Good morning everyone.
Elvera is in a bad way.
I appreciate your concern and prayers. I really do.
There’s nothing I can do. I’m waiting for a nurse,but don’t know when she will arrive.
Good night. We are cleared to come out of quarantine, but it doesn’t end until midnight tomorrow. I was so hoping to get out of here tomorrow.
God is good.
In Philippians 1:23,Paul is not saying that someday he will be resurrected and enter Heaven.
He is saying that he will soon be with Christ. That is NOW.
That means: When a person is born again, that person does, in fact, receive a new life that doesn’t die.
That refutes a belief some denominations have that a person can be born again and lose his salvation.
My dad, according to his belief, was lost and saved about three time. My mother only twice. She went back to church in 1952 and stayed.
My dad got angry with God when my little brother was killed. But came back after about 40 years.
Love you you and Elvera, Chas. May God wrap you both in the comfort He knows you each need at this time. His storehouses are full of things we have no knowledge of that He uses for provision to see people through difficult times. May His peace attend to your curiosity about unanswered questions.
It’s all about saving lives and getting our lives back to some kind of “normal”
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The vaccine news continues to be better than many people realize.
Infections aren’t what matters
The news about the vaccines continues to be excellent — and the public discussion of it continues to be more negative than the facts warrant.
Here’s the key fact: All five vaccines with public results have eliminated Covid-19 deaths. They have also drastically reduced hospitalizations. “They’re all good trial results,” Caitlin Rivers, an epidemiologist at Johns Hopkins University, told me. “It’s great news.”
Many people are instead focusing on relatively minor differences among the vaccine results and wrongly assuming that those differences mean that some vaccines won’t prevent serious illnesses. It’s still too early to be sure, because a few of the vaccine makers have released only a small amount of data. But the available data is very encouraging — including about the vaccines’ effect on the virus’s variants.
“The vaccines are poised to deliver what people so desperately want: an end, however protracted, to this pandemic,” as Julia Marcus of Harvard Medical School recently wrote in The Atlantic.
Why is the public understanding more negative than it should be? Much of the confusion revolves around the meaning of the word “effective.”
What do we care about?
In the official language of research science, a vaccine is typically considered effective only if it prevents people from coming down with any degree of illness. With a disease that’s always or usually horrible, like ebola or rabies, that definition is also the most meaningful one.
But it’s not the most meaningful definition for most coronavirus infections.
Whether you realize it or not, you have almost certainly had a coronavirus. Coronaviruses have been circulating for decades if not centuries, and they’re often mild. The common cold can be a coronavirus. The world isn’t going to eliminate coronaviruses — or this particular one, known as SARS-CoV-2 — anytime soon.
Yet we don’t need to eliminate it for life to return to normal. We instead need to downgrade it from a deadly pandemic to a normal virus. Once that happens, adults can go back to work, and children back to school. Grandparents can nuzzle their grandchildren, and you can meet your friends at a restaurant.
As Dr. Ashish Jha, the dean of the Brown University School of Public Health, told me this weekend: “I don’t actually care about infections. I care about hospitalizations and deaths and long-term complications.”
The data
By those measures, all five of the vaccines — from Pfizer, Moderna, AstraZeneca, Novavax and Johnson & Johnson — look extremely good. Of the roughly 75,000 people who have received one of the five in a research trial, not a single person has died from Covid, and only a few people appear to have been hospitalized. None have remained hospitalized 28 days after receiving a shot. …
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We are signed up to get the vaccines. I could make an appointment, but my husband hasn’t been able to yet. I did talk to our clinic today to see if we can make appointments together. She said they have no idea what they are doing, since they just had this all dumped on them on Friday. As it stands, I will wait to see if they contact him before the end of the week before I make an appointment for just me. She suggested we make appointments for both doses at once, since she is having trouble getting the second one in for those who have had the first. Who knows if they will even do that? It was so much easier when we were vaccinated for Swine Flu years ago. We just showed up and got in line. The cases in our huge (geographically) county have gone way down, so that is a plus.
False data continues to circulate about the shots. My husband and I were talking to his mother by phone the other day, and she said, “Twenty thousand people have died from the Covid shot.” He and I just looked at each other stunned. How do you even counter something so obviously false? What do you say to someone who believes such obviously unreliable sources?
