that either M or R, or a combination of the both of them, will step up & consistently help out on Saturdays. Also, please pray for my heart to submit to & accept this new schedule/routine in my life, with peace. Thank you.
Karen, Forrest is 3. Does a local church offer a Mom’s Day Out program. He could go for a few hours and play with others his age and then come home. I wouldn’t count on relying on R or M. When they do offer to help, graciously accept it, but don’t count on it
Kim – Not that I know of. And R is so anti-Christian/anti-religion that he would make a horrible fuss about it if there was something like that. (Emily probably wouldn’t be thrilled with the idea, either.)
I regret saying that I am almost dreading it. That’s a little too harsh for what I’m really feeling. I know that I will adjust, that I need to get creative about how to spend those hours with him. I know I can make it work out, but I also know it won’t be easy, so some help would be appreciated.
It’s just another big change to my life (& I’ll have to be getting up early on those Saturdays, too!). The older I get, the harder it is to adapt to these changes.
I agree, Kim, about graciously accepting any help I might get from them, but not expecting it.
I googled preschool play groups in your area. It brought up Meetup.com. There are several groups. Maybe other grandmother’s are looking for things to do with their grandchildren. Perhaps meet up in a park to play. Contact the Red Cross. They offer baby sitting classes. Perhaps one of the freshly minted babysitters would like to try out their skills with your supervision. I used to pay the 12 year old across the street to come play with BG for an hour three afternoons a week. It gave me a minute to catch my breath and start dinner. When I needed a real baby sitter I already trusted her. There are lots of thing we can think of between now and when you start keeping him for Emily to go to school.
Maybe instead a a Mommy and Me play group you could start a Mimi and Me group
Ha ha, Kim. This introvert thinks babysitting Forrest alone all day is less stressful than a play group. 🙂 Plus, I don’t drive. (Hopefully, we’ll have Chrissy driving before too long.)
The older he gets, the easier it should be to watch him, Karen. Lots of ideas on Pinterist or other sites online for ideas. Personally, I would prefer he didn’t have those people watching him from the little I have heard. The more stable the routine should help, too. And frankly, if you are watching him in YOUR home, you have a right to be yourself and teach him the values you have. His parents do not have all the say of anything, if they are relying on YOU.
Of course, you consider the best thing for your grandson and are considerate of his parents. They also need to do the same. They will not, if they don’t feel they have to do so. You must set the tone. That is difficult at this stage, but never too late. You should be able to be relaxed and yourself in your own home. Neither a three year old or a young women should be dictating to you.
Sorry, if I am too frank. I will continue to keep you all in my prayers. God alone knows what is best for all of you. I will pray for that for you. He is a darling child.
We had a report about the guy named Joe that was in the snow machine accident in December. He was in a coma for about a month. A couple of weeks ago, he came out of it. Since then he has apparently made great progress, that was called miraculous. He is going home on Tuesday. He will have some therapy still needed and has some memory issues. Far less than could have been. The person who gave the report was even more thrilled at the spiritual growth of Joe and his girlfriend. God, does indeed, work in mysterious ways.
Thanks, Kathaleena. And yes, he is a darling child, such a sweet boy. He is definitely more easy to watch now than when he was one or two.
Since R is his father, he has the right to have time with Forrest each week. It would be great if that time could be on Saturdays, but I’m not counting on that at all. M may have some emotional issues, but she loves Forrest & he loves her. And she has chickens at her house! 🙂
I know, Karen, about R’s rights. That may not make it right for Forrest. God only knows. I hate when children are used as weapons. Thanks be to God for his grace in our lives and the children’s!
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Continued prayer, please, for sixteen year old at the youth challenge. The weeding out process is over and school starts on Monday. I got a call from the school a few days ago telling me he is doing very well, showing potential leadership. I got a letter from him yesterday saying he got in trouble for having a blade. That is an expellable offense. I hope he did not do something stupid. it is possible his blade was made of paper or anything else, he is quite creative. Thanks.
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Praying for your loved one Mumsee….I recall receiving calls concerning antics of our daughter when we sent her away…the director’s tenacious love and devotion towards the girls was comforting to us….I pray those ministering to your son have the eyes and heart to see through and break through as our Lord leads them…
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I mentioned a couple-few days ago that when Emily starts her part-time LPN program in March, I will be babysitting Forrest more hours than I currently do. The schedule is Mondays & Wednesdays, 5pm – 10pm, & Saturdays, 8am – 3:30pm, as well as continuing to help Lee out on his route, one or two mornings a week.
I’m not too concerned about babysitting Forrest those two evenings, but I am concerned about those long Saturdays. (I hate to admit that I’m almost dreading it.)
I think her commute (plus parking & getting to the classroom) will be about 45 minutes, which will make my babysitting day about 9 hours long. Yikes! I know I’ll have Chrissy around to help, but, due to her Asperger’s tendencies, she has little patience with the frustrations that come with taking care of a three year old boy, especially for long periods of time. (And yet, at times, she can be wonderful with him.) Often, Chrissy acts more like Forrest’s sister. Kind of funny, in a way.