He finally said a mild, “Well, millions have died from the virus” and changed the subject. (I’ve already sicced our nurse daughter on her grandmother, but I don’t know if they’ve talked about it. Mom is 84, in very good health but at “high risk” from the virus simply because of her age, but she’s more afraid of the shot than of the virus!)
I think the vaccines are great for what they were made to do, be done with COVID-19. But we all know how quickly they were put together with a very promising short term gain. But you know the cliche, short term gain, long term pain. We and everyone who gets it worldwide are guinea pigs for the long term results. IMHO
Janice, it’s a risk/benefit calculation. I think the answer is clear in this case and I’m grateful for the medical advances we’ve achieved. But others certainly are free to decide otherwise.
Thanks for the prayers and well wishes everyone.
This has been a rough morning.
No. it doesn’t look good.
DIL, LindaS has never seen me cry before today.
It looks bad.
But she is 89 years old. It happens to all of us.
But it isn’t easy. The nurse says she is comfortable now.
Chas – I wish I could give you a hug and comfort you. My heart goes out to you, and my prayers go up to God. May He comfort you and grant you peace during this incredibly difficult time.
I made sure to thank the worker who administered my shot yesterday for all the effort and work they’ve been putting in during what’s been an overwhelming and logistically difficult rollout.
Re: the Covid vaccine – From what I have read (also from a Christian scientific source), the knowledge of how to make this vaccine did not have to come from scratch, but built on already existing knowledge and technology, which is how it could come about so quickly. IIRC, the tests were done on double the number of test subjects as usual.
Feeling sad with you, Chas. She has an appointment with Jesus that she can’t be late for no matter how much people here hope she will linger here a little longer. Praising God that we are all passing through in this strange world. We are all along our/His way to our home in heaven.
We feel your pain and sense of impending loss. We know it’s not easy and weep for you. But take heart, we have hope too. Hope for something better for Elvera for sure, and us eventually as well. God is good.
Well, all the consents are signed. Now it is a matter of waiting for surgeries to be opened up again. Right now, due to the continuing crisis, not inpatient surgeries are being booked. Liked the surgeon, and felt I could trust her.
Chas Paul and I are right alongside everyone here in prayer covering you. Thankful Elvera is comfortable but knowing the pang deep within your heart…asking the Lord to carry you through this part of the journey as I know He will. We are thankful you know Him so well and know of the hope of Glory…we love you…
That’s what we’re having for dinner tonight. Nightingale had made and frozen it a while back, so it makes an easy, but still homemade, dinner to pull out of the freezer, thaw, and heat up.
There were lots of people around from time-to-time, and they were lots of help.
But everyone is gone now. Just her and me.
She is in her bed right next to mine and everything is as normal as it will ever be again.
Thanks for your prayers everyone.
As I was pondering this afternoon, I thought and was thankful about how blessed we have been for 63 years.
It’s over now, but not for long.
One of the things I pondered this afternoon is “the other side”. I know there is no marriage,or such, but I hope we know each other.
Chas, how old were you two when you married? Was that before or during or after your military service? I was trying to remember the timeline (though maybe I never knew it?) How long was the engagement?
My parents married after WWII — my dad served in the Navy, my mom was a “rosie the riveter’ here in LA — but they both were from Iowa. They’d independently moved out here, my mom with a roommate to Long Beach (where I later lived, to her delight), my dad up in LA (I found a photo of his residence, it was a spanish-style house he rented).
Anyway, they actually only met when they were both back in Iowa visiting their families and one of the things they had in common was they both really wanted to live in California (since they’d both experienced it as singles already).
So they got married — at a Presbyterian manse in Minnesota, right over the border from IA, in I think 1948 — and settled in CA where my dad had started an electronics biz on Melrose in Hollywood which is where we lived when I was born in 1951 and spent my “little” years.
I was dedicated at the Baptist church on Selma in Hollywood, went to SS there as a small child. I vaguely remember the trolly cars — we moved a few times and lived in the Fairfax district which was mostly orthodox Jewish. My parents, pure Midwesterners, were clueless, could not figure out why finding a Christmas tree to buy for their first Christmas was so hard …
I went into the AF in August 2, 1849. Got out in 1952 to go to US. Carolina. Good thing I did because I was a S/Sgt radio operator. Single sideband was created and they didn’t need radio operators since 1956.
I saw Elvera the first time in February, 1955 when she joined FBC Columbia. We dated the first time in October. Kissed the first time under the mistletoe. Forgot the date.
We were married in 1957 a week after I graduated from USC. We owned an 8×35 house trailer and took it to Fort Worth, then to Spartanburg, SC, then to Fairfax, Va.
An 8×35 house trailer is similar to a camp trailer. Except nicer. Did you have to make certain everything was secured or did Elvera handle that for you?
So mid 20s was kind of late back then? My parents said they got started late for their time period, following WWII. My mom was 30 when she had me. My dad would have been a few years older than she was.
DJ – My MIL Mary and FIL (who died way before I ever met Hubby) were married in 1954 at ages 33 and 36 respectively, which was considered late for the time period. Mary was 34 when she had Hubby, and that was considered old for a first-time mother. She was 40 years older than me, and only eight years younger than my mom’s mom. If she were still alive, she would be turning 100 this April.
My mom died on Jan. 25, 1990, so the 31st ‘anniversary’ was a few days ago. Unexpected, so it was hard.
My dad’s death 20 years earlier was after a 3-year illness.
I’ve concluded that sudden passings are best for those passing, hardest on those left behind; longer, approaching deaths due to illness, though so difficult in their own way of course, can be somewhat easier on family as we have time to process it all before it happens.
Kizzie, when my parents married (1952), Dad was 35 (Mom eight years younger). They had their first child less than a year later (9 1/2 months), but it was more than 17 years between oldest and youngest. So even though my husband is several years older than me, my dad was old enough to be his (my husband’s) parents’ father. Then again, my mom’s father would have been 103 when his youngest grandson was born, if he had lived that long, and if any more grandchildren are born in my family, add another 50+ years for the next generation.
And I have a relative who is eight years older than his father-in-law.
So sorry for your pending los, Chas, but rejoicing that Elvera will step into a place where there are no sorrows or tears. And she’ll have a new body without all the problems of this one.
As for marrying late, my in-laws were 26 and 24 when they wed. My older brother was 37 and his bride 31. They then had 4 children in a little over 5 years. He’ll be 70 next week. My, how time flies.
My parents were married 17 years when mom died. Dad remarried 9 years later. If he makes it to March he and his 2nd bride will celebrate 48 years together.
Good early morning! It has been windy and will get worse. I hear another blast revving up. I am remembering an album of songs my parents had and this line in particular, “In the pines, in the pines, where the sun never shines, and we shiver when the cold wind blows.” So thankful for a warm house.
Lots of questions I’ll try to answer later.
I got into bed with her about two this morning. It didn’t work so I got up after about half an hour and went back to our bed.
Did I tell you before that we slept tangled up together?
I usually had an arm over her,and our legs with each other. But It didn’t work and I went back to my bed.
Wandering Views 
Good morning everyone.
Elvera is in a bad way.
I appreciate your concern and prayers. I really do.
There’s nothing I can do. I’m waiting for a nurse,but don’t know when she will arrive.
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Good morning. Praying Chas. God is there.
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Morning, Chas. Praying for you. love you both.
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Good night. We are cleared to come out of quarantine, but it doesn’t end until midnight tomorrow. I was so hoping to get out of here tomorrow.
God is good.
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Always.
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In Philippians 1:23,Paul is not saying that someday he will be resurrected and enter Heaven.
He is saying that he will soon be with Christ. That is NOW.
That means: When a person is born again, that person does, in fact, receive a new life that doesn’t die.
That refutes a belief some denominations have that a person can be born again and lose his salvation.
My dad, according to his belief, was lost and saved about three time. My mother only twice. She went back to church in 1952 and stayed.
My dad got angry with God when my little brother was killed. But came back after about 40 years.
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Praying for you and your family Chas.
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Good morning, Chas. You do have our prayers and our love.
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Love you you and Elvera, Chas. May God wrap you both in the comfort He knows you each need at this time. His storehouses are full of things we have no knowledge of that He uses for provision to see people through difficult times. May His peace attend to your curiosity about unanswered questions.
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Morning! Covering you and TSWITW in prayer this day and everyday Chas.. 💕
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I’m glad you have each other and your belief Chas. May you be wrapped in peace. Love
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BTW. Mr P is home.
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Yay, Kim!!!♡♡♡♡♡
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Praying Chas.
Glad Mr. P is home.
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From the NYT:
It’s all about saving lives and getting our lives back to some kind of “normal”
_________________________
The vaccine news continues to be better than many people realize.