It would be ideal if Saturday could be R’s day to have Forrest.
(Thanks be to God that R is no longer insisting on having Forrest spend one night a week at his place, which Forrest hated. He now has him for about five hours one afternoon a week, which is so much better for the little guy. Yeah, five whole hours one day a week, no other contact during the week, pays no child support, but considers himself a good father.)
Unfortunately, R’s current job (only part-time) often includes Saturdays. And even if he didn’t work Saturdays, our experience has been that the handful of times when we have actually needed him to take Forrest for a few hours (& he wasn’t working), he refused, claiming he had important errands to run that couldn’t include his son, even when I was sick.
I’m hoping that maybe M (R’s mom) can step up to the plate & take Forrest for at least a couple hours each Saturday. But she has some emotional problems that keep her from being able to deal with Forrest (or much of anything) when she’s going through a spell of feeling overwhelmed. She often goes a couple weeks or more without seeing him (& they live right here in Stafford).
I love my little guy more than words can ever say. But I often wish there could be someone else in his life who could be relied upon.
Please pray that either M or R, or a combination of the both of them, will step up & consistently help out on Saturdays. Also, please pray for my heart to submit to & accept this new schedule/routine in my life, with peace. Thank you.
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Karen, Forrest is 3. Does a local church offer a Mom’s Day Out program. He could go for a few hours and play with others his age and then come home. I wouldn’t count on relying on R or M. When they do offer to help, graciously accept it, but don’t count on it
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Thank you for rain in Northern CA. Could we have more, please?
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Kim – Not that I know of. And R is so anti-Christian/anti-religion that he would make a horrible fuss about it if there was something like that. (Emily probably wouldn’t be thrilled with the idea, either.)
I regret saying that I am almost dreading it. That’s a little too harsh for what I’m really feeling. I know that I will adjust, that I need to get creative about how to spend those hours with him. I know I can make it work out, but I also know it won’t be easy, so some help would be appreciated.
It’s just another big change to my life (& I’ll have to be getting up early on those Saturdays, too!). The older I get, the harder it is to adapt to these changes.
I agree, Kim, about graciously accepting any help I might get from them, but not expecting it.
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I googled preschool play groups in your area. It brought up Meetup.com. There are several groups. Maybe other grandmother’s are looking for things to do with their grandchildren. Perhaps meet up in a park to play. Contact the Red Cross. They offer baby sitting classes. Perhaps one of the freshly minted babysitters would like to try out their skills with your supervision. I used to pay the 12 year old across the street to come play with BG for an hour three afternoons a week. It gave me a minute to catch my breath and start dinner. When I needed a real baby sitter I already trusted her. There are lots of thing we can think of between now and when you start keeping him for Emily to go to school.
Maybe instead a a Mommy and Me play group you could start a Mimi and Me group
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Ha ha, Kim. This introvert thinks babysitting Forrest alone all day is less stressful than a play group. 🙂 Plus, I don’t drive. (Hopefully, we’ll have Chrissy driving before too long.)
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The older he gets, the easier it should be to watch him, Karen. Lots of ideas on Pinterist or other sites online for ideas. Personally, I would prefer he didn’t have those people watching him from the little I have heard. The more stable the routine should help, too. And frankly, if you are watching him in YOUR home, you have a right to be yourself and teach him the values you have. His parents do not have all the say of anything, if they are relying on YOU.
Of course, you consider the best thing for your grandson and are considerate of his parents. They also need to do the same. They will not, if they don’t feel they have to do so. You must set the tone. That is difficult at this stage, but never too late. You should be able to be relaxed and yourself in your own home. Neither a three year old or a young women should be dictating to you.
Sorry, if I am too frank. I will continue to keep you all in my prayers. God alone knows what is best for all of you. I will pray for that for you. He is a darling child.
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We had a report about the guy named Joe that was in the snow machine accident in December. He was in a coma for about a month. A couple of weeks ago, he came out of it. Since then he has apparently made great progress, that was called miraculous. He is going home on Tuesday. He will have some therapy still needed and has some memory issues. Far less than could have been. The person who gave the report was even more thrilled at the spiritual growth of Joe and his girlfriend. God, does indeed, work in mysterious ways.
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Thanks, Kathaleena. And yes, he is a darling child, such a sweet boy. He is definitely more easy to watch now than when he was one or two.
Since R is his father, he has the right to have time with Forrest each week. It would be great if that time could be on Saturdays, but I’m not counting on that at all. M may have some emotional issues, but she loves Forrest & he loves her. And she has chickens at her house! 🙂
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Wonderful news about Joe. Praise God!
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I know, Karen, about R’s rights. That may not make it right for Forrest. God only knows. I hate when children are used as weapons. Thanks be to God for his grace in our lives and the children’s!
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