Infections aren’t what matters
The news about the vaccines continues to be excellent — and the public discussion of it continues to be more negative than the facts warrant.
Here’s the key fact: All five vaccines with public results have eliminated Covid-19 deaths. They have also drastically reduced hospitalizations. “They’re all good trial results,” Caitlin Rivers, an epidemiologist at Johns Hopkins University, told me. “It’s great news.”
Many people are instead focusing on relatively minor differences among the vaccine results and wrongly assuming that those differences mean that some vaccines won’t prevent serious illnesses. It’s still too early to be sure, because a few of the vaccine makers have released only a small amount of data. But the available data is very encouraging — including about the vaccines’ effect on the virus’s variants.
“The vaccines are poised to deliver what people so desperately want: an end, however protracted, to this pandemic,” as Julia Marcus of Harvard Medical School recently wrote in The Atlantic.
Why is the public understanding more negative than it should be? Much of the confusion revolves around the meaning of the word “effective.”
What do we care about?
In the official language of research science, a vaccine is typically considered effective only if it prevents people from coming down with any degree of illness. With a disease that’s always or usually horrible, like ebola or rabies, that definition is also the most meaningful one.
But it’s not the most meaningful definition for most coronavirus infections.
Whether you realize it or not, you have almost certainly had a coronavirus. Coronaviruses have been circulating for decades if not centuries, and they’re often mild. The common cold can be a coronavirus. The world isn’t going to eliminate coronaviruses — or this particular one, known as SARS-CoV-2 — anytime soon.
Yet we don’t need to eliminate it for life to return to normal. We instead need to downgrade it from a deadly pandemic to a normal virus. Once that happens, adults can go back to work, and children back to school. Grandparents can nuzzle their grandchildren, and you can meet your friends at a restaurant.
As Dr. Ashish Jha, the dean of the Brown University School of Public Health, told me this weekend: “I don’t actually care about infections. I care about hospitalizations and deaths and long-term complications.”
The data
By those measures, all five of the vaccines — from Pfizer, Moderna, AstraZeneca, Novavax and Johnson & Johnson — look extremely good. Of the roughly 75,000 people who have received one of the five in a research trial, not a single person has died from Covid, and only a few people appear to have been hospitalized. None have remained hospitalized 28 days after receiving a shot. …
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Waiting for my appointment with the surgeon.
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We are signed up to get the vaccines. I could make an appointment, but my husband hasn’t been able to yet. I did talk to our clinic today to see if we can make appointments together. She said they have no idea what they are doing, since they just had this all dumped on them on Friday. As it stands, I will wait to see if they contact him before the end of the week before I make an appointment for just me. She suggested we make appointments for both doses at once, since she is having trouble getting the second one in for those who have had the first. Who knows if they will even do that? It was so much easier when we were vaccinated for Swine Flu years ago. We just showed up and got in line. The cases in our huge (geographically) county have gone way down, so that is a plus.
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When I was (finally) able to get through on our county website to make the appt. they set me up also with the 2nd dose appointment three weeks later.
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Praying, roscuro, hoping you get all your questions answered and a clear path forward so you can get it all behind you.
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False data continues to circulate about the shots. My husband and I were talking to his mother by phone the other day, and she said, “Twenty thousand people have died from the Covid shot.” He and I just looked at each other stunned. How do you even counter something so obviously false? What do you say to someone who believes such obviously unreliable sources?
He finally said a mild, “Well, millions have died from the virus” and changed the subject. (I’ve already sicced our nurse daughter on her grandmother, but I don’t know if they’ve talked about it. Mom is 84, in very good health but at “high risk” from the virus simply because of her age, but she’s more afraid of the shot than of the virus!)
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I think the vaccines are great for what they were made to do, be done with COVID-19. But we all know how quickly they were put together with a very promising short term gain. But you know the cliche, short term gain, long term pain. We and everyone who gets it worldwide are guinea pigs for the long term results. IMHO
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Cheryl, your husband is a diplomat!
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20,000! Oh my! Panic button hit.
Cheryl, agree, it’s so discouraging right now. There’s so much horrible, misinformation spreading.
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Janice, it’s a risk/benefit calculation. I think the answer is clear in this case and I’m grateful for the medical advances we’ve achieved. But others certainly are free to decide otherwise.
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Makes me think of another cliche, something about looking a gift horse in the mouth?
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My EMT still has not received her second vaccination–although she is giving vaccinations.
FEMA is now asking them to go to one of the bigger sites.
She thinks they may get the second dose next week–two weeks late.
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Thanks for the prayers and well wishes everyone.
This has been a rough morning.
No. it doesn’t look good.
DIL, LindaS has never seen me cry before today.
It looks bad.
But she is 89 years old. It happens to all of us.
But it isn’t easy. The nurse says she is comfortable now.
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I just deleted–twice–two posts on the vaccination subject because I’ve already confessed “feeding bitterness” in the last 24 hours.
Fortunately, I can confess it again.
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Oh Chas, we love you
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Chas – I wish I could give you a hug and comfort you. My heart goes out to you, and my prayers go up to God. May He comfort you and grant you peace during this incredibly difficult time.
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I made sure to thank the worker who administered my shot yesterday for all the effort and work they’ve been putting in during what’s been an overwhelming and logistically difficult rollout.
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Re: the Covid vaccine – From what I have read (also from a Christian scientific source), the knowledge of how to make this vaccine did not have to come from scratch, but built on already existing knowledge and technology, which is how it could come about so quickly. IIRC, the tests were done on double the number of test subjects as usual.
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Feeling sad with you, Chas. She has an appointment with Jesus that she can’t be late for no matter how much people here hope she will linger here a little longer. Praising God that we are all passing through in this strange world. We are all along our/His way to our home in heaven.
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Oh Chas. Goodbyes are so hard. Tears are good. They mean we love and have been loved. May God ease your pain.
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Chas. Praying that He takes her to Himself quickly now. And you can finish your goodbyes and cry. Death is awful. But then….God.
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Chas,
We feel your pain and sense of impending loss. We know it’s not easy and weep for you. But take heart, we have hope too. Hope for something better for Elvera for sure, and us eventually as well. God is good.
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Good news Kim.
How’s he feeling?
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We’re getting buried. Probably 16+ already, and the forecast is now 21-24.
It’s been falling at 1 to 3 inches an hour for the last 4 hours. Yay. 😦
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Praying for Chas.
Well, all the consents are signed. Now it is a matter of waiting for surgeries to be opened up again. Right now, due to the continuing crisis, not inpatient surgeries are being booked. Liked the surgeon, and felt I could trust her.
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Roscuro, I’m glad you’ve gotten that far, and glad you trust the surgeon.
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Praying for you Chas and Elvera. And we’re right behind you.
Debra
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Chas Paul and I are right alongside everyone here in prayer covering you. Thankful Elvera is comfortable but knowing the pang deep within your heart…asking the Lord to carry you through this part of the journey as I know He will. We are thankful you know Him so well and know of the hope of Glory…we love you…
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Do you pronounce the final “e” in “minestrone”? I’ve heard it pronounced both ways.
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That’s what we’re having for dinner tonight. Nightingale had made and frozen it a while back, so it makes an easy, but still homemade, dinner to pull out of the freezer, thaw, and heat up.
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And now she is making cauliflower bread from scratch to go with the soup. 😀
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And salad.
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Dinner.
I played with our new Christmas present, the Insta Pot Duo.
https://temeculablogs.com/instant-pot-hawaiian-chicken/
I added matchstick carrots which cooked perfectly as well.
Who doesn’t like dinner that takes 10 minutes to prep and 15 to cook?
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There were lots of people around from time-to-time, and they were lots of help.
But everyone is gone now. Just her and me.
She is in her bed right next to mine and everything is as normal as it will ever be again.
Thanks for your prayers everyone.
As I was pondering this afternoon, I thought and was thankful about how blessed we have been for 63 years.
It’s over now, but not for long.
One of the things I pondered this afternoon is “the other side”. I know there is no marriage,or such, but I hope we know each other.
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Chas, I hope so. And all those missteps will be set aside and forgiven and laughed at.
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Chas, how old were you two when you married? Was that before or during or after your military service? I was trying to remember the timeline (though maybe I never knew it?) How long was the engagement?
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My parents married after WWII — my dad served in the Navy, my mom was a “rosie the riveter’ here in LA — but they both were from Iowa. They’d independently moved out here, my mom with a roommate to Long Beach (where I later lived, to her delight), my dad up in LA (I found a photo of his residence, it was a spanish-style house he rented).
Anyway, they actually only met when they were both back in Iowa visiting their families and one of the things they had in common was they both really wanted to live in California (since they’d both experienced it as singles already).
So they got married — at a Presbyterian manse in Minnesota, right over the border from IA, in I think 1948 — and settled in CA where my dad had started an electronics biz on Melrose in Hollywood which is where we lived when I was born in 1951 and spent my “little” years.
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I was dedicated at the Baptist church on Selma in Hollywood, went to SS there as a small child. I vaguely remember the trolly cars — we moved a few times and lived in the Fairfax district which was mostly orthodox Jewish. My parents, pure Midwesterners, were clueless, could not figure out why finding a Christmas tree to buy for their first Christmas was so hard …
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https://www.fbchollywood.com
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I went into the AF in August 2, 1849. Got out in 1952 to go to US. Carolina. Good thing I did because I was a S/Sgt radio operator. Single sideband was created and they didn’t need radio operators since 1956.
I saw Elvera the first time in February, 1955 when she joined FBC Columbia. We dated the first time in October. Kissed the first time under the mistletoe. Forgot the date.
We were married in 1957 a week after I graduated from USC. We owned an 8×35 house trailer and took it to Fort Worth, then to Spartanburg, SC, then to Fairfax, Va.
Anything else?
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Forgot to answer the question. I was 26 (actually, we married in June, I turned 27 in August.)
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Was your first child born in 1956?
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Did she type your papers for you at USC?
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An 8×35 house trailer is similar to a camp trailer. Except nicer. Did you have to make certain everything was secured or did Elvera handle that for you?
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fifty seven. A very good number. Good for you and good for me and a couple other people.
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You pronounce the E. 🙂
#Siciliandaughter
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It’s been a beautiful love story to experience through your words. You have given all of us the chance to love her too.
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So mid 20s was kind of late back then? My parents said they got started late for their time period, following WWII. My mom was 30 when she had me. My dad would have been a few years older than she was.
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Although, since you went into the Air Force in 1849 (see your 8:58) I guess it really was “late” in life to marry.
lol
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You were like really old. Twilight Zone old.
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I bet that was Michelle who replied to my question, as I figured she would. I suspected the e was pronounced, but wasn’t completely sure.
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DJ – My MIL Mary and FIL (who died way before I ever met Hubby) were married in 1954 at ages 33 and 36 respectively, which was considered late for the time period. Mary was 34 when she had Hubby, and that was considered old for a first-time mother. She was 40 years older than me, and only eight years younger than my mom’s mom. If she were still alive, she would be turning 100 this April.
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My mom died on Jan. 25, 1990, so the 31st ‘anniversary’ was a few days ago. Unexpected, so it was hard.
My dad’s death 20 years earlier was after a 3-year illness.
I’ve concluded that sudden passings are best for those passing, hardest on those left behind; longer, approaching deaths due to illness, though so difficult in their own way of course, can be somewhat easier on family as we have time to process it all before it happens.
But strange, it’s always still a shock.
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There’s no “preparing” for it, not really.
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Kizzie, when my parents married (1952), Dad was 35 (Mom eight years younger). They had their first child less than a year later (9 1/2 months), but it was more than 17 years between oldest and youngest. So even though my husband is several years older than me, my dad was old enough to be his (my husband’s) parents’ father. Then again, my mom’s father would have been 103 when his youngest grandson was born, if he had lived that long, and if any more grandchildren are born in my family, add another 50+ years for the next generation.
And I have a relative who is eight years older than his father-in-law.
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So sorry for your pending los, Chas, but rejoicing that Elvera will step into a place where there are no sorrows or tears. And she’ll have a new body without all the problems of this one.
As for marrying late, my in-laws were 26 and 24 when they wed. My older brother was 37 and his bride 31. They then had 4 children in a little over 5 years. He’ll be 70 next week. My, how time flies.
My parents were married 17 years when mom died. Dad remarried 9 years later. If he makes it to March he and his 2nd bride will celebrate 48 years together.
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Good early morning! It has been windy and will get worse. I hear another blast revving up. I am remembering an album of songs my parents had and this line in particular, “In the pines, in the pines, where the sun never shines, and we shiver when the cold wind blows.” So thankful for a warm house.
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rainy and windy here, too.
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Lots of questions I’ll try to answer later.
I got into bed with her about two this morning. It didn’t work so I got up after about half an hour and went back to our bed.
Did I tell you before that we slept tangled up together?
I usually had an arm over her,and our legs with each other. But It didn’t work and I went back to my bed.
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